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#181 of 1282 Old 11-09-2006, 12:01 PM
 
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Better subject...anyones babe descover thier tounge? B is crazy about sticking his out...it might have to do with the toddler I watch she never has hers in her mouth and licks everything especally wet wipes and wash cloths...yuck!

B is also starting on the teething he is getting drooly and chews on his fingers, he loves his toes and has descovered his 'little friend' and soon as his dipe is off his hand is grabing ahold in that kung fu grip eek and he pulls on it like its rubber makes me and DH cringe. Gotta love little boys.
J actually grabs his feet when his diaper is offer... crazy kid... c always grabbed his "little friend" and still does now that he is potty training. i promise that foreskin is going to give in and retract soon.....

we are on all 4s and bouncing like crazy... and somehow manage to keep going backwards.... dh did the scale thing and thinks he is close to 18 lbs now... man, this kid is heavy!

and j does raspberries. that's his new trick...

okay... i think i got to all the post... i am trying to cut down on mothering time so i actually have work time so i am not logging on as often... i am addicted. terrible... i need the 12 step program...

ecomama--very true regarding the dem/rep. the problem is that they are all politicians first... so nothing every gets done or changes no matter what... but i still lean mostly donkey....

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Whew, I've been reading today, but I haven't been able to post anything baby, because I've been too stupid thrilled about the election results. I can't stop smiling and skipping. Sorry to gloat if any of you are, you know, one of...the others. :

"one of...the others" Isn't it awesome!!!!!!! Muaahhhh Finally!!
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I do not suggest trying to start up avon, mkay etc- it takes months to make money!

I am a crispy moderate and independant. When I watch the democratic national convention I feel like a conservative, when I watch the republicain one, I feel extremly liberal.

I voted all over the board this week. I voted for the green party for Gov of IL. I was one of the 300,000 who did.

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*gasp* LINdsey!

Thanks for that.
Sorry I was trying to think about it like I was a guy.
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Do your DH's sit down like mine does...with their legs spread all wide? Brad does this, and has ripped the crotch seam in three pairs of pajama pants already. It's ridiculous. He just won't stop! I keep telling him if he just put his legs together and then sat down like a normal person he'd be fine, but he doesn't get it.
Funny you posted this, cuz there is 2 pair of dh's pants sitting next to my machine waiting for me to fix!! He squats down to take pics at work and I keep telling him he has to hike them up before he squats cuz he's ripping out the crotch. He doesn't get it: Men...
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I do not suggest trying to start up avon, mkay etc- it takes months to make money!

I am a crispy moderate and independant. When I watch the democratic national convention I feel like a conservative, when I watch the republicain one, I feel extremly liberal.

I voted all over the board this week. I voted for the green party for Gov of IL. I was one of the 300,000 who did.

hmmm... how many months are we talking? and how much money??? pm me if anyone knows...

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: sounds like a Lost reference.
I guess I am one of the Others...>sigh<

speaking of Lost, it has been such a disappointment lately. The ending was good last night, but I was such a big fan when this show started and now it has gone so far off the rails.

Gabriel looves to suck on his big toe when he gets a diaper change. It is so cute! And he is blowing raspberries also.
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I do not suggest trying to start up avon, mkay etc- it takes months to make money!
Actually, the great thing is that it doesn't! I mean, it takes a while to get really well-established and grow your business, but you start making *some* money within 2 weeks (when your first order goes in) and in fact, you get guaranteed 50% profit for the first few weeks to help you get started (after that you get anywhere from 25% if I recall correctly up to 50% depending on your sales volume). It's totally what you make of it, but the potential is there from the first day. I only made a couple hundred bucks a month, but since I quit I buy my Avon stuff from a lady in the next town over who does it as a full-time business - she quit her office job and she lives on Avon alone now. Of course, she spends a lot of time on it - she's single, no kids - and she does parties and stuff and also signs people up and trains them and then gets a percentage of their business as a bonus, so, you don't have to do all that, but you can. Wow, maybe I'm talking myself back into doing it again

Sarah - what about hooking up with a temp agency? You'd have a desk job - secretarial stuff might not be totally fascinating, but I for one would rather answer phones and make photocopies and type than stand up all day in a store - and hey you could sneak on MDC!

