I read and research different ideas (Dr Sears, and no cry sleep solution) but we already incorporate many of their tips, to no avail. I am exhausted and desperate for sleep!!! EVERYONE I TALK TO is pressuring me to let her cry it out. I don't even want to discuss her issues with anyone anymore, because that's all I hear. I feel so helpless. Some days I can't stop crying - those days are usually when she also won't take her nap. Ugh. HELP!
Could she be hungry? Sleep patterns changed drastically when I started giving my baby some serious dinner (complete meal with veg, protein, grains, fat). Your daughter is 11 months, she should be eating practically everything at this point.
If she's wanting to nurse even after she just finished a while ago, it could be hunger or comfort nursing. Even after my baby was eating well, and I knew he could sleep through the night because he had done so before, he still would wake up every 3 hours, nurse for five minutes and fall back asleep (he sleeps in his own room). It was always at the same times, so I realized it had to do with sleep cycles. We didn't let him CIO, but instead of nursing him we would go into his room when he woke, and stroke his back or pat his bum until he calmed down enough to fall asleep. We didn't pick him up or rock him because then when you put him down he wakes up. I did it gradually, substituting the patting/stroking instead of nursing once a night (and I would still nurse the other times he woke), then twice in a night, until I wasn't nursing at night... And wouldn't you know it, he no longer wakes up to nurse and is sleeping through the night. And the best part is that now I put him down to nap or to sleep at night, rub his back for a bit and walk out, and he falls asleep on his own.
Hope this helps... It's not easy or a quick fix, but it helps the baby learn to self-soothe and releases her from the dependence on nursing to fall back asleep.
Hubby and I are so beat. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I'm not expecting her to sleep through the night, but just to sleep better and not wake up so much.