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#31 of 36 Old 04-09-2010, 11:01 AM
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I say thank you. It is a compliment. And then smile.
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We get to hear the "he is so adorable/cute/handsome" thing a lot, even several times in the same conversation from the same person or repeats in the next conversation I cannot stand it - isn't there anything else about my babe, that's interesting? And I am not sure how serious people really are about it. I really prefer a "he is so observant" to a "he is so cute".

Aside from that I say "thanks" and smile. I only give compliments back if I really feel like it and I only say things I really mean.

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I always just say thank you! My baby is really, really cute (seriously, objectively, not just b/c he's mine ) and is also pretty social-- always looking at people, smiling, waving-- so I get a lot of comments. Honestly, it makes me less uncomfortable than people making personal comments about *me*, I never know how to respond when someone compliments something I had nothing to do with, like my eyes. That may be because I've always been one to rush up to babies and say nice things. I love babies! And they're pretty much ALL cute one way or another. If the compliment is coming from another mama with a baby I'll generally say "yours too!"

What bugs me a little is that everyone who sees DS who also knows DH just HAS to mention how much he favors his dad! It's always "he's so cute, he looks just like his daddy!" which makes me feel a tad left out. Like, hello, those are my eyes in his face! Anyway, none of it matters a bit really.

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I usually say "Thank you!" sometimes gush and agree "She is, isn't she?" or say something specific about her cuteness (eyes, babbling, etc.) and that's usually the end of it. If I genuinely want to compliment their child, I will, but I don't worry if I don't. I don't give compliments unless they are genuine, so that's just my style.

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I have trouble with compliments in general. I learned a long time ago to just gracefully say "thank you, that's very kind of you to say" or something similar, even if I feel that the compliment is unwarranted. Then I usually quickly change the conversation

I don't think it's necessary to compliment back or rude not to do so. But if the other child has an admirable quality, why not mention it? Nice way to turn the conversation back.

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Originally Posted by JayJay View Post
So, then I can easily strike up a conversation about them as well, like "I'm sure you know exactly how that feels, since I guess this cutie belongs to you?"
i think this is really sweet and genuine.
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