Nux can ABSOLUTELY be used by women and has been used often by this one! IT is predominantly male...but so is the mux kind of anger and aggression. Doesnt' mean women can't have it.
Others that are excellent anger type remedies are staphysagria, lachesis, pulsatilla, nitric acid, rhus tox, medorrhinum etc.
I would also encourage you to explore flower essences. They are a wee bit more user friendly.
I dont' necessarily believe in the whole "right remedy will fix you" philosophy. The right remedy for right now will do a world of good though.
Do you feel comfortable talking more about your anger? How and when it manifests? There are keys to each remedy....maybe we can track down something to get you to a better place!
Oh, and if it's at all hormone related you can also think about magnesium and iodine. HTH!
to you chkpea and milliegirl
Beyond that HOW do you get angry? What do you do? What does if feel like and what makes it better? Does it seem to be more extreme right before you begin bleeding?
Like for me it all builds and then yelling makes it better. I am very biting with my words (which is also a very snapdragon thing!) and at my worst when I'm hungry. I also feel much better as soon as I start bleeding. That's a pretty clear picture for a specific remedy.
My sister on the other hand yells and screams but NOT at the people that bug her....with them she smiles and nods and then comes home and starts slamming things and flipping out. She can never publicly be angry and refuses to talk about it when she is. She shuts down completely, but throws things. That's a totally different picture.
FWIW iodine would help in both situations, but the first picture in terms of a remedy is lachesis and the second is staphysagria.
I'd say do your best to start identifying things. That's how you narrow it down.
Also for future reference a company that makes really high quality flower essences is www.pegasusproducts.com I can't say enough good things about them, there is a real integrity in their products.
Do you have any other symptoms of candida overgrowth? Hypoglycemia, sugar cravings, gas, bloating etc? That can also contribute to irritability and dietary changes can be a HUGE help. There are other supplements that can help too.
I have never had problems with anger until the last couple years (I have a 17mo and a 4yo). I yell, sometimes throw things. I would never do it infront of anyone else, but my kids do see it I feel awful. I'm like great happy mama half the time and trying-to-harbor-rage other times. I hate it. If the house is a mess it makes me anxious. I am best when I am organized and write out the days plan (meals, activities, to do) but I can't seem to pull it together and stay on plan and do everything I should. I freaked tonight, I wanted to break things and scream, I just yelled a little. I feel like I need counceling or something but we can't afford it. Above all things, I hate that I can't control my emotions. What can I do to help myself?
I am overweight too. I can't seem to stick to a "diet" I eat decent food, but overeat.
I don't know if I'm depressed. Lately I feel like I might be, but I assume one would know if they were depressed??
Anyway, I'm going to look into homeopathics to help me,
Panserbjørne, thanks for all the suggestions, I am going to order some snapdragon
Happily married, Waldorf-inspired homeschooler to Kylan (9yo), Everest (6yo), Bodhi (2yo), and a baby due in Oct 2015!
Flower essences are more gentle and have a very broad range of action. There is really no potential to aggravate (as there is with homeopathy) and you don't have to mess with potencies.
There are hundreds upon hundreds to choose from. You can look at descriptions and select them yourself or do a consult with someone. You can also use intuitive selection which can be a really powerful way to get into them. Due to the doctrine of signatures we are often drawn to what we need. So, you can actually look at pictures of the flowers and more often than not what really appeals to you will be the things that will help.
It is truly astonishing how fast they work. I have given myself migraines from episodes of anger. Homeopathy helps, but at this point I just go for the flowers. They are faster and take the blinding headaches away FAST. I use cherry plum, holly and calendula for those. Cherry plum is for loss of control (that freight train feeling of once you start you can't stop.) Holly is for rage and burning anger (it also addresses jealousy) and calendula is very helpful for me with those biting, cutting words. Snapdragon can do this as well.
Anyway here's a few sites that have pictures to check out:
anyway, take a peek and see what resonates with you.
It sounds like holly may be a good choice, but I'd look at chicory as well. It's excellent for kiddos that tend to dominate the family with their needs. You can see what you think. I'd also throw in some Star of Bethlehem (to break old patterns) and walnut (for transitioning into new patterns.) You might think about willow as well for your reaction to her behavior.
You can administer orally, topically and environmentally. I tend to go an intuitive route WRT dosage. With kiddos, I often let them decide their dosage schedule. They are pretty tuned in and I think it's empowering to allow them to take some control. There is no danger of overdosing which is why it's the perfect modality for kids.
Thanks so much for your help! I'll give it a try.
Just to throw it out there again there are literally HUNDREDS of different flower essences out there. I'd maybe sit with her and go through the links above and see what stands out to her.
Working with only the english essences has certain...limitations. While they do work quite well, they don't address *everything* and you may be helped by broadening the field, so to speak.
Does she seem in control when she's angry, or more wild? Are her actions deliberate or do you feel that it's a different kid in front of you when this happens? For the "spinning out of control" rages I like to combine holly with cherry plum. Together they do a good job.
I was told that anger is a sign of iron deficiency, so I take blackstrap molasses (which is a significant source of iron, calcium, and potassium) just about every day - a big spoon full.
May God bless you and His Blessed Mother Mary keep you! :-)
I gave up sugar, and TA DA, no more anger. Well, I was really angry for the first three months, and then I wasn't anymore. Good luck!