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#1 of 7 Old 12-19-2009, 12:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I've been co-sleeping with my now 5 month old since she was born. She has been becoming more mobile lately. Usually I sleep facing her with her right next to me and me kind of cuddling her. DH sleeps on the couch when he isn't working so it's just us on the bed. A couple nights ago I must have rolled over the other way in my sleep, and I woke up to her crying as I nearly rolled over onto my back right on top of her as she had scooted herself right next to me. This had NEVER happened before, I usually sleep very light and stay in the same position all night. But that was pretty scary.

Last night, it happened again... I wake up right as I'm about to roll over onto her. I definitely think I am done co-sleeping, I am scared now that for some reason I am not sleeping as lightly as I used to, or somehow I'm just moving around more.

I truly love co-sleeping but I'm terrified and don't want to risk that if I can't trust myself not to roll over.

Any... thoughts?

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I wake up right as I'm about to roll over onto her. I definitely think I am done co-sleeping, I am scared now that for some reason I am not sleeping as lightly as I used to, or somehow I'm just moving around more.
My first thought is -- you woke up. If you truly were sleeping heavily, you wouldn't have woken up, and you might have actually rolled over her. Instead, your body & mind were well aware and immediately you woke up when you sensed something was wrong. I'm sure you also wake up just seconds before your baby cries? It's the same thing.

Of course I don't want to assume the arrangement is 100% safe just because of that... If you still are worried, take a look at why... are you more tired? Stressed? Did you take any meds or anything the night before? Go to bed later (or even earlier) than usual?

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nak:you woke up. your instincts kicked in.

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Of course I don't want to assume the arrangement is 100% safe just because of that... If you still are worried, take a look at why... are you more tired? Stressed? Did you take any meds or anything the night before? Go to bed later (or even earlier) than usual?

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I agree with PP. Check to see why things may have changed, but other than that, you woke up, that is what you should do!

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i agree with the pps -- you DID wake up and you did NOT roll over on your baby. that's a wonderful thing!

but since you are genuinely concerned that you MIGHT, it may be a good idea to sidecar a crib to the bed. that way baby can still share sleep, but the sides of the crib will keep you from easily rolling into it.

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I agree, you woke up, no harm done. I do that from time to time.
But even if you did roll onto the baby for a minute, would you actually do any harm? Baby might get smooshed into the bed for a minute but its not like you wouldn't wake up as soon as you rolled onto her. I always thought the big risk was when the baby was newborn and wouldn't be able to move their head away easily.

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ITA with the above!! You woke up, that's what matters!!

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