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WELCOME
TO THE APRIL 2010
DDC IN LWAB!

It's wonderful to be able to continue to chat with mamas we know here in LWAB, and we hope anyone who has been part of our DDC at any time will join in whenever you can. We also welcome other moms of babies born at the same time, just help us get to know you.

Below is a list of us mamas and our little ones, as well as some extra info.
Please feel free to have this edited any time by posting your request in this thread in bold.

For now we will be a weekly thread. In the future we can lengthen the time of our threads as needed.


erickalynne, Jennings, 2/11, single mom to 2, Jennings born at 32 weeks by emergency c/s due to placental abruption

Amandamanda, Adam, 3/2, (had my dates wrong in the beginning and was actually due in march - hung out here 'cause i liked you all! )

shantiani, Astrid, 3/14. Between recurring miscarriages and then pre-eclampsia, we had to work for this baby! But now she is here and perfect and worth all of the trials.

Peace+Hope, Charlie, 3/25, late-onset Pre-E, induction at 37 weeks, no pain meds! grieving my home birth... maybe next time?

NH Mom, Charlie, 3/27

Oliver's Mama, Eli, 3/27/10

jenfl, Sprout, 3/31, home water birth, transfer at birth+10 hours, forced 3 day NICU stay for Sprout (and I) because of doctors practicing defensive medicine, ongoing breastfeeding issues due to tongue tie and high palate

Ivymae, Rebecca Joy, 4/1, Home water birth

rolenta, Naomi, 4/2

MaterPrimaePuellae, V, 4/4

Liz.Furtado, Maxwell Cohen, 4/5

Cecilia'sMama, Cecilia, 4/6, high BP at 38 weeks, avoided c-section!

finn'smama, Henry, 4/7, born at home

andlee, Ben, 4/8

RhiOrion, L, 4/8, medical induction due to Cholestasis of Pregnancy, WOHM

Dena, Hannah and Maya, 4/9

dhinderliter,R, 4/10

sewcraftygirl, Anna, 4/11

Snoopy5386, Kelsey, 4/11

Carita, Danita, 4/15 Tax Day baby , Fast and Furious NCB @ hospital w/MW and awesome doula!

GreenTeaGinger, Rowena, 4/15, midwife attended birth center birth

LenaC, Leon, 4/17, Born 16 days after his due date of April 1st. Held my ground, as doc wanted to induce for low amnio fluid. All natural hospital water birth, that lasted about 3 hours.

Jsh7809, Symphony, 4/18, PPD, emergency post birth surgery for vaginal hematoma

Triony, Tobin, 4/18

3tammuz, Aliza, 4/19, double footling breech, VBAC in a hospital

Bubbamummy, Molly, 04/21, breech with double nuchal cord leading to an 'elective' c-section at 39wks

Pepper44, Ada 4/21

Ann_of_loxley, Hamish born on the 22nd (all 12lbs 4oz of him - though do I really need to remind anyone of that? lol) - and his big brother Duncan born the 19th of September and is about to become FIVE years old! !

dogretro, dd2, 4/23, labored at home, birthed in the hospital, all-natural VBAC

mom2happy, baby girl Tess, 4/24

smeisnotapirate, Naomi, 4/25, HBAC! Shout it off the rooftops!

ebbb, Lucy, 4/27

Elecampane, Eleanor, 4/28

laughingfox, girl, 4/28, 2nd homebirth

LoveNeverFails, Mercy, 5/11, Winner of the Silver Birth Stool,
Accidental quasi-UC (midwife running in the door, but we caught head and she caught shoulders...) island birth (half in the water, half on land?), Survivor of Hostage Crisis 2010, NICU Edition, Mom of the only baby in NICU with toenails painted hot pink, and Remembering Nicholas, 11/2009

silverspook, Isaiah, 5/17, Awesome Rockstar Golden Birthstool Winner

TreefrogNYC, Benjamin Zephyr, 4/24, born at home after 7 IUIs and one m/c (3.6.09) -- husband, midwife, midwife's assistant, doula, and two cats in attendance!

