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#1 of 5 Old 12-17-2011, 01:49 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Just a bit of background:

I have bipolar disorder and have been doing great in the process of management of my disorder since June, when I started my meds. One of the things that has helped me is my DH's schedule at work and how we were able to spend more time together and he could help more with the kids. I'd cook and clean and I was thoroughly happy. Before I got help, one of the things that made me the way I was as far as how bad my illness was, was DH's work schedule. He'd get up at 1PM, spend an hour getting ready for work, and leave at 2:30PM and not get home until 12:30 or 1:00AM, which of course, by that time everyone would be in bed. That left maybe an hour to see him on his work days. Today is the first day in 7 months that DH has had to close the restaurant, and I'm finding myself feeling alot of anxiety about having to work this shift again. We were so detached and unloving and resentful when he had this schedule and I've come to love him more than ever and another thing is since we were so detached, I ended up leaving this past January. I don't want things to be how they were before. It scares the shit out of me. Please, someone tell me that they've been in a somewhat similar situation. crap.gif

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I understand.  Dh gets overwhelmed by some of my behaviors.  Weekends come around and he's home with the girls from friday to Sunday for 36 hrs by himself.  It's every other weekend but it's hard for him to feel so isolated.  I'm sorry you're feeling this way and I hope you can work through it. 

 

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Thank you. The cool thing is, DH knows how it could impact our relationship if his schedule stays this way and he's going to talk to his boss about leaving the company if he has to work those hours continuously over a long period of time. I am so relieved that he values our relationship so much he'd rather leave his job than have our marriage strained again. It makes me feel really good to know this.

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I'm glad to hear that.  It's important to hear from the your spouse how important you are.  I know DH appreciates when I consider him and his needs especially his emotional needs when making decisions.

 

 

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I just hope his boss will work with him and that he doesn't have to leave his job.The money isn't spectacular, but we're comfortable....

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