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#181 of 1217 Old 12-04-2006, 04:58 PM
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I have a new set of questions for December if anyone is interested!

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
3. What kept you here?
4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?
1. Well before I had kids. About a year, I think.

2. Bfing/lactivism and environmental/NFL ideals. Plus I wanted to find out how to tie a baby on my back in a blanket like the women I worked with in South America. I was too young to pay attention back then.

3. At first, all the info and discussions. Now, all of you. :

4. EC, GD (I hoped to break the cycle of shaming/yelling from my upbringing, but didn't know exactly how), homebirth (I would seriously consider a HBAC for future births despite risk factors), cosleeping (thought it sounded lovely, but didn't think I could do it safely due to sleep & blood sugar issues. We cosleep at least 50% of the time now, just not when my sugar is wonky.)

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1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?

I found MDC about a month before I gave birth to my first. I lurked not at all, but joined right away.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
The crunchiness! I had participated in a couple preg mama forums (mainstream) which I REALLY enjoyed but the last straw came when a fellow maymama from that forum was angry with her daycare provider for holding her child too much so she wasn't learning to sit/crawl. I then turned to MDC fulltime. I had no idea such forums existed until a fellow mdc mama here in san miguel turned me onto this one--answered my prayers.



3. What kept you here?
The crunchiness. the may mamas. MMF!

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?


EC, GD, UC, placenta munching, and the like.
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1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
3. What kept you here?
4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?
I first found MDC in 2004 when I was pg with dd1. I was drawn to the breastfeeding, babywearing, and birth crunchiness. I found out really early I was pg, and posted on the DDC thread, but didn't know DDC's existed yet. Plus I had yet to figure out the thread notification feature. So I didn't stick around. I lurked on the vaccinations forum and asked a question. I also was on FYT looking for people in my area. And I was planning my first VBAC, so a little lurking there, too. I would also come here and research health and healing issues as they arose. What has kept me here was our DDC. : I needed more support since I had moved and didn't know anyone IRL locally who could support me. I am constantly surprised about some things I see on MDC. Quite an eclectic bunch. I was going to delay/selectively vax, but now I am now Homebirth seeds were already planted, but it is such a normal thing on MDC that it became the obvious choice for me this last time.
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I have a new set of questions for December if anyone is interested!

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
3. What kept you here?
4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?
1.I think it was middle of 2003. I did not lurk, I joined right away.

2.what drew me here - well, I was looking for a homebirth midwife and someone at babycenter pointed me at this dirrection so I went.

3.what kept me here? EVERYTHING. It was soooo new to me. Actually I take that back - I am looking at my joining date and I realized I was already 7 months preggo when I joined. So I have learned most of things about birth from my midwife. I was pregnant, scared, did not know ANYTHING about childbirth, only the fact that I was gonna give birth at home if I was gonna keep that child. Yes, I did consider abortion - for fear of birth, hospitals and interventions.

4.everything. I have learned here about everything I know about childbirth, parenting, breastfeeding; cloth diapering, EC, GD, vaccinations, diet, and much more.
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1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?

I found this place in late 2003, shortly before DD1 was born. I forget exactly how I came across it, but I know it was among my breastfeeding searches.

I was actually a member under a different name - I think I joined April-May 2004 sometime, but I have since forgotten it due to a long period of inactivity. Around the June-July 2005 timeframe I started thinking about another baby and started lurking again, this time in the P&B forums. And then I joined again as me

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)

Breastfeeding got me here. Gentle Discipline kept me browsing for quite some time. The P&B boards got me here a second time and then I started really looking around.

3. What kept you here?

You guys

Also, tons of great ideas on living more simply and peacefully Lord knows I could use a little more peace in my life.

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?

GD - a journey every day. Extended breastfeeding, no circ, babywearing, non-hospital birthing, and now delaying vaxes or perhaps stopping altogether... and that's just the parenting stuff. The NFL boards are a totally different fun ball of wax!

If nothing else, MDC makes me aware of all sorts of other ways to live. Those lifestyles may not be for my family, but I picked up a huge appreciation here for all sorts of off-the-beaten-path things like EC, living off the grid, UC, cloth diapering... I don't do it myself but I can certainly see why others do it.
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hi again
thanks for the welcome backs!
I'm pretty much caught up I think.

Owweee that burn pic was baddddd!!!

