I have been reading more and more about BLW and am curious to what your experiences are - either for or against. Anyone not do it? Why not? Thanks mamas.
Proud Mama to DS1 09/07 , DD 07/09 , and DS2 06/11 . Feeling more and more blessed with each day!
I used to work in daycare, and there were expectations that kids would start eating substantial amounts of purees between 4-6 months old (at parents' disgression), and we would have to manipulate them into eating it. Then, at a year old, we would have to coerce them into eating the (junk) food that we provided for them in small chunks and leaving all purees and bottles behind. It was difficult to get the kids to eat the purees (probably before they were ready for solids), and it was hard to get them to give them up. I am sure that if such expectations did not exist, that the process would have been more peaceful.
I'm just delighted to see my daughter sit down with us for a family meal and happily feed herself chunks of colorful, textured, nutritious foods from among the choices she is given. I don't worry how much she eats. I just make sure she has a variety of healthy foods and trust her to eat what she needs.
My favorites about BLW are:
1. You have 2 hands free to feed yourself!!
2. Baby learns good skills of self feeding, and great fine motor skills and hand eye coordination
3. No stress about whether baby is getting enough food or not. They lead, they eat what they want and you trust they know what they need!
We didn't use expensive organic foods, just regular foods we ate. It also made us eat healthier cause I was giving her such a variety, ie butternut squash/parsnips/berries....etc.
Oh, I could not praise BLW enough! A super helpful site is this British forum, but people from other countries are welcome too! Very friendly and helpful! babyledweaning.com/forum
I expect we'll end up doing a mixture of purees and BLW depending on the day, DD's needs, etc. But I'm excited to watch all the answers!
It was scary when I started and she would gag and cough, but she rarely ever does that anymore. It is true that you can pack more nutritional content into a puree, but at that age babies get most of what they need from breastmilk. Solids are just fun and a small suplement to breastmilk. I feel like doing just purees is adding an awkward step to a more natural transition.
DD has been now eating more, than playing. I know what she likes, but I still offer other things. She will now eat more complete meals. For breakfast we had today southwestern scrambled eggs (from better than eggs and it was spicy!), banana and a whole wheat mini bagel with hummus. She ate a bitof sc rambled eggs, a bit of banana and almost an entire half of the bagel. I offer food to her whenever Im having something, because she always wants some. She seems to love eating and trying new things. She's never had a bad reaction to anything and I dont really pressure her into eating. I do purees too sometimes, or foods like oatmeal, applesauce, yogurt, mashed potatoes. I just give her the spoon, because she will NOT let you feed her.
A negative thing about BLW is that she's so used to having what Im having, that you really cant eat anything that you dont want her to eat in front of her or at least you need to have something right there to offer, but sometimes she figures out she's been tricked.
I don't plan on keeping him on it or forcing him to eat something he's not ready for. I offered him chunkier stuff like brown rice pasta in the beginning but he didn't want to eat it and would get frustrated because it was hard for him to grab and put in his mouth (he's short for his high chair). Even when I offered it to him after we started purees he didn't want the chunky stuff unless it was on a spoon. I'm also introducing foods slowly because I have a lot of food allergies.
So really, it depends on the baby. But I never forced him to eat this food, he leaned forward and I follow his lead. Every baby is different.
We don't offer him everything we're eating. I want him to have all organics for awhile and not everything we eat is. I don't know if what we do is really BLW, but we're definitely responding to our LO's wants/needs!
Erin - mama to my happy little guy, born April 09
and my sweet baby, born July 12
Loving mama to A (8/5/2010) R (1/3/2015) and DSD (16).
He is always willing to try anything we put in front of him at least once before rejecting it. And rejection is rare.
I'm not suggesting his eating habits are due wholly to BLW. But the method suited us as foodies & individuals who care about what we eat. I don't go entirely organic, for what it's worth. But how wonderful that the whole family eats the same foods every day!
My only exceptions for the first year were nothing: spicy, salty, sugary, or crunchy. I did not introduce the big allergens like seafood, peanuts or honey until after the first year. But otherwise, DS ate what we ate, just in smaller portions. I intend to do the same for my second DS when the time comes!
Dirt worshiping, creatress Mama to Rowan and Alden - home birth loving, no circ, no vax, extended breast feeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing, cosleeping
We're actually at the point now where BLW is making him not nurse enough (IMO) and I'm debating slowing him down on the solids or not... I pump at work and it made my supply go down slightly. He's eating 3 meals a day now (DEMANDS IT!)... today he nursed all night/early morning (last nursing at 6:30 AM when I left) then ate breakfast at 9 when he woke up (tiny bit of oatmeal, yogurt mixed with apple/blueberry mixture) then didn't want a bottle until 11:00, then begged for his grandmother's edamame and had some, fell asleep, then woke up and had some veggies and fruit/yogurt, bottle again at 2:45 right before I got him, then nurse a lot then at 6 grape leaves and falafals. TOO MUCH!!!!
