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#31 of 35 Old 03-22-2010, 11:20 PM
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Wow, your friends would think I was a total lunatic feeding my 10 month old at midnight! But her little tummy is growling, she still needs it. Do what is right for YOUR child and you won't be sorry
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Originally Posted by NiteNicole View Post
I DO regret offering a feeding each time my daughter made any noise instead of waiting to see if she was just getting comfortable or actually looking to be fed. I regret it A LOT. I think much of the time, she was only slightly awake and trying to get resettled, NOT looking for food. I took away any chance she had of working out how to resettle herself because I jumped in trying to feed her before she woke up all the way.
With DD, I would let her have up to five "fusses" (noises, a little one-second-long cry or whatever) before I would actually go in and feed her. And sometimes, she'd get quiet again after fuss 2 or 3.

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Here ya go...

If you don't feed your baby at night and cuddle them as MUCH as you can while they are small, you are SO going to regret it when you are old.

So you are hearing that you'll regret it if you do, and regret it if you don't. So, you'll just have to do what's right for you, since everyone says different things. And tell your friends so.

"If you keep doing the same things you've always done, you'll keep getting the same results you've always gotten."

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When I think of a martyr mama I honestly think of a mom who complains about being the only one who can do anything for the baby, I've seen and heard those moms, usually it's because they are too anal to let dad(or anyone) help(and in reality enjoy being frazzled and on the brink). This is not that type of situation, it sounds like you are doing what a good mama of a 5 month old should be doing attending to the needs of her child. Skip this chain e-mail group, they sound lame.

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Originally Posted by lemontree View Post
I just don't know why "I'll be sorry" in her mind

...and I find it kind of ominous, to be honest.
Me, either. I nursed my older two at night until they were about 1 1/2... I was never sorry. Now that they are 2 and 4 and sleeping in their own room, I am thankful for the time we had. Thankful for every sweet, quiet moment spent nursing my tiny babies in the night--just the two of us, half asleep. Why would we be SORRY about that?!

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