FTM here in need of some major help :/!! DD has pretty bad reflux, so we've been advised to keep her upright as much as possible/burp her over shoulder/hold her upright. However, everytime I (or DH) try to carry her chest to chest or up over one shoulder supporting her head or have her lay on our chests, she gets really tense and starts moving her head around super fast from side to middle to other side, and then crying! Sometimes she will also kick her legs and try to crawl up my chest! The few times she has fallen asleep on my or dh's chest (when she has been suuuper tired and not able to fight sleep), she wakes up immediately crying out as if in pain, and squirming even harder!
What I am wondering is: does she not like this position because it triggers her rooting reflex and she gets frustrated, or because it causes her some type of genuine discomfort? If it's the rooting thing, then of course we will keep trying it and trying to use the pacifier to help distract her (only works every once in a while), as it is a really beneficial way to keep her upright for her reflux! However, if this position is causing her some type of discomfort, then of course I don't want to keep trying this, but it's just really hard to tell which it is! I know it's not hunger, because she does it even when she it totally full right after a feeding.
So, just wondering, have any other mothers experienced this type of a reaction to holding their newborn lo chest to chest/shoulder? Her pediatrician checked her and structurally, her back/neck/ect looks fine and she does not seem to have any issues there. Just want to know if this is normal or something I should look into further....I haven't been able to find anything about this online (lots of info about babies who hate laying flat, but none about babies who respond negatively to chest to chest/shoulder), so any personal experiences or thoughts would be so helpful!
Thanks SO much