My dd was like this at that age too. It was awful!! She was so tired and miserable. I think it's something to do with the age, and also you'll have to experiment to find what works to help her sleep. For us, we've finally settled into a nap routine in the last few weeks. In the morning, we get up around 8:30, and by the time I've showered, eaten breakfast, etc., it's around 10. Then we play for a little bit, and then I put her in the Moby (facing in), and walk her around until she falls asleep -- usually 15-30 minutes. Then she sleeps anywhere from 30-60 minutes. I can sit down at the computer, etc., but have to jump up and walk if she starts to stir. Then, between 1 and 3, she starts to get tired again, and this time I lie down with her in bed (we co-sleep at night, and she sleeps well although nurses constantly, lol). We just lie there and I give her a stuffed animal and her paci, and sometimes have to give her my hand to play with, and she'll toss and turn and play and sometimes fuss a little and then fall asleep. Usually takes about 30 minutes. She'll sleep anywhere from 1.5 to 3.5 hours. Usually 2 to 2.5. Then we're up for the evening, and around 8 we start her massage, and dh puts her to sleep in the sling, where he keeps her for several hours to give me a break.
(ETA, I have to stay in bed with her throughout the entire afternoon nap. If I get up she wakes up!! I take a book to bed with me, and am sometimes able to nap myself. I don't know how mamas with more than one do it. Or what if she was in daycare? Would they just let her cry? I'm glad I'm available to give her what she needs, but am also looking forward to her being able to sleep without me acting as a facilitator
It took trial and error to figure all this out, though. And also I think her getting older and a little more "settled', kwim?
GL, mama! You'll figure something out