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#1 of 3 Old 07-09-2004, 03:17 PM - Thread Starter
 
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AAARRRGGHH!

My DD is almost 11 mos. old and into everything. Yesterday, when she was pulling on the cat's tail, I said "NO" in my "stern mommy" voice and shook my finger. She thought it was the funniest thing and laughed for a good three minutes.

Later, when she was trying to open the toilet seat, I did the same thing...and she did the same thing.

What am I doing wrong? Is this normal?

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i think its totally normal.
i also think the word 'no' is entirely overused and misunderstood.

with roman, 11 1/2mos, we say "thats not for you. thats for the dogs".
or "oh. lets not touch that. lets touch this instead"

lots of redirections vs the expectation that they'll associate a word with a behavior kwim?

this age is all about testing, and all about discovering a sense of humor. So to them it IS hysterical when we get upset or try to be super firm.

redirection redirection redirection. Or buy a potty seat lock. lol
we move the dogs dishes during the day so that our little guy isn't constantly trying to eat dog food or splash in the water dish.

with the animals instead of "no" we use "gentle hands" and do assisted petting. Gentle hands comes in handy in all kinds of ways. Gentle hands on mamas breast. Gentle hands on your sisters hair please. Gentle hands on the tv. And assisting them in doing whatever it is. or not. Closing the bathroom door works for us with the potty fascination.

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ITA with colorful~mama

I try real hard to offer explanations instead of just saying "NO" because I know that for me, telling me not to do something is meaningless unless I know why I shouldn't do it.
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