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#1 of 4 Old 05-31-2006, 06:50 PM - Thread Starter
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It's always been tempting to me and recently even dh agrees it looks good!

My basic feeling is that it's got to be easier to live with a bunch of people who have common goals and values. Everything from raising babies to growing food seems more attractive to me in a commune setting. I did visit one close to us and it seemed pretty cool. However, we just bought a house a few years ago and I can't imagine giving that up..

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I don't know much about communes, but I always envision naked people gardening while smoking weed

I know not all communes are this way. Heck, maybe none of them are. It's just a stereotype I have in my mind!

So no, no experiences here!

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I lived in a commune for two years. It was an intentional community dedicated to the awakening of consciousness.
It was The Lama Foundation. It started in the late 60s and had about 300 people. A few weeks into the process, the founders decided "No Drugs" and their numbers went down to about 5 people. It has grown from there but still the numbers are small. Usually there are about 15 residnts living there year-around and then in the summer when retreats happen it gets more like 40.
Actually the woman who founded it lives in Batesville, VA.

Anyhow, my experince was wonderful. I actually think Lama spends too much time with each other and that can be as bad in a community as too little time together. It seems like there was always so much more work to do and the place really turned people into work-a-holics if that was their tendency.
What I though was so great is the support we all had for each other. We spent some good time having mediators and communication specialists come to teach us and work with us. They followed the concensus process which comes from the Quakers and it was really cool to learn about.

Once we left, I was really excited to have my own kitchen and bathroom. I was glad to not have to get up to a bell ringing early in the morning. I felt good not having so much of a schedule.

Anyhow, I could go on and on, but I'll stop here.
Good luck with your decision.
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OK well, sorry to say I have not lived in one, but I have been doing some reading about different ones in my area lately. The idea is appealing to me because I grew up having a house full of people all the time and dh grew up with a big family and it's just the 3 of us and I feel so isolated all the time even though we have good friends. I just feel like I wasn't made for this life where people make plans with you a month ahead of time and everything is so scheduled and everyone is so busy. I'm more into being around people all the time and having them in and out of your house and watching each others kids and all of that. I just always feel out of place because I feel like I want to know my neighbors, talk out in the yard, and eat at each other's houses if we happen to be around each other at dinner time.
Maybe it has to do with us living in the city, but still the intentional community thing appeals to me a great deal.

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