BTW you mamas who join Mothering before babes are awesome. We had our first and then went "wow what do we do now?". We joined when our first one was 6months from memory. Had a different user name - then we moved to the United Kingdom from New Zealand for a year and then came back here again, so I got a new user name.

Witt - is from where we used to live in the UK - Witney - just out of Oxford.

I'm gonna try and keep up with these threads from now on - they're fun!
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If nothing else, MDC makes me aware of all sorts of other ways to live. Those lifestyles may not be for my family, but I picked up a huge appreciation here for all sorts of off-the-beaten-path things like EC, living off the grid, UC, cloth diapering... I don't do it myself but I can certainly see why others do it.
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In some circles I'm the weird lady, and I've definitely learned so many things that make me think. Even if I disagree with something, I still learn "the other side". We should get continuing education credits for surfing MDC.

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I'm glad you're back! I was wondering if all our male anatomy and dh talk had run you off
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I'm glad you're back! I was wondering if all our male anatomy and dh talk had run you off
ha ha Tanya that's funny!! No I can talk penis talk with the best of them!!!!
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btw............... dare I say it.................

p**** p**** p****
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Just so you know, all discussions of peckers are a big now. If this continues, the meany head mod will bust us
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Hey, yes!!!

*tee hee* she said, "pecker". As in, Wood. Pecker. Woodpecker, Mrs. Mod!
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omg Q, you are so going to get a pm. snort.

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BTW you mamas who join Mothering before babes are awesome. We had our first and then went "wow what do we do now?".

yea, me too. I was on a newsgroup back in 1993 before most of us had the web, and eventually an email list for attachment parents, but I didn't come to mothering regularly until about 3 years ago ?? What were those other questions?

ok, eta the questions

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?

I didn't lurk.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)

Trading post : Eventually started reading a lot of forums - pregnancy, diapering, gd, spirituality, knitting

3. What kept you here?

smilies!!!

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4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?

using cloth instead of TP
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Nope, it isn't me. It's PancakeGoddess, I believe And I'm starting to feel a little protective of the group : and think we should make interested members pm Pancake or someone else to get the info rather than posting it. Not trying to be exclusive, but not all-inclusive either...

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Am I the only one who was excited and ready to send cards to all who signed up? (I was assuming that maybe 20 or so would sign up.)

Seriously, I love sending holiday cards and ours are fun fun fun! You all want one, trust me. Is there an option for people who would send to the whole group without expecting one from everyone in return? Or does that make it too annoying/guilt-inducing for those who only send one?
I'm with you. Here's what I would like to see - everybody gets a list of everybody, and each person has one name circled/starred/whatever. So you only have to send one, but could send more if you want. What does everyone think?

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I hear you on cheese. Sometimes I snitch a small bit, which translates into 2-3 spit ups, generally on something that has to be dry cleaned : Take that mom!

Re: breakfast. We do a lot of oatmeal around here too with raisins, dates, walnuts, whatever. I also prep breakfasts in advance. On the weekends I usually make a double batch of pancakes and stick them in the fridge. They are great snacks and breakfast. On Wed I do a big tray of eggs in the oven which lasts us until the weekend.
"Take that mom" is right! In my life, "Dry Clean Only" means "Wear One Time".

So for the premade breakfasts, do you heat them up at all for the fam? And how? I'm usually running really fast in the mornings.

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*sigh* it's true. We were officially asked to cease and desist. Requests for UA clarification have been unanswered
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Nope, it isn't me. It's PancakeGoddess, I believe And I'm starting to feel a little protective of the group : and think we should make interested members pm Pancake or someone else to get the info rather than posting it. Not trying to be exclusive, but not all-inclusive either...
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So for the premade breakfasts, do you heat them up at all for the fam? And how? I'm usually running really fast in the mornings.
Pancakes can be eaten cold Or you can stick em in the microwave for 30 seconds. Eggs taste better warm, again 30-40 seconds in the microwave. If I know we're having a busy couple of days I'll split the portions into some tupperwares for everyone to grab in the morning. I eat mine at work, DH heats DD1's for the car if they're really running late.
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Oh and JJuice, I am loving the new avatar!
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I actually could. And might!