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hey ladies, oops, monday not sunday for our new thread

yesterday was my birthday! i turned 37 and am overwhelmed with gratitude that i got to spend it with my best present ever, charlie. he congratulated me by cutting his first tooth . we had a busy weekend, drove 2 hrs to visit some friends friday, saturday drove straight to MIL's house for a birthday dinner, and then hiking and hanging out with my parents sunday.

charlie has started NOT being happy in the carseat just in the last week or so . i don't get it. he s.c.r.e.a.m.s., even when i'm sitting with him in the backseat. he's good for 30-45 mins, but gets fussier and fussier, and then finally loses it. last night, we were on our way home and i fed him and assumed he'd go to sleep right away in the seat. 15 minutes later, after he slowly escalated, we pulled off the highway. poor little guy was barely able to keep his eyes open, but his face was all scruntched up and soaked with tears, and he was doing that deep in the throat rumble-cry thing. i just took him out and held him, and he fell asleep in 5 minutes, no nursing or thumb sucking, just laying in my arms heaving and sighing. aghhhhh!

greentea, yay for a solution to R crying during your class! btw, i'd totally check with the career dev. and/or student work program offices, and see what students are making. i can imagine a couple of hrs a week at decent pay being great xtra cash for somebody. i did it.

jsh, LOVE san francisco and the bay area, you lucky dog! we lived in the city for 4 yrs, but eventually left for exactly the reasons you mentioned that make it difficult to live there - $$$ and no family support. oh boy, would i love to live there again. one of my favorite places on earth is point reyes. hope you're feeling better today! oh, and ditto on early morning behavior/EC. i don't want to risk waking him up and then having him not fall back asleep. and to complicate things further, he usually poops while eating at that time. we should both just buck-up and try it one morning, sleep be damned .

jenica, i looked into an arms reach co-sleeper too, in case charlie doesn't take well to the kanoe hammock for transitioning. i actually asked in nighttime parenting for advice, and i found that as soon as babies are starting to get more mobile, the raised position is not safe on any size of the co-sleepers! for me, i realized it would be a waste to buy something with a function i won't be able to use for long/at all. and it so much easier to find used P-N-P type beds! also, the mini is 22lbs, but the larger one is 35 i think, heavier than a PNP i believe.

bedsharing, i certainly planned to do it through the newborn and young infant stage, and i could keep it up. however, it's not something my husband has ever been interested in for a longer term, and he was accepting of it pretty much mainly for the science behind it for really young babies. part of getting his buy-in was not dwelling on it as a long term option. he loves having charlie with us, but is also interested in transitioning. he leaves it completely up to me, and all i have to do is mention how much easier it is for me right now for him to realize he shouldn't bring it up for another month... btw, his primary concern is snuggling with me, which we've always done all night since we've been married. he's lonely over on his side of the bed .

carita, i need to get on that bm cube train. charlie loves icecubes for teething... i have bibs but am not using them yet.

sewcrafty, any idea what happened to the BM? have you defrosted any more? i tasted a little a few weeks ago, and it was so vegetable-y, i was surprised.... is that spinach or carrot i taste? fresh, my milk tastes much more sweet and just milky.

welcome liz! and little maxwell cohen too glad to have you join in post-preg.

carita, LOVE watching football. we don't have cable, so we use it as our excuse for weekly visits with my husband's parents in the fall. my husband IS doing fantasy football - he bought a couple of fantasy mags and spent a few evenings coming up with his draft strategy. he was happy with how it went. i don't really care who's playing, as long as it's a good game. we love going to the local highschool at least once a season too, and sitting near the band.

ivy, s with becky teething so hard! i don't understand why it's so different from baby to baby, do some have more pain, or are some just more distracted/distressed....

lnf, gah, sorry for the knee pain.

me+him for 15 yrs, welcomed our little one march 25th, 2010.

