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#91 of 104 Old 11-15-2009, 11:18 PM
 
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Yeah, I would and have, especially when doing something like paying for gas & maybe grabbing a pop or a candy bar or something like that. Actually going shopping? No. But for a minute while I run inside & pay for gas? Absolutely. And I also definetly leave them in the car while I unload groceries assuming their asleep.

And honestly, yeah, while I pay for gas, somebody could run up and steal my car... but they could just as easily do that while I'm filling up the tank, or washing the window, or cleaning out the trash. Should I put DS2 in the sling while I fill my tank and lead DS1 around by the hand while I clean out the car??? Or should I just not go *ANYWHERE* without another adult, when I might need to you know, get gas or something??
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PLEASEEEE....
do not leave your kids(or animals!)in the car.
even for a minute.
this is a photo of the remnants of my car after just running in to get a to go bubble tea.
i shut my car off...went into the store and someone came running in after me to tell me my car was on fire.
my car was completely destroyed within 5 minutes.
all i could think of was my daughters blankie in the back seat
the firefighters think that something seized and had seen this happen before.
if my child was in that car she would have been severely burned or not alive.
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the only time i leave my kids alone in the car is when i've gotten them all buckled in their seats and i close the door and walk over to the driver seat.

seriously.

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PLEASEEEE....
do not leave your kids(or animals!)in the car.
even for a minute.
this is a photo of the remnants of my car after just running in to get a to go bubble tea.
i shut my car off...went into the store and someone came running in after me to tell me my car was on fire.
my car was completely destroyed within 5 minutes.
all i could think of was my daughters blankie in the back seat
the firefighters think that something seized and had seen this happen before.
if my child was in that car she would have been severely burned or not alive.
http://img269.imageshack.us/i/img0019ho.jpg/
Well, that's scary and I'm sorry it happened to you, but it still doesn't worry me with regards to leaving kids in the car. Weird things happen. Friends of mine lost their house about a dozen years ago....a gas line broke and the pilot from the water heater ignited it. Their house exploded in the middle of the night on Christmas Eve. Luckily, they were away visiting family for the holidays or someone would have been killed. But I can't let that scare me into thinking I shouldn't sleep at night because my house might explode. KWIM?
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PLEASEEEE....
do not leave your kids(or animals!)in the car.
even for a minute.
this is a photo of the remnants of my car after just running in to get a to go bubble tea.
i shut my car off...went into the store and someone came running in after me to tell me my car was on fire.
my car was completely destroyed within 5 minutes.
all i could think of was my daughters blankie in the back seat
the firefighters think that something seized and had seen this happen before.
if my child was in that car she would have been severely burned or not alive.
http://img269.imageshack.us/i/img0019ho.jpg/
Have to agree that while that is one of the craziest and most bizarre incidents I have heard of involving a car, that is not in any way likely to make me not leave DD in the car for a minute. There is far far greater chance that I would be in a car accident with her in the car than something like that ever happening and yet I still drive with her in the car.
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I wish that a poll had been included in this post, as I would LOVE to see how many who are horrified by the mere thought of leaving a child in a car for a moment while in visual contact only have one child.
I have more than one, and I don't leave them in the car.

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I do. For just a second type thing. To return a shopping cart, pay for gas, go to the ATM. Once I left my sleeping newborn and 3 yr old in the car for a minute to pick up my CSA box. In a private driveway at the farm, no one around. That made me a little anxious, the other times do not. I mean to me it is common sense. If I can see them, and my car is locked and off, I think they are safer inside than dragging them both into a gas station, or up to a ATM. I grew up in the late 70's. My Mom always left us in the car to run into the grocery store. I don't think for like 30 minutes, but for sure to run in and grab a few things. By the time I was 4 she let me stay home alone to run to the corner store.
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I do,and I think it's silly and another symptom of the paranoia of our society that so many people worry about this practice. I PROMISE you that actually driving somewhere with your kids safely strapped in is much more dangerous than leavingthe car for a minute. I mean, thousands of kids are killed in car accidents every year, but no one says "I would NEVER drive to the grocery store. Is it worth your child dying?" The chances of kidnapping are minute, and even if it did happen, it's just as likely to happen when I am in the car, too.

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Since it is illegal here (I've had Mom's in this exact situation ask me to take their $10 or $20 in to get their pump started at the gas station since they didn't want to wake their baby), my biggest concern would be someone calling the police. My baby isn't here yet, so I may feel differently afterward, but right now I don't see this as a big deal except for the illegal part in my state

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What the OP is describing sounds just fine to me.

I had to read through this since my sil and I were talking about this yesterday and how we think a GREAT service would be "car nannies." College kids who just need some money and need time for homework. They could sit in the car and study and earn cash while busy (and who isn't?) moms run errands here and there! We both thought it was brilliant It would be so awesome to be able to pick up an adult during the day to do such a thing. As in stellar. As in I'd pay some money for that! Dreamy

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I would never, ever, ever...I've had my e break give out on us a few times (I put it into gear too, thankfully) but I would never chance it. I wear him into the grocery store and places of that sort, but bringing him into the gas station is a real pain

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I had to read through this since my sil and I were talking about this yesterday and how we think a GREAT service would be "car nannies." College kids who just need some money and need time for homework. They could sit in the car and study and earn cash while busy (and who isn't?) moms run errands here and there! We both thought it was brilliant It would be so awesome to be able to pick up an adult during the day to do such a thing. As in stellar. As in I'd pay some money for that! Dreamy
I love this idea. My cousin had her mom do this with her like once a week so she could do all those little errands that just take a minute like dropping something at the post office or running into the bank for a second. I was always a bit envious.

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when it comes to my child im a big fan of prevention.

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In almost all situations I wouldn't leave my DD alone in the car in a parking lot. The only exception I can think of is in a tiny town/rural area near here where there is literally no traffic and all that. And even then I would probably be nervous about it!

I only go to gas stations that have pay at the pump or a little booth outside where you pay and you're like 5 feet from the car.

I do feel fine leaving my DD buckled in her car seat in my driveway while I run in to grab something we forgot, or if she was happily sleeping or playing as a baby I would go ahead and carry in the groceries quickly and then get her out. It's hard to carry in groceries with a screaming, clinging baby! In this situation her door would be open and the car would be off and I would have the keys. I don't feel as if anyone here would bother my car in broad day light in our suburb, and we know all the neighbors fairly well.

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