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I don't worry about the bigger pieces, he's always spit them out if they're too big. He gags sometimes, but that's how he gets it up.
I would certainly smash some things up a bit though, no sense chocking a child IMO. But lots of food are soft and perfect for little chunks. . . avocado, banana, tofu, sweet potato. And some foods already come pureed already like applesauce (so yummy homemade!), and yogurt.
Me= crunchy mama to one rambunctious toddler, born on October 1, 2009. And one sweet little baby born January 19, 2012.
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She is here!!! Oct 5th!!!
DD wasn't all that interested in solids till about 8-9 months. She'd play with the pieces and bring them to her mouth, but she didn't start to really get the hang of eating till closer to 9 or 10 months. And then things really took off.
I love how she was (and is) able to explore different tastes and textures on her own time and at her own pace. She has very definite likes (she'd probably eat a pint of blueberries a day if I had them available for her) and dislikes (pasta and carby things, and eggs). I didn't realize that babies had such strong preferences and it's been fun to watch her try new things.
My DD is almost 5mo now and I plan on doing BLW. I'll let her guide it.
Abra, Married to George, Mother to DS 12/03 & DD1 08/09 & DD2 12/11 + Someone New in May 2015! After years of planning, we are finally living our dream in South America!!
-purees are unnecessary
-why teach a baby how to eat pureed food only to transition them to "real" food later?
-spoon feeding is boring
-its important that he learns how to self regulate his food to meet his appetite
-its a little messier
-my MIL thinks he is constantly on the verge of choking to death
I do what works and when it stops working, then I do something else.
I'm another mama that didn't know BLW had a name, I just did it naturally.
My older kids were born in the UK, we sort of did BLW with DS 6 yrs ago, I think awareness about this is greater over there, to the extent that I was hearing childcare experts having opinionated debates about it on mainstream TV and radio.
Proud Mama to DS1 09/07 , DD 07/09 , and DS2 06/11 . Feeling more and more blessed with each day!
My daughter, now 8m, has never been offered purees, but she DOES sometimes choke on stuff so I am being pretty judicious what I give her. And if we are eating soup or applesauce or something, sure I spoon feed it to her. (she doesn't really like oatmeal, oh well!) She likes to help with the spoon
Anyway, she's only recently getting interested in food and is still quite the little nurser. I try to think about it when meal planning- what will I want to give her out of this? I have, at the adamant advice of our midwife, who I really trust and respect, pretty much stayed away from cow milk, eggs, soy and wheat for now. Little bits, whatever, but I'm not giving it to her as a main dish. I don't worry about salt or spice, since our food is not heavily salted, and even the more mainstream ped we saw with our first admitted there is really nothing inherently bad about salt, if the food is all home-made and unprocessed.
Cons: people think its weird. None of their business!
Pros: so cute! Easy. And a lady in Ikea came over and was gushing about how "impressed" she was by how my daughter was feeding herself. (lol that lady must not have looked at the floor under her high chair!)
dissertating mom to three
1. Antonin fully nursed until 6 months (except for some doctor recommended juice, which was before I knew about the whole gut flora thing and some mashed potatoes my sister snuck him at 4 months old that really ticked me off).
2. Tandem nursed both kids for 1 1/2 years which was HARD. Oh my goodness that was a lot of work.
3. Had planned to let Antonin CLW, finally ended up weaning him at 3.5 years because it was just too much work for me.
4. Continued to breastfeed Arianna after Antonin was weaned. I also planned to CLW her and saw no reason that I couldn't, until I was accepted into the program I'm in and absolutely need my time to study. So, very sad to me, she was actually weaned at a younger age than her brother. She only nursed for just under three years.
5. However, on the bright side, Arianna did that baby led solids thing. I forgot what it's called. Anyhow, I followed her lead about solids so she was totally breastfed for a little over a year.
Reneé, 34 year old mom to Antonin 8/04 and Arianna 9/06 . (6 weeks) 5/08. Married to Matt since 6/03 . Expecting another sweet little baby April 2015.
For those of you who have read the book, would you mind sharing the guidelines? Like what's okay to feed them and what's not? As far as texture and shape and so on. I guess I've been doing BLW with my six month DD just because she's not into purees, she only wants things she can feed herself, but I sometimes get worried that she'll choke. I can't afford to buy the book at the moment....