I wrote this article that might be useful to pass on to friends/family on ways to TRULY help support you postpartum~ check it out : http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-12727/7-ways-to-be-there-for-a-friend-whos-just-had-a-baby.html
I wrote it because for some reason, people seem to think that the best way to "help" is to hold the baby- and it's not!!
Nice article! In the tip about cleaning, though, I would caution people to ask first--cleaning someone else's house without asking can seem very judgmental.
One of the nicest things a friend did for us, not immediately postpartum but around 9 or 10 weeks, was offer to hold the baby while my partner and I spent some time together. He offered right after baby had fallen asleep nursing, knowing that that meant he would not be hungry immediately on waking so would be willing to wait a while for Mama. We appreciated the acknowledgement that our baby would sleep longer if being held and that there were certain things we couldn't do while holding him; our friend all but stated outright, "Go upstairs and have sex!"
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I just bookmarked the link so I can pass it out when I get there! Thanks!