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After being pretty laid-back so far, she's suddenly just fussy all the time (it's been about four days of this). I try bf-ing; sometimes works, sometimes she sucks until let-down and then doesn't want it (little tease! ). We try the slings -- no go. She won't nap longer than 20 minutes, even in the swing. I feel so bad. I don't think it's reflex -- she's not screaming or anything. Is it just a phase? Is there anything else I should try? Unfortunately with a toddler as well I can't devote my entire day to her. DH wants to try a pacifier. Not sure how I feel about that, but may be sending him off in search of one tonight...
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After being pretty laid-back so far, she's suddenly just fussy all the time (it's been about four days of this). I try bf-ing; sometimes works, sometimes she sucks until let-down and then doesn't want it (little tease! ). We try the slings -- no go. She won't nap longer than 20 minutes, even in the swing. I feel so bad. I don't think it's reflex -- she's not screaming or anything. Is it just a phase? Is there anything else I should try? Unfortunately with a toddler as well I can't devote my entire day to her. DH wants to try a pacifier. Not sure how I feel about that, but may be sending him off in search of one tonight...
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Our son I know for sure has reflux. There was a weekend where he did not sleep much and spit up a lot. Is yours spitting up? They don't have to scream in order to have reflux. We have not medicated our son and the problem is resolving itself. We tried the pacificer too, and my son will not take to it.

I wait 20-30 minutes before putting my son to bed, holding him upright, after feeding him. Naps are usually 45 mins after he feeds due to the reflux, play time between eat and sleep. Frequent burpings for BF helps as well.

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If you vaccinate, it could be an adverse reaction.
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Hmmm...no, she doesn't spit up that much, and no, no vaccines. Thanks for the suggestions, though. maybe a growth/developmental spurt?
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Hmmm...no, she doesn't spit up that much, and no, no vaccines. Thanks for the suggestions, though. maybe a growth/developmental spurt?
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She might be wanting more interaction or less. Can your toddler 'help' by reading to her or showing pictures/toys to her?

I know with my younger ones they were ready to go-go-GO sooner than my first two were. They see big brother/sister running around and they want to join in the fun, kwim?
If she's not crying/screaming, just fussy, I would guess she wants to interact more.

ETA: When I let them interact with each other, I found nap time was easier and longer. HTH.
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I've got almost the same age babe, and she's not done the same thing exactly, but she's always been very laid back, but is starting to get a bit more demanding. I read something recently about colic (not b/c she has it, but out of curiousity) and it said it generally peaks around 6 weeks. I also read that it has to do with the maturation of both their brains and their digestive system. So maybe even if a baby doesn't have colic, these same developmental milestones (whatever they might be, I didn't get any details), still occur.

Be patient! They change so fast at this age, I'm sure (and hope) it'll pass just as quickly as it came.

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Ds did that around that age. We figured out it was because he was bored! Putting those dangly type toys over him if he was laying on the floor or in a bouncy seat while we showered...or while in the carseat if we were going somewhere really helped. I made a mobile from a free pattern I found online and it's something you can just tack in anywhere in the ceiling, and that helped, too.

You're right that it's probably developmental. If the boob doesn't cut it, it's gotta be something new. That's the #1 parenting lesson I've learned thus far.:
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My babe was unhapppy starting from around 5 weeks until about 13 weeks. We figured out we weren't tuning in to her sleep cues very well. I ended up wearing her to sleep for much of the day. We also went on tons of walks.
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6-8 wks is the main time food intolerance start to show up. This could cause the problems, even w/ few other symptoms. Evan had very bad reflux, but rarely spit up. He was on meds till 16 mos, even after being off all food and moving to a rx formula, his was caused a lot by LOTS of food allergies.