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Shiny new thread! Not much new here. Parttime ECing. DD is totally loving on Sprout and calling him her best friend. He still won't take a bottle/cup/sippy, and I had to give up taking DD to a Kindermusik class because of it. Doing great sitting up, lots of lunging for toys, desperately wants to chase the cat.

Today's DD and I's first day of "preschool" at home. It's our first attempt at something fairly formal, and it's a change for all of us. Wish us luck -- and wish DH luck at keeping Sprout out of our hair during it!

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Happy Birthday, P+H!!!

Jen, good luck with preschool!

Merce had her 4 month appt on Friday, but I forgot to post it. She's 16.1 lbs, and 26 3/4 inches tall! So, really really tall, and 90th percentile in weight. Talked to ped about the whole invisible brain damage thing, and he was pretty surprised that that somehow got thrown into the mix.

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P&H - thanks for starting this! Happy birthday and happy toothday to Charlie . LOVE point reyes, one of my favorite areas on earth.

LNF - yay for the Mercinator overcoming invisible odds and growing so big and strong! She's bigger than Symphony by several pounds and inches!

I'm sicky-poo over here, bad bad sore throat. The baby seems happy and healthy though, which was my main concern. DH got up with her in the night so I could rest, however she's only satisfied with that situation up until about 5am. Even when he gives her a bottle of breastmilk, at a certain point she's like, hey, where's my mom? So she snuggled in bed with me from 5ish to 7:30 when we got up... DH said she woke up 3 or 4 times between 11 and 5, adn then with me she started wiggling awake every half hour or so. When will this madness stop?!

She's so cute and happy, though, I can't really complain. Last night we tried giving her a little (alchohol- and sugar-free) tincture to help with sleep and since I Had been "topping her off" like a crazy person and then squirted tincture in her mouth, we had one of those all-stomach barfs that we haven't had in months and that I did NOT miss. Despite my complaints a 4.5 month old baby is just leaps and bounds more fun and easier than a newborn!

Hope everyone has a happy Labor Day...
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Yep, my baby girl: She is Mercy, but has no mercy against the invisible conditions that try to thwart her awesomeness.

Jess, I'm so sorry you're sick! Sickness is not fun. And yes, they do get awfully fun around this age. Cute and interactive, but still too little to be DESTROYERS OF WORLDS!!!!

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Would whomever starts the new thread each week mind going over to the old thread and mentioning it? I bookmark it, so I was going over there and kept thinking you guys were being remarkably quiet- then I realized there was probably a new thread!!!

We had a big ol' party yesterday. There were like 10 babies or so. It was a blast, and L was exhausted and slept for 13 hours (including some nursing and diapers) last night, and has taken two naps today. We should party every weekend!

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I've been avoiding housework all day, so I thought I'd pop in and say hi!

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9yo and brand new as of 4/28/10!
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i thought about mentioning the old thread rhi, but was concerned if it was up at the top ya'll might not see the new one. if i start it again i will though.

jsh, yaaaaay, point reyes!

jenfl, hope preschool went well today. my SIL just started homeschooling her oldest, and her preschooler tags along with stuff adjusted for her. now the almost 2yo wants to participate

laughingfox!

lnf, woah, mercy maybe shoulda been named justice

me+him for 15 yrs, welcomed our little one march 25th, 2010.

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Avoiding work here too. Bleh.

Happy birthday P+H!! Sounds like it was a good one!!

Not much going on here. Working a lot, trying to catch up.

Tom is still NOT working, which makes things... interesting around here. He is never allowed to retire, I'll tell ya. He is starting to rearrange cupboards. I go to find things and have to search. Drives me nuts. When he is not doing that, he is playing video games. I have SO much on my plate and feel so overwhelmed by everything, it is making me crazy to see him sit there for hours with the wii remote in his hand. I have tried asking for help with specific things - carefully thought out requests for things that would add $$ to our bottom line, including helping me market my firm, which he is much better at than I - and he just blows me off. But he denies being depressed and won't even consider meds other than his ADD meds. Sigh. I know it is temporary and will pass and he will likely be working again soon, but still... OK /rant

I am also not dealing well with my mom's death. I think part of my brain is still in denial. I keep having dreams she has come back to life - like in the dream I know she died, but she is back again - and they are really messing with me.

