It is so great that you care that much about your friend and her baby. It is a really good sign that she's asking you for parenting advice. I think you should gently tell her what you think, then accept her regardless of her choice. That's a sign of a great friendship. What concerns me more than the cio for 2 hrs, is that she is trying to take the easy way out of everything. I think all mom's can understand from time to time how she feels, but if she is always taking the easy way out it is really going to damage her daughter in the long run. Maybe you should start with that issue since it seems to be the most underlying and pervasive one. Try explaining to her that the best things in life are certainly not easy. Like a marriage for example. A great marriage is a ton of hard work, but well worth it.
Maybe you could try and boost her mothering confidence by telling her yeah it is a lot of work, but it's what's best for your child and I know that you are strong enough to do it. Perhaps she isn't feelin supported and encouraged enough by her partner, friends, and family so she keeps taking the easyway.
Hope that helps and keep us updated on how everything goes with your friend. And remember to try not to take responsiblibty for her choice, so don't feel bad if she still doesn't listen when you have done everything you can!
Ashley, Jesus loving mama to Jaden (8) Trace (6) and Liam (3) and fost/adopt twins Talia and Oliva (1). Happily married for a decade!