DS went through a phase where he would only nap in arms too. I think he was older than your L.O. but I can't remember for sure. I got some good books from the library and used a boppy so I could hold him, drink a coffee and read in the dimmed room. I also ended up napping while sitting in the chair a fair bit myself! It was frustrating, but it did pass after maybe a month. Sorry, I think that you're probably looking for a tip or trick to help DD sleep. Other than the carrier which you said isn't working I don't have any! My tips and tricks are for your sanity (napping and reading). Just wanted you to know it will pass.
N, wife to my goofball K and mamma to my EC grad D (July 2010) and my new little love S (May 2013). Exploring the uncharted territory of tandem nursing with my two boys.
This probably isn't what you were hoping to hear, but this is exactly how DD was when she was little. I held her all of the time for naps because she would give me long naps that way. If I laid her in her bassinet, then I would get short naps, so I would hold her to get more of a break.
Now, she sleeps 1-2 hours in her crib, when I would maybe get 45 minutes. I really didn't do much different, except she just got older. Really, I think as far as sleeping goes, sometimes it just takes time. Not what you wanted to hear, but it was true for me.
Honestly, holding her for her naps is really some of my best memories of those early days. Now my baby is older and so I can't get away with holding her all of the time. She sleeps a lot lighter and so she naps much better if I put her down for her naps in her crib. So, no more cuddle naps for us, which is actually pretty sad. She is crawling now, so she would much rather be crawling around then cuddling with mom. Soak this time up! It is so short. I agree with the other poster, get a snack, pop in a movie, and enjoy the time that you have with your little one while she is this small.
Sorry I don't have any tips or tricks either. All I did was wait it out and it got better. I spent a lot of energy trying to get DD to sleep on her own, in her bassinet and in the end, I just gave in, cuddled with her for every nap and in the end, really cherished those times.
Have you tried swaddling? That was our answer to get DD to nap out of arms. I think we accomplished it around 4 months. Up until then she always slept in someone's arms for naps.
I really appreciate the encouragement and support- thank you! It is nice to hear that others have confronted similar napping quirks. I thought I was doing something wrong. And today was much better- it really helps to get the three hours to myself when the sitter is here. She's a dream with the baby- i'm so fortunate in that regard! I will definitely take your advice and luxuriate in the cuddle sessions, although it's hard to imagine a baby this snuggly could ever resist being held. That *will* make me sad!
Yes, swaddling! That was the one thing that really helped. we used the velcro swaddle blankets and they rocked. Oh, and maybe a white noise machine? We have one for our baby and it keeps all the noises at bay. Nothing more frustrating that putting you baby to sleep only to have her woken up by a random noise.