But, on the bright side, Maya and Hannah are too stinkin cute for words. Still not sitting up, but getting close, I think. Maya in particular is trying to pull herself up more when she is on our laps. They are both becoming very social and dislike being alone, but are happy just to hang out in the same room near us, and don't necessarily need to be in arms all the time, which is nice. Especially because if you pick up one and not the other, the one left sitting has a FIT.

I finally got a good picture of them together in the Moby - likely the last time they will be in a front carry together. Sniff.

More pictures of them here, for anyone not on FB.

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Dena, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult it is to work through grieving about your mom when you have kids so young.

And the picture of Maya and Hannah in your Moby is so cute!! And I hear you about husband going nutty when around the house too much.

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Hey, Ladies!

I just wanted to check in. DD was born on 4/16 via c-section because my stubborn little girl was breech. Now she is an exceedingly happy, but still stubborn, 4 1/2 month old. She's been babbling SO LOUDLY lately, and she does it every morning for like 30-45 minutes in her pnp, which is right next to our bed. So DH and I just lie there looking at each other wondering what in the world she is talking about! We at least figured out who she is talking to --- the animals on her mobile.

She sits up well when supported, and she is beginning to hate tummy time a little less nowadays, but it still is not her favorite thing. She doesn't really roll over, but she can do it when placed on her back on top of us when we are lying down. As a visual--we lie down on the bed and place her across our body at our waist (like a lowercase "t"). Once we let go of her, she kicks her legs up and out to her right hand side and uses the momentum to roll up our belly. It's still not the easiest thing in the world for her to do, but when she does get all the way around, she smiles like she is so proud of herself! It's super cute. She not interested, however, in rolling over when just placed on her back on the floor or on the bed. She's more interested in waving her arms and legs around and babbling . . . LOUDLY!

It's been great reading about what everyone else has been up to!
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Welcome back, Sorin!!

One of my friends just gave birth today, and ouch.. would not want that labor. Natural, birth center birth, 9 lbs 2 oz, baby boy who WRAPPED HIS ARM AROUND HIS NECK and mom still gave birth vaginally. She was just screaming about how she was giving birth to an anvil.

AAAAHHH!!!! That might be enough to keep me unpregnant a whole other 6 months just thinking about that one!

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My birth class instructor's son came out like that. Ouch. He and his wife were actually in our class, and she really liked to tell that story

L is sitting up pretty well now, but still face plants sometimes. Today I actually stood her with her arms on the couch and she stood for a minute or so. I've also noticed that despite the fact that her arms aren't as strong as her legs she can stay pushed up if I put her like that, but she can't push herself up off of her stomach.

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Happy Birthday P+H!! And Happy Labor Day to everyone else. It is hard to imagine a year ago, all our babies were soooo tiny and all of our worries back then were so different, what a difference a year makes.

There are times when I feel frustrated by having such a small babe and how restricted I feel sometimes, but then I stop myself and remind myself that she'll only be this little for one year - one spring and summer that are already over and one fall and winter to come and that I should just sit back and soak up every second.

This weekend I was feeling this frustration - I was outside and DD1 was happily playing in her sandbox and I was holding DD2 looking at the mess that is my back patio and wishing I could just *do something* - weed, clean up, fix the patio furniture, etc. And then I stopped myself, realized that next summer I will be able to do those things, but I won't be able to hold a snuggly baby on my lap and who *cares* if the patio has weeds anyways and I just snuggled Kelsey closer, sat back and enjoyed the view.

