Hi there!
Over the past week we've been having so much trouble with Ben. He cries nearly the entire time he's awake, and screams like crazy when I try to nurse him. So we are trying all sorts of things to see what might help. I have eliminated dairy from my diet, and am now going to stop eating beans and a few vegetables, and cut down on sugar. I posted about this in the breastfeeding forum.
I love that my partner and family are all trying to come up with solutions, but some of them don't go along with my philososphies, and I'm having trouble sticking to my guns. Last night DP said "do you want me to take him for a bit?" when Ben was crying in bed inconsolably, and I said sure. He took him to his room, set him in his crib, turned on some music, and then left him in there. I said "what are you doing?", and he said "I think he should sleep on his own now.", and I was like "but I want him beside me!!". DP was really trying to help me, knowing that I needed to get some rest, but I don't think he understands how much I don't want Ben in his crib yet! He is only a month old.
Aside from this, my mom has started sending me websites that suggest bottlefeeding if breasfeeding is not going well. She also has good intentions - but I keep telling her that introducing just one bottle may just make things worse. I did buy a pump, but I'm going to use it to pump until the let-down passes, and then begin nursing him so maybe he won't choke as much.
What do you do when close family members are trying to help, but are just not doing what you want?
winn
Over the past week we've been having so much trouble with Ben. He cries nearly the entire time he's awake, and screams like crazy when I try to nurse him. So we are trying all sorts of things to see what might help. I have eliminated dairy from my diet, and am now going to stop eating beans and a few vegetables, and cut down on sugar. I posted about this in the breastfeeding forum.
I love that my partner and family are all trying to come up with solutions, but some of them don't go along with my philososphies, and I'm having trouble sticking to my guns. Last night DP said "do you want me to take him for a bit?" when Ben was crying in bed inconsolably, and I said sure. He took him to his room, set him in his crib, turned on some music, and then left him in there. I said "what are you doing?", and he said "I think he should sleep on his own now.", and I was like "but I want him beside me!!". DP was really trying to help me, knowing that I needed to get some rest, but I don't think he understands how much I don't want Ben in his crib yet! He is only a month old.
Aside from this, my mom has started sending me websites that suggest bottlefeeding if breasfeeding is not going well. She also has good intentions - but I keep telling her that introducing just one bottle may just make things worse. I did buy a pump, but I'm going to use it to pump until the let-down passes, and then begin nursing him so maybe he won't choke as much.
What do you do when close family members are trying to help, but are just not doing what you want?
winn