We were mostly fine with the practice of waiting until DD was in deep sleep (limp limbs) and then putting her in the crib. Now, she wakes as soon and put her down, if not when she's 6 inches from her mattress. When I say crib, I mean anywhere that is not in arms or on us (sling or wrap).
Putting her in the crib awake or sleepy but awake does not work, as she still needs considerable help from us to fall asleep.
This translates to hours and hours of cycling through soothing, having her sleep in arms, and attempting to put her down. Plus, on the lucky occasion that she does not cry when we put her down, it is often only minutes before she is upset. Or she sleeps for 20 minutes and is upset and won't go back to sleep!
We use white noise, swaddle, sometimes prop her up on her side, try to soothe her while she is still in the crib, tried the paci. She is in a terrible cycle that causes overtiredness and we don't know what to do! We will not do CIO, and we will not co-sleep. DD's crib is a portable sized one that is pushed right up against our bed, but she sleeps perpendicular to us. We live in a very small apt and it won't fit any other way. Our bed is also very small, there often seems there is not enough room for DH and I, LO cannot safely join us.
I have referenced the following books without gaining much:
Dr. Sears' Sleep Book
Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child
No-Cry Sleep Solution
90-Minute Baby Sleep Program
The Happiest Baby on the Block
We are at wit's end! Please, if you have any advice at all, chime in!!!
-Me(35), DH(37), DD1(10/21/08), DD2(4/30/11)