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#31 of 33 Old 05-21-2010, 08:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Talula Fairie View Post
I don't think that an obsession with physical activity is always healthy. It certainly wasn't for me and I'm still paying the physical price from the years of abuse to my body.
Maybe I could have worded it a bit differently. No, it isnt healthy per say, but compared to the alternative, it is the lesser of two evils. I too am paying for it physically and I am only 25. Also when I had injury's due to over exertion, or playing too rough, I was devastated that I could not participate. Like I said, compared to the current behavior, especially if she gets to the point to were she IS getting sexually active, it is alot healthier option. The long lasting affects from hyper sexuality, IMO are or have the potential to be, far worse, both physically and mentally.
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I've suffered just as much pain from my overexercising and disordered body image as I have from being promiscuous. They are equally bad. JMO.

This is not to say physical activity is bad. But obsessive physical activity does have harmful effects, in fact it's often a symptom of an eating disorder or body dysmorphic disorder.
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Hey there.

I, too, am bipolar. I have been since I was 12ish but mom and dad just thought I went between being 'passionate' and 'moody'. They didn't know or understand the hell I was going through.

I was also hypersexual. We've always had a computer and my parents aren't computer literate so I was able to hide all my explicit chats with dozens of men over the years. I'd cultivate 'relationships' with them, all the while they knew I wasn't even 15. Looking back, I can see how sick it really was. I'm really glad you're technologically inclined and can lock and unlock the text feature on your daughter's cell. That's really great. I often wished that my parents would discover my explicit chats so that I could get help as I didn't understand why I was so drawn to act out this way (or cut myself or bash my head against hard solid things til I bruised or any of my other self-destructive habits). Our family is conservative so I don't think that something of this nature (hypersexuality) would have even been on their radar. They still don't know about any of it to this day. I was also abused sexually and I don't know if that led me to be hypersexual but it certainly didn't help matters.

I lead the double life of up-standing Christian girl and my self-destructive behaviours online until I was finally medicated when I turned 20 after an uber manic episode that finally caught my parent's attention... I was delusional, grandiose ideas, hallucinations, etc etc. I continued a few of these 'relationships' I had started with men over the years until I was finally medicated for depression when I was 23, three years ago.

Medication isn't a walk in the park and I've managed to gain 80 pounds in the process but I'd rather be sane and overweight then thin and unstable. I hope you and your daughter can see a child psychiatrist soon as it would be beneficial to her to be properly diagnosed and find a suitable treatment plan that you can all live with. (Intense physical activity only made me more manic.)

I guess all I can tell you is that I'm glad you're aware of your daughter's activities, I certainly wish my parents had been. Please know that I'm thinking of you. And please don't neglect your own mental health in the process of taking care of your daughter's. I can't blame you for being fed up with the hell you're walking through... one thought that got me through my journey was "I'm one day closer to being better". I didn't know when I would "be better" but I knew that with each passing day I was getting closer to that goal. There is a light at the end of this tunnel.

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