So those of you with 7 pm bedtimes, how exactly do you do that? Over here, I consider it a good day if both kids are asleep by 9, norm is 9:30ish. By 7 we are usually either just sitting down to dinner or finishing it up, and then there is bath, stories, teeth, jammies, etc. Laying down with the older one, nursing the younger one. Even on a "good day" when DH is home early, we don't sit down for dinner until 6, normally though, I wait for him to come home before I cook so we usually eat between 6:30-7. When do you ladies eat dinner? Do you eat without your DH or does he just come home exceptionally early? I'm realizing more and more that I'll never be an early to bed, early to rise person, it is just not my personality, but I'm up for tips.

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"Preschool" went great! DH held onto Sprout, so I only had to duck out once to try to nurse him. DH got him down for a nap on some sheets on the floor of his eventual-room, but he didn't sleep well there. I think we are going to have to move him into his room sooner rather than later to give us free access to the master bedroom again. Now, to clean his room of all the CRAP that's accumulated there as he's outgrown it....

Now that Sprout is very much out of the newborn stage and firmly out of the 4 month regression, I'm just totally, deeply smitten with him. Things were just so hard with DD at this point (leaving my career, moving across the country, trying to track down the reflux/dairy issues, little sleep) that it, comparatively, feels so easy to love on him. He's cheerful and sweet and just so goofy!

And those pudgy, smootchable cheeks! Love those!

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So those of you with 7 pm bedtimes, how exactly do you do that? Over here, I consider it a good day if both kids are asleep by 9, norm is 9:30ish. By 7 we are usually either just sitting down to dinner or finishing it up, and then there is bath, stories, teeth, jammies, etc. Laying down with the older one, nursing the younger one. Even on a "good day" when DH is home early, we don't sit down for dinner until 6, normally though, I wait for him to come home before I cook so we usually eat between 6:30-7. When do you ladies eat dinner? Do you eat without your DH or does he just come home exceptionally early? I'm realizing more and more that I'll never be an early to bed, early to rise person, it is just not my personality, but I'm up for tips.
snoopy -- Our situation is different from the usual DH-works-9-to-5. My DH is home Monday-Thursday evenings and nearly totally off the board Friday-Sunday.

M-Th (both DH and I), I cook beginning around 4:30pm, we eat between 5 and 5:30pm, after that play or read until 6:20, then DH does both baths at the same time, Sprout to me to nurse to sleep at 6:45pm while he gets Nugget out of the bath and ready for bed, then after Sprout is down I come into her room and DH and I read her stories.

F-Sun (just me), we eat leftovers from the rest of the week. Again, dinner between 5 and 5:30pm, play or read, dual bath starting at 6:20. Out at 6:45, read to Nugget while Sprout hangs out on the floor and stares up at the flashing rocketship nightlight on her ceiling. Tuck her in, then nurse Sprout to sleep.

The first few months of doing bedtime solo were a disaster. But everyone is used to it now, so it goes smoothly. We're really relaxed on scheduling the rest of the day, but we're pretty strict when it comes to bed routine. A 10 minute deviation is a big deal for us, a lot because Nugget totally breaks down when you keep her up past her bedtime. Now, she doesn't fall asleep at 7pm... she can be in there, telling stories to herself and kicking the wall for up to an hour. But she's happy, that's her downtime.

PS -- Happy birthday, P+H!

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I start cooking dinner at 5 and start annas bedtime at 7:30. Dh is developing a compex over how fussy she is for him at night if he tries to help and go to her. He's even started talking how we have to do CIO so now it's my task to prove that we don't have to do that and work harder at transitioning her to her crib. He's so supportive in other areas but this is starting to get trying. Blah. Cosleeping is so easy. Sleep training is not.

DH said for me to pick out a bread machine or ice cream maker for my bday this week.Items I've been hinting at. I'm leaning towards bread maker. I just hope I'll use it.
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sew_crafty_girl -- That sucks that you guys aren't on the same page. Can you compromise, maybe put her in the crib but keep the crib in your room? That's working well for us.