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J.C has also found his tongue. He keeps sticking it out and making spit bubbles. He is also screeching like a teradactyl its so funny!!

On the political front...I grew up in a home where my dad was a Republican and my stepmom was a Democrat, so I really got to see both sides and became a Democrat. Well, my Dad was so disgusted by Bush that he actually changed parties. No joke, he's an Independent now! Since I live in Ms and its definetly a Red state, I have the coolest bumper sticker. Its a red square w/ a big blue dot on it and it says "Another bright blue dot in a really red state" LOL!
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I actually switched my registered party affiliation to independent this year, but I voted Dem. I live in Big Gay Blue Massachusetts (to paraphrase South Park a bit), duh! My pet issue, wine in grocery stores, lost. Oh well.

Yeah, Lost has lost me. The same guy ruined Alias, so I guess it's not a huge surprise.
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Is it possible to survive without coffee or caffeine?
I mean, seriously. Because I am *trying* not to drink much (especially diet coke, I think, aspartame can't possibly be good) but it's not working. I am too tired.

Philip used to love doing raspberries. a while ago he discovered his feet were connected to him, Now he likes to grab them, or his socks, or his shoes. He still chomps on my finger, his teeth just show a bit, but it hurts!!

Pumping-- paddington, i might start pumping twice a day. hmmmm.

Ok, can someone tell me how they handle bedtimes? Philip wakes up around 9:30 (I think, or earlier, to eat, then goes back to sleep). By this time I am already at work. at night he will go to sleep nursing at maybe 7 or 7:30. Last night, he went to bed at 8:30. I was psyched. then he woke up at 9 to eat (he usually wakes up an hour after going to sleep to eat again-- I figure he's tanking up) and almost fell back asleep but wouldn't. So it wasn't until after 10 that I got him to sleep, even though he was obviously tired and fighting it. Then, I don't get any time to myself. And I"m trying to wake up earlier (6am or before) to get to work earlier, so I don't get enough sleep either.
What should I do? DH is like "well if you didn't sleep with him all the time he wouldn't need you to sleep with him" or "if you didn't hold him while he fought sleep and fell asleep he wouldn't need that" Stupid DH! I've tried explaining it to him... so help me please!

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I have been considering changing my party. Either I changed or the republicans changed, but now I just don't agree with them. However, I have no idea what party I DO agree with. I guess I have to do a little research.

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Sarah. I am concerned for you. I second others' suggestions. Find a desk job. Do something different. Can Brad take on more hours or a second job? Can you charge up your credit cards? (you said you were going to have to declare bankruptcy anyway...) Can you reduce the amount of CS you're paying since you've filed for modification anyway? I know that seems horrible, but you have to make sure Jackson stays in there. This really is about his health and yours.
BTW, do you have/need a lawyer for your CS action? I am a MD barred attorney, and at the least I'd be more than happy to talk to you about it (free of course!) I've also personally gone through CS contention, up to the appellate level.

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Mearaina- go unafiliated! that's what I am.
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Sarah, I know someone who WAH part-time for Google doing QA of Google ads. They are still hiring, apparently:
http://www.google.com/support/jobs/b...94&loc_id=1628
Thanks for the link, I am looking into WAH too. Anybody else have ideas? I have access to a nanny and my mom has availability, it's just not traditional work hours, and my current boss is getting antsy for me to come back full time... Not gonna happen!! My goal is to be home for BFing, but have someone watch her/clean house while I'm trying to get work done. I'm really fast on the computer so I hope whatever I find I can get done in 1/2 the time they expect it to take so I can get full time pay for part time work ?? I'm totally in a dreamworld, right? Telecommuting for a regular company is my first choice. I am currently in sales and want to take a break from it. We need a steady paycheck as DH has his own business, so starting up something on my own isn't really doable.

