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#1 of 4 Old 11-03-2008, 02:18 PM - Thread Starter
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Currently I have a huge amount of conflict with my husband. It's driving me crazy. I feel really upset most of the time. My emotions range from extreme sadness, to lethargy, to rage. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to lose it. I am usually such a laid back person but at times I get so angry at my husband I want to hit him or ruin one of his personal possessions. I just feel so out of control most of the time.

Even though I feel out of control, I'm not acting out on my rage impulses. I don't think I'll really hit him. It's just when we argue I get so frustrated and I don't know what to do. I feel so sad and frustrated most of the time. We are seeking both couples counseling and individual counseling for both of us. We just started going and it feels like things between us are getting worse because it's forcing us to really acknowledge challenging issues.

I'm just having such a hard time and I'm wondering if I should consider going on medication while were figuring things out. I've been stress eating a lot and I hate that. I think that medication may help me to be not as sad or angry and I won't stress eat as much.

I'm not crazy about the idea of taking something. I've been on Zoloft before and it made me feel spacey. It also made it difficult for me to sleep, upset my digestive system and made it more difficult to orgasm. It did help with the pain though. That is why I'm considering it now.

Any thoughts or advice?


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i don't know. i'm in the same boat. i had a horrible weekend and my husband was irritating the shit out of me. i was hoping that there are some natural "cures" for it all. i don't like the idea of meds. and divorce (although looking pretty good right now! lol) is not an option.

just wanted you to know you are not alone.
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Tatiana, given that Zoloft has helped you before, it is worthwhile to consider it now. You are in a really stressful situation and given that your emotions are overwhelming you so much (sadness, anger, frustration) it might give you some relief while you are working through so much difficult stuff. The zoloft won't change your belief system, but it might help you get through the counselling and work through hard stuff.

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If the Zoloft helped you before but you did not like the side-affects, then maybe you can try a different SSRI like Prozac or a different drug like Wellbutrin that has less of the side-effects you referenced.

It sounds as though medication would help you in these circumstances. You will feel more balanced mentally and be able to sift through the real issues you have with your DH as opposed to issues that are blown up because of the way you are currently feeling. I only say this because I have been in your shoes, in fact I am now and will be seeing my doctor next week to start anti-depresants, (it has taken me months to make the call and decision).

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