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So, I suffer from panic and social anxiety disorder. I have taken meds. in the past. But nothing ever worked. I did therapy for a v. short time as well. The doc. taught me NLP. It did not work at all. I also did not try it for long because I never saw any results. I've just come to a point in my life where I feel like I am intelligent, educated (have a Masters degree) and I could be a great asset at a work place and what harm would it or could it do if I mentioned it upfront in an interview? My only reason to not work has been that 'eventually, they'll find out I am weird.' Maybe they'll pay me less? for being mentally handicapped. My biggest anxiety thus far has been that people will find out. What do you think? Any ideas, suggestions are welcome.

 

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Hi- This is a very thought provoking question for me, as I have been reading material and researching the human rights law around accomodation in the workplace.
It is illegal for an employer to discriminate against you because of your mental health, but, of course, this kind of discrimination is extremely common.
There are many things to consider.
Firstly, I would sit down and consider what I would need in terms of any workplace accomodations for my disability in the context of a particular job.
With that knowledge, I would consider whether it is worth being totally up front in the interview, risking discrimination or waiting to discuss it once the position is secured.
It is not something an employer can ask you about, but you have the right to disclose it and ask for accomodation.
Being straight forward right off the get go might just reveal the real climate in the business, and save you trouble down the road.
All things to consider...

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Don't mention medical/disability issues in the interview unless absolutely unavoidable. While technically they can't discriminate based on that, they can usually find some other reason to go with another candidate. You are within your rights to ask for reasonable accomodations at a later point in time.


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I agree with Ocelotmom; don't discuss your disability issues in the interview.
The interview and hiring should be based on your skills, merits and personality.
I do believe in the value of accessing your own capabilities in the context of your disability honestly for yourself, so that you can come up with realistic work goals.
This will allow you to understand what accomodations you made need, if any, on the days your disability may affect your job performance.
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I guess that is my issue is that I MUST hide it. If I was physically handicapped I may not have been able to hide it. Maybe it's the easy way out - just talking about it up front. Or I was hoping I'd find a compassionate company. I just have to work on myself more and be more prepared, possibly go back to a therapist before I start seeking employment and it seems like I'm huge procrastinator but of course I don't have to explain myself to everyone out there that thinks that.


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Hmm.  They can;t ask you.So, why volunteer? Once you're hired you can ask for accommodation and be protected under ADA>

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I wouldn't mention it at all if it's a job where there is no reason to (not particularly mentally taxing, which would be different for everyone).

If it's a job that is particularly mentally taxing, I'd question applying for it in the first place, if there is other work to be had.

If it's a job that requires being signed off by a doctor for mental fitness, mental health concerns, then it will likely come up.

As a rule, I keep my mental health status to myself.


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I wouldn't mention it at all if it's a job where there is no reason to (not particularly mentally taxing, which would be different for everyone).

If it's a job that is particularly mentally taxing, I'd question applying for it in the first place, if there is other work to be had.

If it's a job that requires being signed off by a doctor for mental fitness, mental health concerns, then it will likely come up.

As a rule, I keep my mental health status to myself.

Recently, I have been thinking of getting something easy, not taxing, because the thought of it itself is taxing. Maybe working as a trainee waiting tables. I am just not ready to be in a stressful office environment.


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