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Ok, can someone tell me how they handle bedtimes? Philip wakes up around 9:30 (I think, or earlier, to eat, then goes back to sleep). By this time I am already at work. at night he will go to sleep nursing at maybe 7 or 7:30. Last night, he went to bed at 8:30. I was psyched. then he woke up at 9 to eat (he usually wakes up an hour after going to sleep to eat again-- I figure he's tanking up) and almost fell back asleep but wouldn't. So it wasn't until after 10 that I got him to sleep, even though he was obviously tired and fighting it. Then, I don't get any time to myself. And I"m trying to wake up earlier (6am or before) to get to work earlier, so I don't get enough sleep either.
What should I do? DH is like "well if you didn't sleep with him all the time he wouldn't need you to sleep with him" or "if you didn't hold him while he fought sleep and fell asleep he wouldn't need that" Stupid DH! I've tried explaining it to him... so help me please!
I had this same problem last night. So when DD was fighting it and DH had to watch "Flavor of Love" (such a great message, tons of screaming, ugh), I went in the bedroom, laid DD on her tummy on the bed & watched ANTM. I just kept rubbing her back and she would flip and flop her head from side to side, but I could tell she was falling asleep. She wasn't crying or upset, so I just let her keep doing it and watching my show. Sure enough, half way through, the flipping stopped and she was asleep! She didn't stay that way very long and of course I had to keep an eye on her on her tummy. But I had left the sling at my mom's and it was so nice to find a way to get her to sleep that didn't involve me on my feet for an hour. She had already nursed a long time when I first got home and was spitting up. It seemed like her tummy was upset so I didn't want to make it worse by feeding her more, and laying on her tummy always seems to make her feel better. That felt like a victory to have another option for bedtime!

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Gee thanks for rubbing it in, Candice! Just kidding. Yeah....one of the "others" here : and no, we 'crunchy conservatives' are not so happy today : Here in PA, every single candidate from local on up that I voted for lost! Ugh.
Yeah, we took a beating...I was seriously considering moving back to GA.
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speaking of Lost, it has been such a disappointment lately. The ending was good last night, but I was such a big fan when this show started and now it has gone so far off the rails.

i actually think it has picked up slightly. the end of last season we had 4 or 5 eps on the dvr that we didn't get around to watching until after jonah was born. the problem is that they haven't answered ANY of their questions, but i think they may be getting around to it...

i think i may be a socialist... but they don't get much voting time. i affiliate with a party i guess so that i can vote during all the elections and if it is really a close race, i will cast for the democrat in the "i am not voting FOR this candidate exactly but i am voting AGAINST the other one" way, you know?

pretty much, i think we just go back and forth between whoever has not pissed us off recently....

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So what do we get if we out-chat July, anyway
An internet addiction 12-step book?

I am soooo procrastinating today. I cleaned the bathroom instead of actual work!

My in-laws are bugging me, can we talk in-laws? They keep asking if Harper is going to get to taste Thanksgiving dinner. Um, no. I can't even taste Thanksgiving dinner unless I bring my own food b/c of her dairy sensitivity. I am making up a bib that says "Do not feed me" on CafePress. They also want us to produce a Christmas list. She a baby! I know she likes ripping paper, but beyond that she won't remember much. But I guess I should specify a few things so we don't get anything too blinky or a buttload of Baby Einstein. And my BIL thinks it's funny to bring her stuff that makes noise. They gave us an age 3+ musical princess tea party set when she was born! I am still waiting to write that thank you note.
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ecomama--very true regarding the dem/rep. the problem is that they are all politicians first... so nothing every gets done or changes no matter what... but i still lean mostly donkey....
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Tooo....much.....to catch up on.

I gave up on Lost when I couldn't stay awake that late while I was pregnant...

