One year old fighting sleep
Hi mamas. I could really use some advice and/or support right now. I'm feeling pretty exasperated about my almost one-year-old and sleep. Until recently, he took all naps in the Ergo. About a month ago we transitioned to me nursing him to sleep in our family bed for naps. It was going pretty well, except that he seems to always wake after a half hour. Then all of the sudden he seemed to be fighting all sleep, both nap times and bedtime. Now when I take him in for a nap or bed, even when he's obviously already tired, it's as if he can't stop moving. He'll nurse, then sit up abruptly, crawl around, I'll try to wrangle him into a nursing position again, he'll cry, I'll let him crawl awhile, try again, over and over, until finally he nurses to sleep (or nurses a bit then rolls over and goes to sleep). It's so exhausting for me, and I sometimes have a hard time containing my frustration. And, of course, I always think, "what am I doing wrong?" I don't like feeling like I'm wrestling him -- I strive to be respectful of him and his needs, including his need to move! -- but it seems if I don't try to contain him a little he would never sleep again. (I'm sure this isn't true, of course.) It just feels like a battle, and I'm feeling so disconnected from him lately. It makes me so very sad. Does this sound normal? Should I not try to physically contain him when he's crying/trashing/trying to escape so he can crawl more? What's the gentle and respectful thing to do in this case (while also keeping my sanity and getting him some sleep)? Thank you in advance for your thoughts.