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Ann_of_loxley - Hamish born on the 22nd (all 12lbs 4oz of him - though do I really need to remind anyone of that? lol) - and his big brother Duncan born the 19th of September and is about to become FIVE years old! !

(my birthday is the 13th! ).... I like Virgos and am very happy Hamish held on a few extra days to make it to a Taurus! lol

We already have two teeth here and two more are just coming in!

I am horrible with these types of threads as I can never keep up - but I will try!

If I were lucky to have another baby, I would deff aim for this time of year. April was perfect for having a baby!

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Welcoem back, Ann! Good to see you.

How are you doing with processing your birth? I know it didn't go the way you hoped and planned it would, and that can be difficult.

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hey anne, welcome . i hear charlie waking up so i can't add you right now, but i will soon!

thanks for the bday wishes

love hearing how you guys are loving your babies and the time with them! i get bored sometimes, but really love seeing this little person grow and change every day. lately, i've been thinking about my pre-e again, and thinking it might be irresponsible to go for a second pregnancy. so, i'm soaking it all in every minute!

bedtime - charlie demands to be wound down starting 7:30 at least, and is usually asleep by a few minutes after 8. we just work around whatever else we're doing. my husband works from home but typically works til at least 6:30. as soon as he's done, he plunges in to whatever we need though. so, sometimes we cook together and sometimes one or the other of us has charlie. we have always been late eaters, but are trying to sit down no later than 7... it's not easy, as set in our ways as we are after all these years

sewcrafty, we got a breadmaker for a wedding gift and used it about 5 times. it made such hard bread . that's a long time ago now though... maybe a juicer, if you want a kitchen gadget? or a immersion blender? LOVE that tool.

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You stinkers, I hadn't realized we had moved! I just have the old thread bookmarked. Oops. So is it a weekly thread, not a monthly one?

Dena. I STILL have dreams about my mom. The good ones are of siting in "her house" (usually a small craftsman style house,with loads of plants and twinkly lights on the front porch) and talking. The hard ones are the ones where I have to remind her she is dead. I cherish the first sort, but am still broken by the second type. I pray your mama finds "her house" soon, and you can start visiting her there. I go back and forth between believing it's just a place my heart invented so I could deal with the greif, and believing that it really is her in some way, where ever she went. I don't count on ever getting used to the idea of her being gone. It's not a daily sorrow now, but it also hasn't faded. Don't push yourself, you are not grieving 'wrong' - there's just no right way to do this.

Becky is feeling mildly better, thanks to oragel. I somehow managed to get through two kids without it, but Becky was a wreck, and I was willing to do anything to calm her down. T and I joke that she's such a sweet, joyful baby most of the time, that she had a lot of crying saved up. I don't remember teething being this bad with the older girls, but then again I probably blocked it out.

Also notable: she's sitting up! She still falls over after a minute, mostly because she's looking for her sisters, but she has the straight back, rahter than the hunched over 'tripod' sit. I love this stage. The next one, where they are really mobile, isn't so great (aaarrrrgggg baby proofing), but having a new vantage point is fun.

I have 29752 other comments to reply to, but am late, always late, getting out the door. Now that i know where you guys are I'll come back this afternoon.

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How are you doing with processing your birth? I know it didn't go the way you hoped and planned it would, and that can be difficult.
I think it is something I will be processing for the rest of the my life. I doubt we will ever have more children. At this point, if we were to shoot for a third, my only reason would be the hopeful vaginal birth. I can think of a million reasons why I am happy with the two I have - and only one reason why I would want a third. So I don't think we will be trying for a third. I hope that does't make me sound terribly sad. Its the truth though. There are many moments of the day I still sit there and think about it all. I know (simply - if that is possible! lol) having a vaginal birth would be terribly healing for me - in many more ways than one! - but a third pregnancy would be hard on my body I think. I know this will all get easier when I no longer have a baby - because when you no longer have a baby, most of the people you hang out with also no longer have babies so you arn't always talking about pregnancy and births, etc. So hopefully, I will eventually be able to bottle all of that up and just hide it somewhere - out of sight, out of mind? Totally healthy right? lol

Wow - Hamish is no where near sitting up! He has a rather long torso though so he is a bit extra top heavy. He also always trys to lung forward. We call it the suicide leap because it doesn't matter where he is - he is always trying to do it. This makes trying to sit up not possible at the moment because he just leaps forward back onto his tummy. DS1 didn't sit up until he was near 11 months old though. Wonder if Hamish will do the same?