I'm a GDI (God Da#$ Independent) cause neither party strikes my fancy...though I suppose right now I'm a conservative liberal, if I had to call myself anything.

I work at home as a medical editor, but in order to get into the business you have to do a transcription training course, which is at least 6 months...but if anyone is interested, I'd be happy to chat about what I do!


ANd speaking of work..I advocated for AP today on my work forum! Someone was asking about how to help their baby sleep, and I advocated for cosleeping, against giving their 3-mo cereal in a bottle (: ), for delaying solids until 6 months, and for responding to your child in general (general AP philosophy)...AND, I did it diplomatically, so nobody is posting back calling me a whack job. YAY me!!

More later tonight.....have to get back to work.

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Okay, let's see if I can cover everything.

Temp agency - I am in contact with my local temp agency. They have me on the lists, and we chat every few days to see what it coming available. Right now the only thing they have in our area is 14/hr days three days/wk at a Cingular Wireless customer service center.

My old job came available (the one I was working when I went in to labor with Sam) but they chose not to hire me back because they need someone who can work at least 6 months, and I only have three left, IF I can work until Feb. 1.

Brad is already working 70-80 hours/wk at his "day job" and is bouncing at a bar in town from 8pm-3am every Saturday. He's trying to find jobs doing winter prep work in people's yards (raking/mulching/weatherizing windows/cleaning gutters, etc.). Believe me, he wants to find work so that I don't have to.

I have resumes out at a dozen different places right now, all desk jobs, but I'm very obviously pregnant, and certainly can't fake it on interviews.

Um, let's see. Yes! Ehrlich is gone! Selesai, I second your excitement. Plus, O'Malley is hot. Also, we need to scrounge up about $150 in order to file to reduce child support. Brad's divorce from his ex was finalized in West Virginia, so MD custody laws don't qualify, which bites. It's not awful to have to reduce the support. $1000/month is steep for anyone, especially a one income family. Biomom knows it's coming, and is ready for it. She knew the day we told her we were pregnant with Samantha that it was coming. Then the NICU happened, and then we got pregnant again, and then all hell broke loose financially, so until we can afford to spend $150 in order to save about $150/month (maybe $200) then it'll wait.

We don't have any credit cards. Haven't had any for about two and a half years.

Believe me, mamas. There's a reason I haven't worked in 6 months. We've been doing everything possible to ensure that I can stay home, and it's just not happening. Soon enough, it'll be over, one way or another.

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selesai - does that mean I wouldn't get to vote in primaries? (I'm obviously clueless about the political process...maybe we'd all be better off if I didn't vote .


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selesai - does that mean I wouldn't get to vote in primaries? (I'm obviously clueless about the political process...maybe we'd all be better off if I didn't vote .

yeah... i get to but my dh doesn't b/c he is independent. you know, the whole process is kind of irritating though : seriously, are we supposed to make an informed choice by who can sell the most rhetoric once a year? how the heck am i supposed to know who any of those judges are and really vote for them? i skip that section like every year and just wonder where am i supposed to find out what they really voted for/what kind of person/politician are they really? does the fact that someone has a child, really make them worthy of my vote? and isn't everyone "tough on crime, pro-family"? would i really vote for you if you said you were pro-crime and anti-family????? :

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Yeah, Paddington is right, mearaina, if you're unaffiliated you can't vote in primaries.
I also agree with the rest of what she said!

Sarah, I'm glad you didn't take offense at what I said! Does biomom live in MD or does she still live in WVa? Are you saying you'd have to file in WV, or just that WV law applies? In MD you can apply to get the application fee waived. And from what I can tell, your CS is WAY too high, at least by MD standards.
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Biomom still lives in WV, which is where the divorce was finalized, so WV law applies. I don't know if we can apply to have the fee waived or not...I'll look in to it. Thanks for the tip.