I haven't answered the MDC questions yet. If E gives up the boob in the next 20 minutes, I will. Otherwise, tomorrow or something...
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Hey thanks. DD2, almost 2,5, in her halloween garb. With attitude, of course!
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well, I am off to bed. Last few nights very crazy, nursing nonstop basicly. gone are those 6-7 hours strech night. Heck even 4 hours are gone! I really really hope this is only a growth spurt. DS2 gained one pound in few days. So gotta go! See you guys in the morning.

Forgot to say - welcome back Witt!! Good to see you around here.
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Am I the only one who was excited and ready to send cards to all who signed up? (I was assuming that maybe 20 or so would sign up.)

Seriously, I love sending holiday cards and ours are fun fun fun! You all want one, trust me. Is there an option for people who would send to the whole group without expecting one from everyone in return? Or does that make it too annoying/guilt-inducing for those who only send one?
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Sorry you two feel sad about the one person-one card thing.

I dont mind. i could send the list to everyone with who you are suppose to send and then it's your choice if you want to send to everyone or not.

What does the rest of you all think?

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ahh well you see - I missed the telling off too in my absence! I shall revert back to my well behaved self

Hi Pavlina - thanks for the welcome back.

right back to the hoovering - oh joy.

hey I meant to ask- anyone else's babe got teeth? Cerys got her first one at 4 1/2 months and second one coming through now. I have been bitten a few times now - I hate this part - those lovely sweet bfing moments change to the "ever vigilant I'm-gonna-stick-my-finger-in-your-mouth-and-whip-you-straight-off-there" moments <sigh> what we mamas put up with
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I'm like 4-5 pages behind (chatty today!) - hopefully I can catch up tomorrow.

I'm also a mod of the Yahoo Group if anyone needs anything...

Dh did great with Nathan and Aidan all day (Aidan is sick with cold/cough/fever). I came home to find him cooking dinner with Nathan in the Ergo! Dang, wish we could afford to have him be a SAHD....Nathan is not cooperating with me reading or posting tonight so I'm answering quickly and running...

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?

I've been a subscriber of Mothering since 2000! I used the main site for years - always referred people to articles (and sneakily introduced them to Mothering that way). Unfortunately, they no longer have the articles up which really, really stinks!!! I think I started poking around the boards in 2003 when I was pg but since I had an mc I wasn't around long. I came back again last year when pg again. I knew I wanted a home birth and could find like-minded people here. I also knew I wanted to find a ddc because I was not going back to BabyCenter again. I used to cry reading there the last time.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)

The homebirth board was the first, my local tribe board and then the ddc.

3. What kept you here?


The only reasons are the ddc and the local info. You wonderful gals!

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?


It is funny because at BabyCenter, I was the whackjob. Now here I'm pretty much mainstream! There isn't much I haven't heard of here because of reading the magazine...homeopathy is probably the most exciting thing I've learned about recently, so much so that I'm taking a class about it....
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: I don't know what it is, but I feel something coming on. I told dh "You know it's bad when I'm sitting here exhausted watching tv instead of being on MDC." My throat is sore, and I'm super tired. Eek. Hope it's not the flu.

YG- Now I thought for sure Juice was the mod. Amy! You could always set the YG settings so that only members can see the messages. Protect our little secret even more.

Cards - I agree that the list can be given, but with my assignment highlighted. I'll do extra credit if I have time, but it's nice not having to commit up front.

Breakfasts - We freeze extra pancakes and french toast made on the weekends. When I reheat during the week, I use the toaster oven. Less rubbery tasting pancakes. You can make breakfast burritos in advance, too. Make a big batch of sausage and eggs, assemble, roll in foil and freeze. Heat and add salsa. Mmmm. We like breakfast burritos here. Tomorrow ds has requested oatmeal. We also will have plain old PB&J sandwiches.

I'm going to bed. Maybe I can sleep off whatever this is. I've already taken emergen-C twice today. It's not fair. I just had a stomach bug. It's someone else's turn (and not anyone here, ). Why don't we have a pouting smilie?

I need a "brrrr" smilie. It's going to be 20 degrees tonight. I know, I know. It's practically a sauna to some of you! But I'm sleeping in sweats!
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Sorry you two feel sad about the one person-one card thing.

I dont mind. i could send the list to everyone with who you are suppose to send and then it's your choice if you want to send to everyone or not.

What does the rest of you all think?
Sounds perfect.

