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Originally Posted by ajlanders
My daughter is now one year old and thinks she needs to be held and nursed all the time. She wants to be held all the time and won't go to sleep unless I am holding her and nursing. If I try to put her down she starts crying and won't stop. I also have a two year old daughter who needs my attention and I can't always give it to her because of the younger one. I hate to let her cry but I don't know what to do. I have tryed rocking and singing to her and rubbing her back with her in the crib, she is just soooo clingy. She does the same thing when I try to wean her. HELP!! What should I do? I don't get any sleep or have time to do things that need to get done.
Originally Posted by Anguschick1
Has your daughter started walking recently? I found w/ds that when ever he was about to accomplish another developmental milestone he regressed just prior. And right around 1 is when he went back to being almost as needy as a newborn! Or so it seemed.
Your daughter is still figuring out her place in the world, that she and you are seperate beings, that when you leave a room you still exist and WILL come back. We as a society think of 1 year olds as toddlers and little kids, but they are more like babies than preschoolers. It could be possible that your daughter is a more cautious, cuddly person than your eldest. Doesn't make it wrong, just different.
Regarding breastfeeding/weaning, maybe she senses that you are trying to wean her and remove that source of comfort in her life (as seen from her perspective) and she isn't ready for it to go yet. The AAP recently recommended nursing AT LEAST one year and as long after as is mutually desired. Maybe she really needs it still, not only for the nutrition, but for the comfort and love she gets "refilled" with everytime you do it.
Hugs to you Mama, it's a rough time, but in a year you'll be trying to cuddle w/her and she'll be saying, "No, no, no - side" (which means outside) while pushing away from you.
Peace and Light to you Mama.