Originally Posted by newmomroxi
plummeting, you've taken what I've said and thrown it down a slippery slope. OP asked if she is creating a monster and I'm simply saying that if her situation changed even slightly then yes, she is "creating a monster". I never said anything about her getting cancer or some horrible disease, or whatever it is you are suggesting. (While those things are unlikely, they're not outside the realm of possibility and the solutions you suggested like daycare and formula aren't the end of the world. But that's beside the point.) Plenty of women have gotten pregnant when they weren't planning to (me included, while on birth control no less!) so my example of an unexpected thing happening wasn't as ridiculous as you are trying to make it seem.
Actually, I wasn't trying to make anything sound ridiculous. Having just lost a relative to cancer, I don't particularly find cancer at all ridiculous. Having had a friend need to begin a medication contraindicated for breastfeeding, while her baby was a nursing infant, I don't particularly find that at all ridiculous either. My point was that anything actually is
possible (well, anything within the realm of possibility). Not ridiculous. Possible. Therefore, if one is to say that the OP should plan for situation X, because it's possible, then why not go ahead and plan for all sorts of situations, since they are also possible (again, not ridiculous, but possible).
Additionally, I never suggested that daycare or formula were bad. To say so is to say that your own original post suggested that finding an alternative to the current sleep arrangement is bad. Any of those three would be alternatives to a status quo. There's no value judgment inherent in pointing out alternatives.
|You also completely ignored when I said that
I was suggesting to OP that she should go on as she is, but look into some options and gain some knowledge about a different way of doing things. It's not b/c I think what she's doing is wrong, I actually think of her as quite a superwoman! I just want her to inform herself so that if she feels differently, she can feel comfortable with making changes.
I wasn't ignoring the rest of your post. I was voicing my disagreement with the portion of your post with which I disagreed. If the OP is concerned about some future change in situation, then that's one thing, but she did not say that she was worried about what might happen if her situation changed. Essentially what happened was that you told her that maybe she should
worry about what would happen if her situation changed. Heck, you even capitalized the whole word, "BUT" when you went on to tell her what, exactly, she might need to worry about.
Anyway, whatever. She can decide for herself what she needs to worry about, with no help from the rest of us. We all do it every day. <shrug>