I find it fascinating comparing the two. Not in a competetive way - just in a 'wow - they are SO different!' kinda of way. I really enjoy being a mother of two and am still loving this age gap!

Mummy me : > Thats Ann! and my beautiful SONS Duncanand Hamish 19/09/05 & 22/04/10!
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My son was sitting for short periods by this age and Maia was by 6 mos; but Anna is still li
Lunging all over the place too.

Do you guys find that baby abandoned a skill for a while when then focus on a new one? She used to roll tummy to back bur gave that up when she learned back to tummy and now that she's making more noises and blowing raspberries she barely rolls at all and is happy to lay there.

I'll talk to dh about crib in our room.
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This weekend I was feeling this frustration - I was outside and DD1 was happily playing in her sandbox and I was holding DD2 looking at the mess that is my back patio and wishing I could just *do something* - weed, clean up, fix the patio furniture, etc. And then I stopped myself, realized that next summer I will be able to do those things, but I won't be able to hold a snuggly baby on my lap and who *cares* if the patio has weeds anyways and I just snuggled Kelsey closer, sat back and enjoyed the view.
Awwww, I definitely catch myself in the same thing a lot. For instance, today I have a babysitter and then my mom coming (I have a cold and need to catch up on work, too), and then DH comes home and helps with bedtime. So I've been trying to have a LOT of snuggle time with the baby, since she'll get less one on one time with me later. It's crazy how busy things tend to be, I have to stop and think, wait, this little girl wants nothing more than to be carried close to my heart, I need to make time for that!

Bedtime: ours was getting later and later, more and more informal, and suddenly she wasn't going to sleep before 11pm AND was still getting up at 6 or 7. Phew! So I tried going back to the No Cry Sleep Solution's recommendations, and I think part of it was that she was finally ready and part of it was that the sun goes down a little earlier now. So we start getting her ready at 7 (bathtime, pajamas, storytime, cuddles and nursing with mama, swaddle) and she drifts off about 7:30. This has been a HUGE accomplishment for us (so I'm sure it'll change any day now). She often wakes back up and needs resettling every hour for a bit after that, but sometimes she sleeps for 3 hours or so before waking up. It used to drive me so crazy that she would always wake up after her first sleep cycle, but I really do think they're at the age now where they like the routine. She can seem wide awake and as soon as we complete the little bedtime routine, she starts yawning hugely (which is SO cute!). I've noticed she needs less sucking to fall asleep now, too.

Next up, I am going to try to use the NCSS to hopefully get her to learn to resettle herself so she's not waking up every 1-2 hours. I miss the nights of 5 hour stretches! However, it's going to take a lot of patience and I'm already so exhausted... bah.

S is still not into rolling, although she does lots of baby bridge poses and when she's on her tummy she pushes way way up. She seems frustrated to not already be more mobile. I love watching her discover things and delight in her world. She's finding her tongue more - lots of raspberries and spit bubbles - this morning she somehow got spit in my eye!