I'm not offended at all. Our recent financial situation has required that I swallow a lot of my pride. I've never been one to ask people for help, and I suck at it, and feel incredibly guilty having to ask for anything, even something as simple as asking someone to pick up a loaf of bread on their way past the store, or asking DH to run out and get something for me or one of the kids, when I'm fully capable of going, just don't want to. I don't know why I feel that way, or where it comes from, but being in this position-unable to pay our bills or rent, unable to do anything "extra" with our kids, waiting 'til payday to get a gallon of milk-has made me come to terms with a lot of things.

It WILL get better for us, it's just a matter of time. DH had to make a transition in his job, and unfortunately that transition had to occur now, which is the slow season. So, the old income that was keeping us comfortable (not to mention my pre-Samantha income of $2400/month), is gone, and he's had to start from scratch to build it back up. It was either make this transition, or get transferred to an office two hours from our older girls, which would make it impossible for us to see them more than every other weekend. So, Brad took the option that enables our family to stay together, and we're struggling to pull through. We will make it. We've been through worse than this in our life together, it's just a matter of getting through one more time.

Honestly, I have an amazing life. I have a husband who is not only my best friend and soul mate, but my hero as well. I have three healthy, happy kids, and another blessing on the way who will complete our family. I have friends and extended family who are doing everything in their power to help us. I have a roof over our heads, and food on our table (usually ) and beds to sleep in, and I have the ability to improve our life, even if it will take a heck of a lot of work and struggle. We've struggled before, and come through it stronger, more united, and more sure that our marriage is the best decision either of us ever made.

Yes, right now is hard, and yes, I wish there was an easy way to get ahead without putting myself or our son at risk, but there are so many factors in play that there really is no easy answer. But we'll make it. And the fact that all of you care enough to publicly acknowledge that it's hard, and to send ideas, and cyber hugs, or to pm asking in what ways you can help, is HUGE. The love and generosity that prevails in this community is more than I can handle most days, but I hope that you all know how much it means to me that even though most of us will likely never meet, you are all keeping me and my family in your thoughts.

Really, thank you. And I can never say that enough. :

Sarah - Mama to Vic (1/19/00), Syd (4/06/02) Sam (4/20/06-born at 30wk2d), JackJack (2/14/07) and Charlie (4/30/10)
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Sarah... wow. I think your last post illuminates exactly why people are bending over to help you out.

So, I had a lot of catching up reading to do. The time change to Okinawa means the rest of you chat it up whilst I snooze at night! Anyway... I very much lean Donkey. Product of my upbringing -- my parents are public educators, and (IMHO) a public schoolteacher being a Republican is like those Log Cabin Republicans :-) Hmmm... not exactly ascribing to the party that cares about your personal needs in life. Ironically, spending 4 1/2 years in the Air Force just made me that much more of a Democrat!

Ummmm... what else? Oh, raspberries! Nevie has been doing them more and more! It's so hilarious to see her little tongue stuck out like that. She always growled a lot from the back of her throat, which was also tres adorable, but this is just plain silly-looking and i love it.

I had a friend from BF group over for lunch yesterday. It was soooo awesome! She and I are on pretty much the exact same page about AP, babywearing, yada... and just have a lot of common interests. Nevie was hilarious with her son -- just smiling and laughing at him. Her personality has really started to shine. I am so in love! Anyway, it's kind of a bummer to have made this great friend when I'm leaving in three weeks. But, e-mail is a beautiful thing.

I advocated babywearing on my other favorite forum this last week, too. Someone asked for stroller recommendations, so I replied that my carefully-researched, awesome stroller... has just been so lonely, all folded up by the front door, because I've found my wrap to be so much more wonderful. Anyway, prompted some questions and I don't think anyone will be flaming me for craziness. It's not a parenting-specific forum, though, and very tightly moderated.

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Where's the happy tears smilie when you need it?

Sarah - your perspective is amazing. Your post has reminded me of what's really important. Thank you.

Lisa, mom to M : 6/02, R : 6/04, m/c 6/8/05, L 6/06, and E 8/07
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Sarah, I you.

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