Originally Posted by staceychev
Discipline doesn't really work at that age because they don't really understand cause and effect. It's exhausting but constant removal and distraction is really the best way. You also might want to think about when in the day you're doing your play dates. Are there times of day when he's a little calmer?
What she said. Just remove him from the situation. The good news is that he is only ten months, so he still has a long time to socialize with other kids before schooling starts. Right now the socializing is just curiosity. He doesn;t really want to play WITH other children yet, just near them.
My ds was very "affectionate"
and also very strong compared to his peers. He got bit by my niece on their first encounter (at one year) when he tried to hug/tackle her, and it certainly taught him a lesson with HER, but he was not able to transfer that lesson very well for years to come.
Now at almost five he is still very rough with bigger kids and adults, but he has
learned to be gentle with littler people. I can't really discipline him for being himself, but I do remove him from the chance to hurt people if I see he is being too rough and the other kid or adult being accosted need help, which now at this age feels very much like punishment to him
, but we just explain that he needs to calm down sometimes.
I have found that letting him do some physical activity (e.g. swimming, bike riding, or a romp in an indoor play gym) BEFORE social outings helps A LOT, so...maybe wrestling with him at home before you go to play group?