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#1 of 4 Old 05-31-2006, 03:16 PM - Thread Starter
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HEllo evryone!! I need to hear some communal living experiences. My boyfriend and I are planning a move to VT. I have two children, 7 and 5, who are not his. There, we plan to build an addition onto an already existing, mostly, house- the inside walls still have to be put up...insulation is hanging out... not very safe considering we heat it with 2 wood stoves. Anyways, my only problem is, I guess I should really say, problems...are...there's no well, we do have a nearby spring though. . There's no septic yet, but we could use a composting toilet, or something of the sort...and the biggest, the house is lived in by an older couple, who are very close freinds of his...and mine to be??...but that's just it, I have a hard time being cool with the idea of living with another very "strong" women. Is that being a control freak? I just want to be the woman of our house.
SEe, my boyfriend is really in a rush to get there. He carries the philosophy, he wants to live it while he works it...and by building the addition we'de only have one house to heat, one septic, etc....I completely understand, but I'm just not sure what I'm willing to compromise on...any helpful words....I'm confused
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The first idea that came to mind is to live in an RV or travel trailer while the home is made more safe, especially for your children...maybe you could borrow one from somebody? I think I would rather camp in a tent on the property than live in a place that I have worries about. It is summer so maybe that would work.

The composting toilet is a good idea too.

Sometimes women who are "strong" are great (my two best friends are).....sometimes they are reall not "strong", but mean. Anyway, if it does not work out you don't have to stay there forever....and maybe it will work out perfect!

I really hope that it works out for you....also, don't feel pressured to do anything that goes against your gut/maternal instinct...(you seem very apprehensive in your post.)


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thanks, and he actually already does have a very small camper there, which the girls and I could always stay in, or even retreat to if needed...he doesn't like the idea of an RV or even our own little cabin, cause he thinks that's crazy when there's already a house there , a big house, with the stove and sink area all set up. I just don't think he gets my old fashioned need to be the women of the house...and even that bothers me, but I am willing to try, and hopefully grow from it.
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As mama to your kids, you just need to listen to what your gut tells you. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
Good luck, mama. Hope it goes well.
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