My girls have been sick for 2 months straight.I am doing everything I can and know how to find out the cause.The most difficult to treat is the constant runs they have had for 9 weeks straight.So I am in tears talking to my terribly toxic mother(first mistake)saying,I dont know what else to do mom or where to go from here.She says welll what about your milk?
Me-what about it?its the best thing for them especially now when they wont drink or eat anything else.
Her-well it can go bad
me-no it cant
her- oh yes it can!
me_no mom it cant.it doesnt go bad or go sour.
her-charmaine,I KNOW it doesnt go sour,but it does go bad.
me-ok mom,i am not going to argue about this anymore.I will say that i know it doesnt bc i have done so much reading about BM that I know I am doing the best thing for them.
her-YA,WHATEVER(she is angry now!)So,what are YOU eating to make them sick?
I hung up the phone.
I just finished e mailing her a ton of info on FAQ and myth sheets,as well as a little note to just leave me the hell alone.
So that has to be my worst.
|My mother told me the "best" thing I could give my dd while she's teething is Popsicles!!! The best thing? She's never had anything but breastmilk, and I should give her Popsicles?|
<edited to add I'm so sorry to hear about so many having such uncaring "friends" and relatives. I guess this is one of the reasons a lot of us practice attachment parenting, to make this world a better place.>
I too feel bad that soooo many of us are getting such crappy comments from ppl who are supposed to love us.
The dumb comments from strangers, well, I just expect that and it always surprises me that I NEVER get comments from strangers.
Also, she was watching her while I was at the dentist once. I left some EBM, and my mom said she didn't want to feed her it because "it's a bodily fluid." I left with the babe and got my dh to leave work to watch her.
|Originally posted by mamazee
My mom told me not to nurse my daughter because she'd turn into a lesbian.
I left some EBM, and my mom said she didn't want to feed her it because "it's a bodily fluid."
Don't breastfeed your female child or she'll turn out GAY? She CAN'T really believe that...that's the most ignorant thing I've heard in a looooooooooooong time. And besides, even if your DD did turn out to be a lesbian, why is that so bad?
And what does your mother mean by breastmilk being a "bodily fluid"? Is she putting it in the same category as urine or vomit? Mamazee, I feel so badly for you. Thank goodness you are raising your daughter how you see fit, and realize the silliness of your mother's ideas on the subject of breastfeeding.
My brother said that if his wife had breastfed, he'd have felt badly that he couldn't feed the baby. My DH and I reminded my bro that DH had given our babies plenty of bottles of EBM, and bro said, "yeah, I guess..." Then, when the subject of extended br/feeding came up, my bro blurted out, "Now that's sexual, you have to admit". I replied, "Paul, you don't honestly believe that a mother would breastfeed her toddler to get off do you? Or are you referring to the toddler-who knows nothing of sex? What exactly are you saying?" Bro kind of chuckled and admitted he had no idea what he was talking about. Our own father was breastfed till he over the age of 3!
|Laila...that's an AWSOME idea. Breastmilk popsicles.|
Maybe ice-cream made from breastmilk. Wouldn't separate maybe. Then formed into icecream popsicles. :LOL
One day she wrote back and said - how far along are you? and when's your due date?
wellllll, I thought she could count - but I guess when she was pregnant they were still measuring in months, and not weeks. : Although I'm surprised no one she talked to did the math.
So I cleared it up - you get 40 weeks or there about, so we're expecting mid May as the due date, and if we're at 20 weeks now, that's half way.
I didn't tell her the exact "day" so they won't try to hold me to it Gotta love her
(OT--Breastmilk popsicles? Just get one of those popsicle making kits, Tupperware has them, you can get them anywhere in summer, Walmart or wherever. Maybe now in a kitchen store?
Then as your kid gets older, you can make OJ pops, or yogurt mixed with peanut butter, or fruit, etc. Toddlers think this is cool.)
|Originally posted by laila
Maybe ice-cream made from breastmilk. Wouldn't separate maybe. Then formed into icecream popsicles. :LOL
|Originally posted by laila
Hey-hey, what about popsicles made from breastmilk (for an older child, of course). :LOL
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I showed DH and he was soooo grossed out :LOL
Also, there is a show on TV called "Girls Behaving Badly" and they had a stunt they pulled on people in a cheese shop....they had men and women sample some "special cheese" after they got their reaction to the cheese, they told them it was made from breastmilk, and then showed a picture of some woman from a foriegn country....oh, you should have seen the people's faces when they heard this :LOL
After the people were completely grossed out and most of them spit out the cheese, they revealed that this was in fact cow's milk cheese.....some of the people actually got pissed off....
When i started pumping, someone asked if I feel like a cow.
I of course went into a bit of a rant about how first of all, cows are commonly thought of as big dumb and stupid, and I didn't appreciate the implication, and secondly, it just goes to show how messed up we are societally that when we think of milk and expressing milk we think of cows instead of moms. As though drinking cow's milk is more 'natural' than drinking mother's milk!:
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It wasn't an ex-boyfriend who called me "FATTY" It was my SISTER.