She's sitting up unsupported!! Not totally steady, but it's getting there. I can't believe this is the same little baby I couldn't even hold one handedly to eat dinner a few months back. Love it!
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I too have been wondering how those of you with traumatic or disappointing births are coping. Ann, I can totally relate to that feeling of "if I have another, it would be to prove something to myself/ have a different experience"... I feel like I would only want another baby so I could do it "Right", both birth wise and without falling into a scary PPD black hole afterwards. Not the best of reasons!
I know that if you or I do have another child, it would be for lots of good reasons, too, but right now that's the only impetus I have. I plan to just have this one (that was the plan all along) and live vicariously through friends by getting to hold their newborns and then go home and sleep

How about those with the NICU stays? Feeling more resolved? I am feeling much more okay about my post birth trauma/ surgery, and am working on coming to terms with the PPD stuff. I'm feeling much more like myself but it's scary to think back about how awful things got, how hopeless I felt. I've thought about ways of "going public" or trying to give PPD less of a stigma, but that's a pretty intense idea. Not sure what or how or if I"m ready.

Oh, and Ann, I think the long torso prohibits S from rolling much (or maybe it's the chubby thighs?). And I have a friend with a 1 year old who does the same kind of "suicide leap" (that's what they call it too!) when she's tired and frustrated... she'll be in their arms and suddenly fling herself forward or back with her arms out, crying. Funny!

More baby cuteness - S doesn't seem to be much of a shrieker but she has started exploring the highs and lows of her voice and it is adorable. I can already picture her telling herself little stories in bed at night or in the morning. I love this little girly, and I feel so grateful to see all of her little personality things come out!

She's a tough customer when it comes to giggling, although she'll grin at anything and is a very happy girl over all. What makes your babies laugh? S is hard to get to laugh, but when she does, it's the biggest high I've ever felt.

Sorry for the looong serial posting, I'm just excited (albeit sleep deprived) to be here with all of you!
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Happy belated birthday, P+H

sew_crafty- I also have a breadmaker that makes very hard bread. The breadmaker can't pre-heat before it bakes, since the bread's already in there, and I think that's what causes the weird texture if you bake it in there.
What I do is let the bread complete its rise cycle in the breadmaker, then take it out, shape it, and bake it in fancy artisan loaves. Then I get the perfect texture. My breadmaker has a "dough" cycle for this.

Blargh. I am having a day.
I have an offer for part time work, but I don't know yet what the pay will be like.
I thought I had a baby sitter lined up, someone who's totally awesome and very AP, but now that's seeming like it might not work out, so I might have to go with *gasp* a stranger I found on the internet!! I found a lady on craigslist, and I talked to her on the phone, and am going to meet with her on Thursday. She sounds really nice, I'm just .... so not happy with this whole idea.
Besides, if the pay isn't good at the job, I'd be paying more for childcare than I'd be earning, which is pretty pointless.

I just can not figure out a way to fix our finances, and it's killing me. DH is already working 2 jobs, and is already applying to lots of other jobs hoping he can find someone willing to pay a decent wage.

I was going to go back to college, and have been approved for loans and grants, but I can't get them until my application to the school is approved, and that can't happen before they get my transcripts, and I can't afford the transcript fees, so I'm just stuck.

In so many ways, just stuck.

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This weekend I was feeling this frustration - I was outside and DD1 was happily playing in her sandbox and I was holding DD2 looking at the mess that is my back patio and wishing I could just *do something* - weed, clean up, fix the patio furniture, etc. And then I stopped myself, realized that next summer I will be able to do those things, but I won't be able to hold a snuggly baby on my lap and who *cares* if the patio has weeds anyways and I just snuggled Kelsey closer, sat back and enjoyed the view.
I remind myself of this everyday! When I find myself thinking 'boy I wish I could just...'...I remember that this time is so short and he will soon be off and running away from me! lol

Mummy me : > Thats Ann! and my beautiful SONS Duncanand Hamish 19/09/05 & 22/04/10!
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Jess, I'm doing better at this point. I still need to see the medical records from the bigger hospital, but I know exactly what I'm looking for on the records and will just chill out and ignore everything else. It was a bit triggery for me to write up and go through my birth story for the news article, especially because the writer came back to me with edits asking for more information about how I felt, was I scared, etc. But I'm doing ok for the most part.

Jess, you seem to much happier and more content compared to where you were a couple of months ago, and I'm so so so relieved for you.

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