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#31 of 37 Old 06-25-2010, 01:25 PM
 
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Oh my goodness, I am so glad I read this thread!!! I'm a full time WOHM, so we have very little time in the evening to get things done. Plus, DD (10 months) has to have me in the same room when she's playing in the evenings, which means I can't get much done until DH gets home. I constantly feel bad that our house is a mess, but would rather play with DD than do dishes. I've realized there are a couple of things I can do with her though: fold laundry, she loves to "help" and vacuum (she loves playing with the vacuum).

I once apologized to a guest for our house being messy when DD was only a couple months old. She just basically said, "that's okay, if your house was too clean it would mean your not spending enough time with your baby." That made me feel so much better! Thank you moms, for making me realize we're all in the same boat, I no longer feel like I'm the only one who can't keep control of the messes in the house.

And the poems, exactly what I needed to hear!
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I have a nearly 3 month old, and I definitely don't get much done. This is a sore spot here (with dh), especially regarding our older son and how little time he gets with me. I don't know how some moms do it. My baby only sleeps on me. She nurses hourly. She doesn't like being put down much. I can load and transfer laundry while carrying her, but DH holds her when I fold and put clothes away. I have lowered some expectations, including even getting a shower every day. I have a hard time figuring our what to eat, because one-handed cooking is difficult, and the moby just doesn't seem to work well. We get takeout a lot. DH helps a lot with dishes. It's just a crazy time. Posts about mopping and the myriad of other things that some if you get done boggle my mind. We're just surviving here. LOL

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My DS is 5 months old and the only 2 things I consistently do around the house are laundry (especially important for CDing) and dishes (and we have a dishwasher, so I just load and unload that). I also prepare meals for myself, but rarely make anything for DH, and take DS for a short walk every day when we don't have a structured activity to go to. I occasionally make necessary phone calls while nursing DS. That's it.

On weekends, I try to clean while DH hangs out with DS, but he helps me clean as well and often cooks food for the next week so I will have things that are easy to heat up.

There is a room that we threw everything into while preparing a space for baby, with the intention of me organizing the room while off on mat leave. I haven't started yet.

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Cautiously expecting Dec 2014!

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Reading this made me think of a moment when my grandfather told me (after my grandma had been gone for maybe 5 yrs), "I can't believe all the hard work she had to do taking care of six kids. " Then he went on to describe all the daily tasks she did caring for the children. He had probably never told her that while she was alive but after she was gone he truly realized how much she did for everyone. He really was in awe of her.
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Mother, O Mother, come shake out your cloth,
Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
Hang out the washing, make up the bed,
Sew on a button and butter the bread.

Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She's up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.

Oh, I've grown as shiftless as Little Boy Blue,
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo.
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo

The shopping's not done and there's nothing for stew
And out in the yard there's a hullabaloo
But I'm playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren't his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.

The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I've learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.

- Ruth Hulbert Hamilton

I repeat the last line multiple times a day & it immediately brings me into the present & reminds me what the most important things really are.
I <3 you for posting this. Thank you

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I love it!!!!

Here is another..... this is about a son but, it can be about your DD too

I Took His Hand and Followed
Mrs. Roy L. Peifer

My dishes went unwashed today,
I didn't make the bed,
I took his hand and followed
Where his eager footsteps led.

Oh yes, we went adventuring,
My little son and I...
Exploring all the great outdoors
Beneath the summer sky

We waded in a crystal stream,
We wandered through a wood...
My kitchen wasn't swept today
But life was gay and good.

We found a cool, sun-dappled glade
And now my small son knows
How Mother Bunny hides her nest,
Where the jack-in-the pulpit grows.

We watched a robin feed her young,
We climbed a sunlit hill...
Saw cloud-sheep scamper through the sky,
We plucked a daffodil.

That my house was neglected,
That I didn't brush the stairs,
In twenty years, no one on earth
Will know, or even care.

But that I've helped my little boy
To noble manhood grow,
In twenty years, the whole wide world
May look and see and know.


No one is going to know your house is a mess or if they do come over and see, they won't care, honestly. You have an awsome responsibility to your new LO and that's all that really matters
Oh, wow, one poem for my daughter and one for my son how perfect. Thank you.

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I've found that some days I feel pretty productive and other days just awful. Trying to develop a system! Having my older children help is probably the only thing that gets me through the day.
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