Finn has flat -spots-, but I don't see the flat head alltogether. I think if you look, so can see that while there are 'angles' to it, he doesn't have the whole back of his head flat like the picture. My guess is it's just his head changing shape still and he'll outgrow it. Could you place him on a flat surface and look at it from that angle? I think you'll see that where his head actually touches the surface, it's not flat at all. I really don't think it's anything you're doing, and is just normal baby head changing shape.
MW-- is there anyone in your schooling groups that you would trust to do trade off mornings? Do for instance monday mornings at her house, and wednesday mornings at yours, that way you have a bit of time for yourself, but the boys are with someone who you know shares the same ideals? It's a tough spot to be in. Even with DD this young, and much less to consider, I have a hard time thinking of anyone I would feel completely confident about leaving her with. Not that she wouldn't be safe, but just that I don't feel our wishes would be 100% respected.
Maybe Ryan would care for them for an hour or two? It sounds like he's been better about helping out around the house, and maybe with a payment incentive, especially if he understood how much you needed just a bit of a break.
Would K do a workout type video? It sounds funny for such a young guy, but I've seen a lot of young ones who really enjoy following those, and seeing if they can mimic what's on the tv. It's a challenge, and it makes them feel very adult. You can get some exciting kick boxing type ones, or try to make it more calming and do a yoga one. Could be worth a shot!
AFU-- DD had SUCH a good evening/night last night! We sat and watched a hockey game at night, which she loves because of the colors and shapes moving, and then I was nursing her at about 930, and we remembered we had to go to my fathers to feed his cats, so we ran the quick errand, which broke up her concentration, and then when we got home, I nursed again at about 1030, and she fell asleep, and DH and I had a chance to have a really good long serious tlak from like 11pm until 130am. Then he went to bed, I finished on the computer and went to sleep at 2am. I put her in bed beside me, because I figured she'd be up in the next 30 minutes or so, but she slept until 3:30am! 4.5 hours, and that's including a move in location. Then she slept from 4 until 7 in the bassinet, fed, etc, and then slept again in the bassinet until just after 9. She got up for the day, we changed her, fed, she puked everywhere, so we gave her a bath, and then played, and now she's napping again in my lap at 10:30! And it actually feels like a solid sleep! If I can somehow manage to keep her asleep for 90 minutes or so, I think we could have a good day on our hands! She just usually gets so overtired she doesn't know what to do with herself.
AND, I pumped yesterday just before a feeding for 5 minutes or so, just to take some off the top because I was leaking all over the place, and then I pumped while she was feeding as well. Soooo awkward, but worth it. I got 3.5 ounces in the total of about 15 minutes. Usually in about 25-30 minutes I -might- get 2oz, but I feel like I'm fighting for every drop. I want to start building up a bit of a freezer stash, so I feel much better about this. There's been a couple times where I've been exhausted, and DH has offered to take her to his sisters and 'play' there for a few hours, so I can sleep uninterrupted, but I've never had enough milk to send with her, so we couldn't. If we get a few feedings worth in the freezer, then we can do that if I need.
Guys, it's been like... 15 hours without a screaming fit! I'm torn between being in shock, and being in heaven. She's fussing like a normal baby, without having looooong bouts of uncontrollable shrieking.
Oooh, and she's been wearing her necklace now for 5 days I think? I don't know if I've noticed a difference in the reflux (maybe that was last night though...) but she woke up this morning and I realized her baby acne, which had gotten pretty bad, is almost gone. Yay!