Hi all. I have a wonderful 4.5 month old who has become very attached to me. Not that I mind being the only apple of her eye, but it's becoming a stressful situation during the times when I need to leave her with someone else. I teach yoga twice a week, and soon will begin attending births as a doula again (although this is limited). Currently when I leave her with my husband, she cries uncontrollably until I come home. Last week it was for an hour straight. She seems to do better during the day, but is still really fussy. I nurse her before I leave & also leave a bottle for her. As much as I love being so attached to her, it would be nice to leave her without worrying about if her caregiver is going through utter hell while I'm gone. I'm wondering if anyone else has been through a similar situation and has any advice on how to get baby a little more attached to my husband. We've talked about him attending to her more (right now he's being the primary night time parent for our 3 y.o. son) and trying to wear her more when I'm gone. I'm also a little concerned about the possibility of me having to leave in the middle of the night to attend a birth, as she likes to be attached most of the night. Any and all suggestions are more than welcome. Thanks!
Beth - blissfully married to Doug. DS - Liam (5/10) & Darcy (2/13). . New SAHM & Labor Doula.
Welcome baby girl! Born at home, in the water, in the caul, and caught by daddy. February 24, 2013!
I basically have the same problem as you. My baby apparently fusses and cries whenever he's with someone other than me. I think some kids are just more sensitive that way--unfortunately there's not really a whole lot you can do about it, but eventually they do grow a little less mamacentric. Bad news--it won't be for awhile...
Since you can't wait it out, make sure you find a caregiver who has the patience to deal with the crying and has some good comforting moves. Daddy would be ideal, but sometimes fathers take it very personally that they can't comfort a child who's craving mama, so sometimes it's better to find someone else who won't be offended if the baby cries a lot.