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hugs to you mama- it's so hard when your baby cries!
when my DS was 6 weeks I came across a chart in Harvey Karp's book the happiest baby on he block, that showed that fussing peaks in most babies around 6-7 weeks. These stats show it dropping quite drastically by 8-9 weeks. I was relieved to find this at the time as my little guy became really fussy as well. He's 9 weeks now and cries so much less than he did- so there is hope mama! That said, I also discovered that DS is sensitive to dairy around that time and have had a lot less tummy troubles with him since cutting that out. I also found homeopathy helped DS during his fussy period... Good luck problem solving mama-
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For both of my babies, I distinctly remember a "waking up to the world/honeymoon over" stage. It was different for each. For my dd, it was a week. For ds, it was about 3 weeks. This could be what is happening with your baby. I remember EVERYTHING got hard at this stage...sleeping, being put down, the carseat, nursing. The good news: it seemed to level off after a few weeks. Hang in there. Infant/babyhood passes so fast.
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Right there with you, mama. DD is 6 weeks this Monday. She has gone from the baby who never fusses to a little fussbuggy. She used to nap well during the day, but now must be held for daytime sleep, otherwise she only sleeps 15 minutes and the fussing escalates. We recently went off dairy and soy so we will see if that helps. We are just riding it out. She is still smiley and happy, just not all day like before. I took her temp yesterday to make sure she wasnt sick... not sick, just a fussy monkey. Good luck to both of us... and any other mommies with suddenly fussy angels.
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I think it probably is a developmental spurt. Check out this site: http://members.tripod.com/meadowlark...isdom/id1.html


I have the book they're talking about and it has been really useful to me. I found that (so far) my daughter has gone through every fussy stage (and related developmental leap) near when they said she would. The first stage is around 5 weeks, my daughter was 6 weeks when she started getting fussy. I looked for this book on Amazon.com, but they don't seem to have it. The title of the edition I have is "Why They Cry: Understanding Child Development in the First Year". I picked it up at a used bookstore in the UK. If you can find a copy of it, I would recommend it! It is also very AP friendly.

The website I posted has a summary of each developmental stage. It has been really helpful to me to understand what my daughter is learning, and when you start to see the new skills emerge it's really exciting!

I hope this is helpful to you. Hang in there, you will soon have your sweet baby back.
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Maybe its a growth spurt and growing pains. DD had a decent spurt around 6 weeks, and she was all backwards. My normally happy baby was irritable and cranky, and while shes normally a sound sleeper, shed just catnap. Maybe your little babe is getting a bit bigger
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hugs to you mama- it's so hard when your baby cries!
when my DS was 6 weeks I came across a chart in Harvey Karp's book the happiest baby on he block, that showed that fussing peaks in most babies around 6-7 weeks. These stats show it dropping quite drastically by 8-9 weeks. I was relieved to find this at the time as my little guy became really fussy as well. He's 9 weeks now and cries so much less than he did- so there is hope mama! That said, I also discovered that DS is sensitive to dairy around that time and have had a lot less tummy troubles with him since cutting that out. I also found homeopathy helped DS during his fussy period... Good luck problem solving mama-
that was the book!!! silly me! thanks for posting, it was starting to bother me. also, EC'ing has helped us a bit. I realized that she's often just trying to tell us she has to pee or poo, and if we take her to the potty, then she's 100% happy baby again with only minimal fussing. She's just not a diaper baby!!!!!

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My baby (now 4 mo.) and a baby from our due date club had the same problem right at 5/6 wks... what helped A LOT was giving him some pro-biotics (acidophilus etc.). THey make a powdered form for babies called babydophilus, or you can just use plain old probiotic powder. Worked wonders on calming the gas and fussiness. Seriously--two days later, he was a different, HAPPY, baby.

Also....a couple weeks later, just to make further improvements, I cut out milk. Cheese and yogurt were okay, but milk wasn't. You could try and see if cutting out some dairy helps?

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So nice to see i'm not alone! dd is 5 weeks and a little fuss bucket the last 2 days or so, before that she's been a total angel baby.

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