I've been doing this for decades and wish I could stop. I didn't even know there was a name for it, until...DD#2 started picking, she is 3. She will not leave a scab, blister, bug bite alone. I don't want her to continue this and suffer the lifelong anxiety that goes with it (I sometimes will cancel plans and not leave the house if my face is too bad). It just breaks my heart! I don't know if she does it because she sees me do it, or if it's genetic or something. Anyone that can relate????
I don't know if it's a compulsion or habit or what, but no matter what I do he won't stop. I definately think that things like this can be learned in little ones though.
Sorry I'm no help, but just wanted to offer some support and let you know that you're not alone.
|He doesn't understand or won't understand that he skin looks like it does because he never gives it a chance to heal over completely.|
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Maybe the most helpful thing for DD would be to distract her and not call too much attention to it? I know that it can become an unconscious habit so if you can curtail it early on it won't be so problematic for her. Good luck to both of you and let us know if you find something that works/helps (cause you know we need it, too!).
I'm looking for a *cure* but the things I have found that help: putting neosporin on scabs, it helps them heal faster, but it also makes them greasy, so they are hard to pick at. Gooey lip glosses, for the same reason (i'm a lip picker too, but only in the winter months, it's a seasonal sport! ). Avoiding mirrors except to get ready and brush my teeth, wash my face. I've tried cutting my nails very short, but I find a way to use them anyway and having no nails makes is hard for me to type. My nails are usually fairly long but if I get acrylic put on them (at a salon), they are so thick, it's hard to pick with them. This is an expensive option, I rarely use it, as money is tight, but it's nice if you need a clear face for special occasions, like a wedding.
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I suggested that he wash the yuckies off with a wet cloth and that seemed to work tonight. I'll have to let everyone know how to deal with that for the moment because he's tense enough as it is.
I never knew this was a real disorder before, we always thought it was just one of my little quirks. I'm glad to read that I'm not the only one with this issue.
I have something funny/gross to add... I have a friend who is a therapist and she has an adult client who will come into session and pick the skin and toenails from her feet and eat it while they are talking! Yuck!
s: to everyone going thru this..for me it's a vicious cycle..i pick cuz i'm stressed and then get even more stressed about my picking and on and on
for me it's my cuticles...i'll pick and pick till they bleed b4 i stop...not on purpose butg something just drives me to keep doing it cuz it gets on my nerves (ie. dry skin, jagged etc)
my dd (age 3 ) has started to do it too , saying she just has to get it cuz it's 'bothering her'
has anyone stopped? how? i've tried mostly everything I can think o\f....except hypnosis which I plan to try soon
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Also if I've really slipped which usually follows by incredible itching. I think it's partly due to clothing rubbing the scabs. I rub my whole body with olive oil. It softens the scabs, relieves dry skin and is also very relaxing. Use olive oil, because it is clean. No alcohol, fragrance or synthetics in. Don't use soap everytime you wash. It strips the bodies natural oils. I hope some of this is helpful. It hasn't cured me, but it has made a small difference. That's what gets me through the day sometimes!
One thing I've found that helps is that I can't/don't want to do it when I have chapstick on, so my current behavioral therapy (which is funny because I'm a behavioral therapist for kids with autism) is to keep a stick of chapstick in all of my bags so that I never have an excuse not to use it. Then when I catch myself starting to pick, I reach in whatever bag I have and use the chapstick.
I used to chew the skin off the inside of my cheeks and when I quit doing that, I think this was a replacement behavior. But now that I've got the chapstick thing going, I haven't started any other self-injurious tic. Yay!
I have been reading everything here and it makes me so sad. I am 35 years old and I definitely have CSP. I pick me face terribly and try to do damage control with make-up. I become so embarrassed when I see pictures of myself or have to go to a function with others. I get so jealous of women with clear skin. I do have acne, but I am sure I worsen it because I pick at any flaw to my skin. I have spots on my face almost all the time. I do it when I don;t even realize it.
Besides that, my back is a mess of scars. I still pick there also... and I get sad when summer comes around because I can't wear backless anything.
I keep telling myself to just stop...
I noticed my 4 year old picking her upper lip. She does it constantly until it bleeds. I tell her to stop, but I know she can't. My poor kid is just like me. I am too embarrassed to go to the dentist sometimes because they are all there looking at your face with those bright lights.
Can anyone sympathize? What the heck can I do?
They definitely describes me. I am a perfectionists and find that I do it more when something like a test comes up or I am upset. Wehn something is overwhelming my mind. i guess it is like biting nails and such. I have heard that therapy is an option.
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caused a lot of damage to my body in my life picking at my skin. Stress is such a trigger for me. I had really
bad scabs on my forehead while I was pregnant with dd. My aunt, who is like a second mom, told me to ask
my Dr if I had a rash so many times I had to finally just confess that I did it to myself.
Both my sister and I have Trichotillomania as well. Hers is much worse than mine. While I pick at my scalp
and braid my hair I don't pull too much out. My Sister has bad twisting tendencies leading to bald spots.
I have to limit my time in front of the mirror. I wash my face and have to walk away, or I will pick and stare
at black heads I am convinced everybody else can see, but they can't. When I pluck my eyebrows I have to
give myself a time limit and walk away or I will stare forever plucking.
I pick at scabs, pimples.
I pull hair that "feels" weird, or super thick.
I peel the skin at my finger nails, or on my feet.
It is horrible... I dig huge gashes in my scalp... it will start with a little itch or a zit, and then it will not heal for months.. I pick the scab.
I really want to stop.. and I had for a while. (like five years)
And then my abusive father showed up at my door. I am back at it.
Usually not face - arms, back, scalp, etc. It seems to be a cross between an anxiety reliever, in that its something to focus intently on when feeling stressed, and a boredom thing.
I know that I have more "bumps" because I mess with them. I've tried stopping but we all know how that goes.
Anyway, just wanted to say "I'm here too".
First and foremost, Mama to Owen (7/21/04), Annaliese (7/29/09), and somebody new (due Feb 2012), and wife to Andrew (9/12/98). Also passionate about and loving the work I do in Organizational Development.
Another picker here. I am sure it is related to my anxiety disorder, but I think it is also a habit. I also beg my dh to let me pick his scabs. :
Ifind its worse in high stress times, i used to have really bad scabs on my scalp after a case of nits, they didnt do the damage,m i never even had them, for months after the other members in the house got rid of them, i would scratch at my scalp. I was very paranoid over it. now I just pick at my forehead, so i have bangs
I'm a horrible picker. I think it's genetic because my mom does it, too.
I get so bad sometimes that if I run out of things to pick on my body, I'll want to pick at other people. If I see a pimple on DH's face I have to pop it! He always leaves his alone and I can't understand how he can not want to pop it! AAHH!!
I'm always picking my scabs and then they never heal.
I really wish I could stop because it makes pimples/acne so much worse.
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