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And I TOLD y'all not to listen to that in the car!! It just isn't safe, I tell you.

We do Christmas. We weren't going to do Santa but some grandparents weaseled in. I don't go to church often, but I *love* midnight mass. Something about it is just magical.
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This will be my first Christmas in Mexico--all the other years I've gone back to the states. I'm going there in January this time. I'm kind of nervous because Viet does not do any holidays, and my family does them BIG, so I could suffer some disappointment if I don't prepare mentally. My plan is to be the holiday person, the Santa, this year--I have never been the adult! I have always been on the receiving end. My first year to stuff little stockings! I am psyched.

Cori sending you some love about your dcp.

Speaking of postpartum thingamajigs, I got an IUD today! (hope this is okay to post about) I am totally psyched to feel like I am taking control of my fertility and NO MORE SURPRISES, much as I love these two!! I was mega-nervous about getting it (the ouch factor) but it has been a non-issue.
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Speaking of postpartum thingamajigs, I got an IUD today! (hope this is okay to post about) I am totally psyched to feel like I am taking control of my fertility and NO MORE SURPRISES, much as I love these two!! I was mega-nervous about getting it (the ouch factor) but it has been a non-issue.

I have one too. Just beware that you could spot for a while. That happen to me. i also love the fact that there won't be anymore surprises.



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Tanya, that's me with good taste My DH said the same thing about the CD. When I cried about track 4 he was like Men ::snort::

Personally I'm just really impressed that it all goes together so well. All very different but together makes a really beautiful harmony. Kind of like us

Short note on the maya... I've gotten so many comments lately! Mainly from women my grandmother's age saying they wished something like that had existed when they had their babies
I love R.E.M. and was so excited to see them on our cd!!! I agree with you, we all go together so well...just like our songs :

I get people telling me that about the Mayas too! I actually had a couple the other night tell me how cool they thought it was and that they wanted to get one for each of their daughters-in-law. I thought that was awesome!

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Quick hello...having a rough day...some things I need to figure out in regards to dcp and I'm feeling rather nervous breakdown-ish. ugh.
I'm sorry that your dcp is still giving you fits. I hope that you can get things sorted out soon and that you can once again breathe. Btw, I sent your white noise cd out yesterday

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This will be my first Christmas in Mexico--all the other years I've gone back to the states. I'm going there in January this time. I'm kind of nervous because Viet does not do any holidays, and my family does them BIG, so I could suffer some disappointment if I don't prepare mentally. My plan is to be the holiday person, the Santa, this year--I have never been the adult! I have always been on the receiving end. My first year to stuff little stockings! I am psyched.
I love getting to play Santa!! My mil likes to do it too and I have a small issue with this. I feel like no matter what I do, she will always do better. When we're out there we have to use her stockings and she does mine, dh's, and the kids stockings. Anything that I want in there has to go on the side. It is kind of hard. But...what do you do? I love my mil, so I don't want to hurt her feelings. *sigh* I guess I'll just grin and bear it.

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Tanya, why don't you do Santa? I don't like the lying side of it. DH doesn't like that Santa is the secular Christmas and not the Christian Christmas.
The lying and the secular side has something to do with it. Christmas is a sacred celebration for us, plus there's the commercialism of Santa that I just don't like. The huge thing for us was the lying. Some say they want their kids to have the same magic of Christmas they had as a kid (which we considered ourselves), and the last few years we have seen ds still have the magic of Christmas without Santa. This year, dd1 is really into the lights, the tree, the music, etc. We explained to ds that Santa was a real man a long time ago and gave a short version of what he did for needy kids. We also explained that the Santa he sees in stories is just a character based on the real man. To him, Santa's no different than Frosty the Snowman or the Grinch. This year was our first year where he might say something to a kid at school. We talked about it being a game some parents play and that it was our secret that he wasn't real. You know what he said? "I want to play the game!"

Beyond that, he hasn't said anything else about Santa. It wasn't an easy decision to make because Santa is fun. I talked with friends who did and didn't do Santa and just went with what worked best for us.

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And now... I'm off to watch The Grinch Who Stole Christmas (the original of course)
I took my babe and my cd and went to the store for some milk, eggs, and oatmeal as we used up the last of it this morning. I went without the other two and they watched that with dh. It was so quiet. I loved it. Wish I needed more things from the store.
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i meant to make my own thread because it is sooo long.
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you can read about our nightmare here

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...80#post6749080
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Anyone have experience with any of the sicknesses in such a youngun? She is just 4 mos.
Oh, Kimya!

