Hello all! I'm new to the forums. From what I've seen, this is the best place to tap into for advice on what I'm experiencing:
My husband and I are considering moving closer (e.g. to a new state) to my mother (the only grand we have left to help) to give our son (3 mos in Nov) a better support system as we're working, going back to school, etc.
My mother and I do not get along, however. And this raises the question of whether this is a good move, because:
I have decided to EBF my little one. No solids (YET). No formula. NO.
But every other phone conversation, she brings up a new formula to try. Literally EVERY other conversation. She's even called at 7am to recommend a new formula, as if I haven't already told her no and given research and named the doctor I spoke to about it. To pour oil onto the situation, she retorts with "IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD, YOU WILL GIVE HIM XYZ FORMULA" at which point I now say, "Oh. Let me call you back. I have to go." -- because, WHO says that to their daughter?
Anyway,
Even so, my mother seems to be the last resort for affordable & loving childcare as my husband and I work & save money to make a good living foundation for our little family. Rock and a hard place. Maybe I'm making a big deal out of it, but this is my child. My decisions.
I actually had a dream about drafting a binding legal contract with a $3,000 fine for every offense (e.g. giving my baby formula).
With the situation explained above--HELP!--any ideas on how to establish boundaries?
Should we even consider the move at this point, seeing as how I'm unsure if I can trust her to make our lives any easier (like, if I'd have to argue every parenting decision).
Also, I hope this is in the right forum!
My husband and I are considering moving closer (e.g. to a new state) to my mother (the only grand we have left to help) to give our son (3 mos in Nov) a better support system as we're working, going back to school, etc.
My mother and I do not get along, however. And this raises the question of whether this is a good move, because:
I have decided to EBF my little one. No solids (YET). No formula. NO.
But every other phone conversation, she brings up a new formula to try. Literally EVERY other conversation. She's even called at 7am to recommend a new formula, as if I haven't already told her no and given research and named the doctor I spoke to about it. To pour oil onto the situation, she retorts with "IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD, YOU WILL GIVE HIM XYZ FORMULA" at which point I now say, "Oh. Let me call you back. I have to go." -- because, WHO says that to their daughter?
Anyway,
Even so, my mother seems to be the last resort for affordable & loving childcare as my husband and I work & save money to make a good living foundation for our little family. Rock and a hard place. Maybe I'm making a big deal out of it, but this is my child. My decisions.
I actually had a dream about drafting a binding legal contract with a $3,000 fine for every offense (e.g. giving my baby formula).
With the situation explained above--HELP!--any ideas on how to establish boundaries?
Should we even consider the move at this point, seeing as how I'm unsure if I can trust her to make our lives any easier (like, if I'd have to argue every parenting decision).
Also, I hope this is in the right forum!