I know I'm not the only one who has survived this "style" of baby. For those of you who have kids who used to need to be worn to nap (or have you lie down with them), but can now sleep without being held/worn, when/how did the change happen? I guess it's really two different issues: the ability to fall asleep without being worn, and the ability to be put down and stay asleep (for more than a few minutes) when she falls asleep nursing.
I've never appreciated DD1 so much -- I could lay her down for a nap and take a shower or reach down into the washing machine! Bliss!
Just writing to say I'm right there with you! My little baby boo (4 months) prefers to only nap while being worn. I've talked to several mothers who babies were the same way and they all said the same thing... baby will eventually grow out of it. When, I'm not sure.
So just wanted to give some empathy and for now I will continue to wear him :)
We went through that for the first 3 months with our son (he's 4 months now). My dh finally had it one day because his back and knees were killing him. He revisited the swaddle and we haven't looked back since. We have an entire routine now...I darken his room, turn on THREE noise makers - one in the room, one on his swing and one in a stuffed giraffe hanging from his swing. They aren't loud...they just surround him with water noise. Then I swaddle him, nurse him to sleep and then gently place him in the swing. I cover him with a blanket too.
I have to admit that I had given up on swaddling and thought we would be wearing him forever. Now that he's more aware of his surroundings, he wakes up easily, so I'm glad he's in his own room. We don't have to tiptoe around and whisper anymore.
Mom to my little super hero (02/06) and our super hero-in-training (11/11).
Keep the inspiration coming! I know they will grow out of the need eventually -- my question is, when did it happen for you? Or what did you do to encourage it?
When the day care started with it, did they swaddle and then feed or jiggle/rock until he was asleep, then lay him down? Or just swaddle and lay down awake and he would fall asleep?
DS - planned born via 4/4/2011
My little guy was like that for his first 4 months -- he couldn't fall asleep unless he was worn or in someone's arms. But at around 4 months, we tried more seriously putting him down on his own in his basinet, and it only took a few days before he was able to fall and stay asleep on his own. I think for him it was something that he just outgrew.
I, too had tried everything -- white noise, hammock, bouncer, bassinet, bed...it seems like he finally just decided one day that he would do it. Hang in there!
- a simple pre-nap ritual (diaper change, shades down, white noise on, short lullabye in the rocking chair, laying her down in the crib)
- white noise -- makes a huge difference in how fast & easily she falls asleep
- no swaddle -- I'm a HUGE believer in swaddling and have seen it help so much, but over and over, it doesn't seem to make much difference for this baby
- being on her front -- just started doing this at 5 1/2 months now that she can roll so well. I think it's legal once they can roll, since they can put themselves on their bellies anyway?
With that ritual and a couple days of the Baby Whisperer's pick up/put down technique, she reached the point that she was going to sleep in her crib with me patting her back for all naps, falling asleep within 5-10 minutes. Then for the last three, I tried it without patting (just sitting in the room) and she's fallen asleep all by herself, no patting, within 2 minutes, no tears! Her naps are mostly lasting 1 1/2 to 2 1/2 hours now. (For a while I was doing a "soothe-through," going into her bedroom 35 minutes after her eyes first closed, and patting her back for 10 minutes to get through the light sleep period, so she'd sleep another hour or more. Now she doesn't seem to need that anymore.) She's still co-sleeping with us at night.
Amazing! After wearing her for nearly every nap for the first 4 months of her life, I never imagined we'd be here at 5 1/2 months! I can shower again -- woo-hoo!
I never swaddled Little, it didn't work for us, but I lay her down for naps on her stomach. I know this is controversial and not everyone is comfortable with it. It always kept her from startling awake though. Her eyes might pop open for a second when I lay her down after nursing her to sleep, but I can usually pat her back for a few minutes and she'll settle right down.
Momma-ing the Muffin since October 2011!
I just found this site today and am so blessed by it! I have been perusing all the posts and found such great suggestions for the various questions I have been having. I have an 11 week old and he loves sleeping in his sling or Ecosash, but I too, am having trouble putting him in his pack and play or crib once he falls asleep. I have to say we started with "preparation for parenting" book by Ezzo's but abandoned it quickly because it was so counter intuitive to me. Being a new mom, I really had no idea what to do and my sister used that method. She gave me the book and, having no relationship with my own mother, I only had my sister's guidance. But, for me, it was terrible. I thank God I can hear his Spirit because He was telling me all along that this was not good for my newborn son. So I found Attachment Parenting and we haven't looked back. Now, we are definitely attached. I would like, however, to put him down for at least 1-2 hours a day so I can exercise or work in the yard. We stopped swaddling because he would kick out of it but after reading some of these, I am going to try it again to see if that will help him. We also have a special pillow for him to sleep on his side and I have pulled that out again. THANK YOU to all the mama's that are replying and helping me with my situation!
thanks! the swadding is working like a charm and he will take at least 2-1 hour naps in his bed during the day. I love wearing him and don't want to give that up and he will sleep the longest then. He is so sweet that I don't mind it and the time I have been able to "find" has given me time to exercise, even briefly, and shower before my hubby gets home from work! I have used the white noise from day 1 and have a fan in his room too. My husband likes to sleep in silence and didn't understand it at first but now, he totally gets it! I appreciate the support and will keep experimenting! I have used the swing more too and he is loving it.