I'm so sorry Panda is so sick! When my dd1 was just 6 weeks old, she got an URI, but not RSV, that landed us in the hospital for a few days. She had stopped breathing and turned purple, so we rushed to the ER with her in my arms to make sure she could be stimulated to breathe if she did it again. It was stressful, to say the least. She also nursed less often during that time (kind of how adults don't eat as much when they're sick). We made it through and you will as well! We spent time sleeping upright, in the bathroom turned steam room, and suctioning her nose constantly.

That doctor should not have scared you like that. Makes me wonder where he got his degree because when he told you you'd have a "SIDS baby" because you didn't temporarily wean he was talking out of his "UA violation". Nursing is absolutely the very best thing for a baby with RSV, and generally if the baby can have pedialyte then the baby can have breastmilk. He is also another "UA violation" if he thinks cloth diapers cause UTIs.

We're here for you, mama! Rest as much as you can, and nurse as much as she wants. RSV babies who aren't breastfed aren't usually doing well enough to go home from the ER. They're usually admitted.
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Thanks Tanya. The whole time I was in there I was thinking about you ladies. And on the drive to Seattle I was making up a song in my head about how much i love our DDC, chock full of UA violations!
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Kimya~ Poor baby, I hope she heals real fast. Having had 2 winter babies, i made everyone washed their hands before touching them. I guess i should start that again.

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oh kimya, that sounds dreadful, just awful. I'm sorry you had that experience, and happy your sweetie is on the mend.

I think someone on the other thread mentioned this, but in the future, say no to that catheter. Some things are primarily for the medical peeps' convenience.

Also fwiw, we've had much better experiences with regular ERs than Children's Hospital ERs - not sure where you went. The Children's people are so desensitized to hurting kids.... at the other hospitals they're all "oh, so cute, blah blah blah," which makes them much more patient! My oldest had stitches at such a hospital, at age 2, and the doc did them while he nursed the whole time (and these stitches were on his forehead). My second had stitches in his head at 18mos in the sling. lol...
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Kimya - I'm sending the biggest imaginable! Poor baby and you too! I hope she recovers quickly! You are a good mama....

You've scared me a bit though as Nathan is hoarse this morning...and those symptoms you describe are exactly what ds1 and dh had...so I'm scared we might be in the same boat soon....

All - thanks for the hugs about dcp. I might post elsewhere about it. I don't feel like posting something so personal to me (and something that is weighing so heavily on me - I can't stop crying) for the whole world to see - I know we are being heavily watched. I'm sure that doesn't make sense but I don't really feel 'safe' here right now.
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Thanks Tanya. The whole time I was in there I was thinking about you ladies. And on the drive to Seattle I was making up a song in my head about how much i love our DDC, chock full of UA violations!
I am so sorry about yuor baby girl!! Wow, that sounds like a nightmare what you went through. I hope you all feel better soon! :guh

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Kimya - I'm sending the biggest imaginable! Poor baby and you too! I hope she recovers quickly! You are a good mama....

You've scared me a bit though as Nathan is hoarse this morning...and those symptoms you describe are exactly what ds1 and dh had...so I'm scared we might be in the same boat soon....

All - thanks for the hugs about dcp. I might post elsewhere about it. I don't feel like posting something so personal to me (and something that is weighing so heavily on me - I can't stop crying) for the whole world to see - I know we are being heavily watched. I'm sure that doesn't make sense but I don't really feel 'safe' here right now.
I really hope you do not have the same problems as little Panda!
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All - thanks for the hugs about dcp. I might post elsewhere about it. I don't feel like posting something so personal to me (and something that is weighing so heavily on me - I can't stop crying) for the whole world to see - I know we are being heavily watched. I'm sure that doesn't make sense but I don't really feel 'safe' here right now.
I feel like I've missed something. I know you've had issues lately. Have they gotten worse? It may help to share, and if you don't want to do it here, then there's always elsewhere.

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I can totally understand about not wanting to post here about it. It looks like most mamas here including myself feel the same way though since our posting is down to a minimum last few days. It's definitely not as much fun any more. It really sucks. :
You know, I've been giving this some thought. I'm sure it's normal to still have some of the feelings we've had about everything that has happened. It may take us a few days to feel like ourselves again, but I really think we should not let it mess up our fun. What we all have together is very special and cannot be taken away, imo. Besides, I have my CD and it makes this friendship we all share very real. I can say "See! They are real people!"
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Turn that frown upside down!

Who here amongst us was a cheerleader? Come on, fess up!