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Hope you feel better soon. :guh

I learned some info today that is good to know but also hard. Apparently, the 12 hours of separation that DS and I had after his birth that has been at the heart of my difficulties dealing with his birth was just plain bad luck.

It looks like the NICU representative who whisked him away was part of an exchange program with a hospital in Shanghai, and didn't know that the usual thing the hospital does for a stable baby that needs NICU assessment is let mom have a good cuddle first.

Then, the nurse on the maternity ward who told me that I had to wait until I had my catheter out to go down to the NICU was not being entirely honest. If I really wanted to go, she could have helped me into a wheelchair.

I just trusted that people were telling me the truth and were on my side. It should never have happened.

I'm glad I learned this today. I don't know if I could have handled it a week or a month ago.

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Awwww Maria. I am so, so sorry this happened.
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Maria so sorry to hear that. I have had 3 disappointing birth experiences and the trauma stays with me.

With Daniel (1st child) they took him after the emergency c section and said he couldn't come into recovery because there was a prison inmate in there!!! Apparently it was ok for me to be in there with him but not my baby!!! I still feel sad about that and we were only separated for 30mins, so I can't imagine 12 hours.

I also feel sad that I didn't get my homebirths or my waterbirths as I'd planned. A dear friend of mine said to me after my first son, why didn't recreate a sort of water birth and have a lovely bath with my baby and reconnect with him and try and feel some healing. It sounds corny but I did and it did help.

Can you create some lovely ritual for yourself and your babe to allow for you both to begin some healing?
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With Daniel (1st child) they took him after the emergency c section and said he couldn't come into recovery because there was a prison inmate in there!!! Apparently it was ok for me to be in there with him but not my baby!!!
I remember that from your accounts in the DDC. I am still over that one.

Thanks for the ideas for a ritual. I've been meaning to do that for a while, but haven't felt in the right headspace for it.

Mostly right now I'm healing, finishing up the birth story, and starting to crank my brain on ways to make sure that this never happens to another woman in that hospital ever again. There are some perks to being both a patient and a researcher -- you can work for change from various avenues.

I think as long as there are some women who are going to risk out of homebirth (like me and you) there is work to be done to help reduce the incidence of unnecessary trauma at hospital births. I'm starting a new fellowship in January (happy about that but sad that my mat leave is over ) and the program actively encourages collaborative, transdisciplinary work outside one's thesis topic.

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I can't do my regular morning post because somebody decided to get up with me at 5:30 and rob me of my quiet time :
but I need to give Maria a
and one for Tanya I hope you feel better.
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YG- Now I thought for sure Juice was the mod. Amy! You could always set the YG settings so that only members can see the messages. Protect our little secret even more.

Cards - I agree that the list can be given, but with my assignment highlighted. I'll do extra credit if I have time, but it's nice not having to commit up front.

I need a "brrrr" smilie. It's going to be 20 degrees tonight. I know, I know. It's practically a sauna to some of you! But I'm sleeping in sweats!
I checked, and only members can see the YG messages, and new members have to be approved.

I agree about the cards. I might want to send more than one but only being required to send one is nice.

As for 20 degrees:
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maria, witt and tanya - hope your immune system is kicking in nicely by now. maria, it's great that you feel able to work to make sure these horrendous experiences don't repeat for other women. More power to your elbow!
off to town now with dd alone - god this seems like a challenge! Even sending a christmas card or two does...I am such a wimp these days!
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As for the cards, I wouldn't have enough made up to mail them to everyone, but I have plenty that I could email to anyone who requested one! PM me if that's the case.

1. When did you first find MDC? How long did you lurk before joining?
My sister found MDC first when she was PG about a year before me. When I told her I was preggers she led me to you guys! and I joined right away.

2. What drew you to MDC? (area(s) of interest)
I've always been interested in extended BFing (I nursed until I was almost 5!), CDing, and GD.

3. What kept you here?
My DDC buddies! I also met some people on the FYT IRL and they are GREAT! Oh yeah, and bumbo seat discussions! j/k

4. What new things have you picked up from being here that you perhaps never considered/ knew about/ thought you'd subscribe to?
Delayed/no vax ... I'm still not certain on that debate, I'm still researching. EC ... I don't think I'd do it, but I no longer think of it as a crazy idea.

DS just woke up, gotta go.

Laura, Troy, Seth 6.24.06 , and Aaron 7.13.09
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