During a recent visit to my parents, dh and I left all 3 children to run a quick errand for my mom. We hadn't left any bm, and baby got hungry, so my mom let him suck her finger. Then she put a smear of vanilla ice cream on her finger and let him suck that!!! It's been 2 days and I haven't noticed any reaction apart from a bit of fussiness, and that I think I can attribute to another growth spurt (I hope) but I'm so frustrated. Talking to my mom about certain issues is like talking to a rock, and anyway she has severe depression and all kinds of stressors in her life right now, so I didn't say much, but sometimes the whole 'grandparents disrespecting our choices' really gets me down. It doesn't happen very much anymore, but when it does I still get pretty upset. I know it was just a tiny bit, but the poor kid could have a milk allergy now! Anyone else have a friend or relative whom you can't reasonably criticize/disagree with over child-rearing issues?