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Not me. I swear! I was on the math team, remember? And while we did have a chearleader in AP Calculus, she was not on the math team!
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rah! rah!

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AAAaagh this hand-play while nursing is going to drive me around the bend!!! He is *always* trying to get his fingers in his mouth, or pulling the nipple out (forcefully!) and it is uncomfortable, and un-fun, and it makes me want him far far away.

That and the hair falling out everywhere. It is EVERYWHERE and it is making me crazy.

Cori, what's going on?
Kimya - I posted on your other thread.
Tanya because you have three kids too and yet you pretend to be sane but I know you understand my craziness.

to everyone because we've spent a long time building this relationship and I am so grateful for it. Now POST, PEOPLE!!
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s kimya-looking forward to an update about panda!

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And here's a question for everyone, since we think about ourselves last, if at all:
What one gift do YOU want for the holidays?
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Tanya because you have three kids too and yet you pretend to be sane but I know you understand my craziness.
Ever heard the phrase "Fake it 'til you make it"?

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What one gift do YOU want for the holidays?
A Moby Wrap. I don't care if I already have a Mai Tei and a Maya Wrap. My Maya is well worn, and the baby just doesn't like the back carry in the MT yet. At last week's LLL meeting, one of the mama's showed me how to use a Moby and I am officially hooked. I told dh I don't care if it's my last baby. I WANT it!
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Ever heard the phrase "Fake it 'til you make it"?


A Moby Wrap. I don't care if I already have a Mai Tei and a Maya Wrap. My Maya is well worn, and the baby just doesn't like the back carry in the MT yet. At last week's LLL meeting, one of the mama's showed me how to use a Moby and I am officially hooked. I told dh I don't care if it's my last baby. I WANT it!
Do you want mine? I can't stand it, LOL. I'm sure it is just laying in a corner somewhere. I'll ask dh where I stuck it. It is black and has only been used a handful of times.

What do I want for Christmas? Sleep would be fine. Realistically -- I want a Magic Bullet blender thingy but I told dh too late.

Thanks for the hug Juicy. I posted elsewhere.
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For x-mas i want my depression, my anger to go away. I want my happiness to come back somehow.

I'm having a bad day and the kids except for dd3 is home. :

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Cori, Tanya, Sandrine, :guh

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And here's a question for everyone, since we think about ourselves last, if at all:
What one gift do YOU want for the holidays?
nak this super soft and cozy long underwear from mec: http://www.mec.ca/Products/product_d...=1166031257341

and my dh's annual letter. we write them to each other on new year's eve and open them the following christmas.

we do some aspects of secular and religious christmas.

professor & maman de DS1 (6) & DS2 (1)

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I don't celebrate xmas but I'd love a mt wrap! hehehe
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Kimya, Cori, Sandrine, everyone else in need

I've been away so long again, it feels like, while about 75% of the way through Maria's harrowing birth story I went off to feed dd, came back and the lady I'd hired to help with housework for a couple of hours had managed to mop the whole floor and...the modem. Have I said this before? When was it anyway? I am so tired and just getting the : : : thing too.

Juice, can I take you up on your offer and get a copy of the CD? Is that OK with everyone? I'll send the dollars by mail...

BIG NEWS here - dd is really, and I mean really, crawling now. 5 months on the dot she started. You can actually play ball with her! Just told a friend this on the phone and he said 'you want to be careful, you know, you could hurt her'

There I was hopign for a month or so when she would just sit and play in one place...no chance. She can't sit properly yet. But she can get into every corner of the kitchen : oh god this is awful :

what do I want for Christmas? my own, I'm still borrowing my teacher's old one!
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oh and of course mega guhs to Maria - still haven't finished the birth story, but - God - my heart absolutely goes out to you. On another note, that photo of you and dh when you were pregnant is one of the most beautiful I've ever seen...
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Wow!! We have a crawler!!! Congrats! (sort of?! )

ds is definitely not crawling yet - but he want to.
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crawling oh my goodness!!!!!!!!!! you're going to have one of those freaky walking at nine months babies

Tanya i love love love my moby couldn't live without it!!!
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just been reading backwards and I've missed a miss posts
Kimya that sounds awful. hugs to you

Soapdiva hope you're ok, I don't know what a dcp is? but

My oldest (nearly 6) asked me why we celebrate Christmas and I said we celebrate it because we are all together as a family but some people celebrate the birth of Jesus......... to which he replied "who's Jesus?"

My partner is Buddhist and I'm not religious at all, so I had to chuckle that we had forgotten to mention Jesus to him
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