I just had another thought on this. The overall health of our children is sometimes greater than us and what we do. There are plenty of people who basically neglect their children, feed them total garbage, and do not really care for their emotional well being who have amazingly healthy well adjusted children who grow into happy adults. Sometimes we can be doing ALL the right things, love our children, care for them in every way possible and they still get really sick or have an unforseen illness as in the pp's experience.
If our love and intuition alone could guarentee the health of our children, there wouldn't be ear infections, colds, puke flu or worse. That being said, I don't take dd every time she gets a sniffle, but it is nice to have the relationship over the long haul so that if their was something really wrong that I was in denial about or was unaware of, the MD's can work with me in maintaining the health of my child.
If you don't have a good MD, find one! You don't need to put up with someone being rude, ignorant, or disrespectful. There are plenty of good doctors out there who will work with you.
As I said before, maybe Im just more mainstream on this, but I really can not imagine not ever taking my child to the doctor.