However, with DS I did buy into the whole "Happiest Baby on the Block" thing about babies NEEDING to be swaddled...just looking for opinions on this. Anybody forego the whole swaddling thing and still have "good" sleepers?
She NEEDED to be swaddled for the first month when she was awake and nursed, but slept beautifully without it (tho she is/was a tummy-sleeper, so that may have given respite from that OH NO I'M FALLING feeling back-sleepers feel.)
Her hands freaked her out and overstimulated her so much when awake that it was a sheer blessing when we figured out to swaddle her at about a week old.
I guess, and I'm sure you're sick of hearing this, you probably should just play it by ear!
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None of my DSs have needed to be swaddled. DS2 STTN, except for a burp his first night, immediately. DS3 slept from 1am to 7am this morning, no swaddle.
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DS is almost 11 weeks and he sleeps nicely without a swaddle. We used it for about 3 weeks but he didn't really care about it. He wanted to co-sleep so we do that and he gives me about 4-6 hour stretch at night. But he also gives me about 9 hour stretch in which the only thing he wants to do is eat and sleep and I usually sleep through the feedings. For the record - we sleep skin to skin under a receiving blanket with him facing me and cradling my side. I get enough rest most of the time this way.
My advice, follow baby's lead. Try a swaddle if they like it and it helps go with it!
DS was a terrible sleeper, but just as terrible when he was swaddled as not.
DD is a terrible sleeper, and is/was worse when not swaddled. Of course, at 10.5 months I'm wondering if she's ever going to sleep without it (it's been kind of a nightmare trying to wean her off it, and when I make the decision of wean her off it or get some decent sleep, sleep wins!).
DD sleeps OKAY when she is not swaddled but sleeps longer and more soundly when she is. She sleeps unswaddled from about 7-10 then I wake her, potty her, change her nappy if it needs it, and then swaddle her good and tight (escape proof style) and nurse her back down at around 10:30 or so and she usually sleeps until the sun comes up around 6 sometimes as late as seven, and sometimes she'll nurse and go back to sleep for another two hours or so.
ETA: I have no problem swaddling her every night until she is seventeen years old if it means I can sleep all night.
My DS is so different. He's been more "friendly" with his hands from day 1, and started sleeping 6 hour stretches at 3 weeks. Since around 3 months he'd been perfectly happy not being swaddled after he's asleep -- he just falls asleep better if his arms are contained. (Often I just wrap a receiving blanket over his arms while he's nursing to sleep, and take it off before I put him down after he's asleep.)
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