I want to raise him to be well behaved, how do you all handle that situation? I'm thinking if we let him cry there without trying to talk to him maybe he will start to think we don't care about him. Or do we let him get over it and show him he can't always get his ways? Please no rude answers
Mother of two spectacular girls, born mid-2010 and late 2012
At that age I stuck with a sympathetic "I know it is hard to be told no. I have to help you learn the rules though." I would give a hug if the kid wants one and other than that let them cry. Everyone has to deal with the hard fact that you are going to be told no in life. *shrug*
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
My 20 month old son, like any other baby is always wanting to grab something and when we don't let he starts crying and runs to a corner of the house and just sits crying.
Having a toddler, I deal with this a lot. My responses are usually some combination of the following:
1. Oops, that's not for touching. (before he grabs the item--sometimes effective)
2. Confiscate/redirect. Can I see that? Here's something for you...(often works)
3. Oops, that's dangerous, ouchy, hot, etc. Not safe! Sorry bud. Here's lets go do something else...
4. Environmental modification (knowing what some of his triggers are, I try to make sure he doesn't have access to the things I'm most concerned about--or has adequate alternatives to those items (e.g. nonworking remotes).
5. Brief exploration--sometimes if it's not dangerous, I'll let him explore the item for a minute, but then it goes bye-bye.
6. That's life--sometimes I have to take something away, and there's nothing much that can be done about it. I try to be empathetic but firm (I know you want that, but it's going bye-bye now), he cries, I dry his tears, and we regroup and move on with our lives.
My kid isn't particularly strong willed, so as long as I catch him early, I can usually get him to surrender the object without a lot of fuss. I realize gentle approaches often don't work well with stronger-willed children.
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