When I was 4 months PG and barely showing compared to what I looked like at 8 months, my sister came to my house for a Stamping/Scrapbooking party. I had a house full of ppl and she walked in with her friend and said "hey fatty how you doing?" "Wow, you really are a tubbo"
She then later asked me to come to see her at the zoo where she works and I made her promise that she'd NEVER EVER say anything like that again. She tried to tell me that she never said it, but ALL my guests heard her and were once again reminded of what a witch my little sister is.
She also told me, right before I got PG, that I'd be a shi**y mother and that she hoped I couldn't get PG . We'd been ttc for 15 months at that time and hadn't told a soul. I was sooooo hurt and threw her out of my house without telling her that we were TTC and what a long road it had been already.
How that for dumb and mean!
|Also, there is a show on TV called "Girls Behaving Badly" and they had a stunt they pulled on people in a cheese shop....they had men and women sample some "special cheese" after they got their reaction to the cheese, they told them it was made from breastmilk, and then showed a picture of some woman from a foriegn country....oh, you should have seen the people's faces when they heard this|
I loove that!
I can't believe they think cow's milk is so not gross, but that breast milk is so very disgusting that they spit it out!
There was a time that the Japanese thought drinking cow's milk was disgusting and wouldn't ever try eating ice cream!
My baby is a little over 3 mos now, and my mil is trying to convince me to give dd juice diluted with water. Yeah, like tap water is so great and juice is sooo much better for a kid than bm!
When she had the nerve showed up in the NICU when my son was a week old (lung punctured at birth, on a respirator, pulmonary hypertension) without warning you bet it was all I could do to hold my tongue, seeing as how a NICU isn't the place to blow your stack.
Never mind the evil things people can say to you...how about the evil things people can DO to you??
That same MIL called CPS on me 5 days after I gave birth to my third at home because I was "denying him medical care"!!! AHHHHHHHHH! What an abupt end to a blissful babymoon. I was forced to take my perfectly healthy newborn (She claimed to CPS worker and to all of her friends that he was too red (all of my babies were red) and he wasn't breathing right : ) to the emergency room to be checked out or "else" CPS was going to do it for me. That was one of the scariest moments of my life. Luckily the case is closed on us now, as the social worker realized pretty quickly there wasn't much to investigate. Luckier still, I now have a pretty good excuse to forbid her to see our children ever again since her insanity has proven to be a danger to the very fabric of our family, not to mention she told Dh when they ran into each other at the mall Christmas shopping if she could do it all over again she would (despite not getting to see her grandchildren again). GAWD.
Mommy to Kieran (3yo), Donovan (21mos) and Liam (6 weeks)
When my ds was almost two weeks old, my dh dropped me and ds off at my mom's and he left with my dad. my mom told me I was "selfish and just trying to be cute" by BFing him, and "soon I would realize how selfish and wrong I really was..."
She was holding him and he (rightfully!) started to cry. I went to get him, and she turned her back on me. I walked around her and she manuvered into a corner and was doing all she physicially could to stop me from taking him. He started screaming and the only option I had left would have been to over power her, which I was scared to do. I sat down (I was a first time mom) and cried, and he cried to sleep. It was so crazy! Then, my husband came back five hours later to pick me up (waaaaaay late because of my dad). My mom had held ds in her grip the whole time. He was passed out cold like never before (from all the crying). He went for five hours without BFing- a record and I thought my breasts were going to explode!
Looking back on it, I want to scream! I have since been forced to make them realize that we are the parents, not them. I only wonder what took me so long. The weird part is they seem so normal on the outside, but they are completely different people when they are in private.
just wanted to add~ that CPS story was awful! I feel for you!
and that Jesus link was AWESOME!
"Honey- That’s what kept Victorian women chained to the house"
This from a women who nursed all 5 of her children for over a year. She thought formula was the the best thing ever, they just couldn't afford it.
I told her "don't worry I'll still get out of the house in fact I plan to go back to work." The ongoing conversation about pumping was just ridiculous.
To my mom's credit she did "defend" me to any her friends that thought it was weird. She also told me very hush, hush that ”You know your SIL plans to wean at 6 months, maybe you should talk to her"
Pardon me while I
She knew you couldn't do anything to her though, aggh! I'm soooo sorry you had to go through that for sooo long!
Do you ever talk to her? I can't believe she would do that to two week old.
I gotta hug my baby now!
I think I'll call my mom and thank her for being so supportive of me all my life, and for setting such a good mothering example
|Yeah, like tap water is so great and juice is sooo much better for a kid than bm!|
"We didn't breastfeed back then. No one did", she said. "Our kids are healtheir than you kids were, though."
"You mean breastfeed kids are healthier. Right?" I say. Thinking I heard her wrong.
"No, no. You kids who were breastfeed aren't as healthy as my kids were."
"Breastmilk is very healthy. It protects babies from allergies and illness."
"Well yea, but not when mothers eat junk food and drink and take drugs, like they do nowadays!" she says.
Didn't even know what to say. Not sure if she was saying my mom was a drug addict-junk food eater, or she was, or me or what
People have some weird justifications for things....
I was at the grocery store with all three kids. my two older kids are 11 & 8 years older than the "baby". a lady came up to me and noticed my youngests blue eyes and blonde hair and said "Do they have the same father, or did you adopt him?". I looked at her and said "f*ck off" . i really did say that, the "f" word really working to my advantage in situations like this.
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