I have a nearly 4 month old boy. Family came to visit when he was three weeks old. It was the most painful thing to me when someone else held my baby. I kept getting guilted into it since they are family. I felt like my heart was stolen from me. I've gotten some what better in time with my dad and step mom who are local, but MIL is in town for a week now and I feel the same thing all over again. I'm the mother hen protecting him. She asks every 10 min to hold him. ( I let her once today but she has asked 3-4 times since and it's only 1pm) It drives me nuts! Can't she just be happy to see him with me and not have to hold him to feel fulfilled? When I try to convey her needs to him (he's sleepy, hungry, tired, curious) she acts like she doesn't believe me, like I'm making it up to get away from her. "Maybe he wants grandma". She keeps saying he looks like DH (most people say he looks like me) which makes me think she feels she somehow has her baby boy again.
Does anyone else feel like this? Am I being a royal B for not wanting to share him. Am I reading too much into this? I want him to have a relationship with her as he grows up but I feel at this point since she doesn't live close, he won't even remember her. It's not like I'm keeping her from him, I just want my baby in my arms. I read him best that way and feel connected to how he feels.
Does anyone else feel like this? Am I being a royal B for not wanting to share him. Am I reading too much into this? I want him to have a relationship with her as he grows up but I feel at this point since she doesn't live close, he won't even remember her. It's not like I'm keeping her from him, I just want my baby in my arms. I read him best that way and feel connected to how he feels.