My ds was 4 weeks old, my in-laws were visiting. My FIL was holding ds and ds was smacking his lips (looking for the boob). FIL says, "You look like you need some chewing tobacco." Before I could recover from the shock of that being said to my tiny baby, ds spits up all over FIL. FIL says, "They need to quit feeding you that sour milk and give you beer." WTF. I know he's joking but still...
Whoa...the tobacco and beer comments are really off the wall.
When my 2-month old was feeding a bit too eagerly, one of my mom's friends made the comment, "You should really feed her less often." Then she turned to the baby and cooed, "You don't want to be big boned like your mama, do you, sugar?"
Hello? I have been in shape all my life, and, even now, I am only just slightly overweight because of the pregnancy...
Originally Posted by juliansmom
Whoa...the tobacco and beer comments are really off the wall.
When my 2-month old was feeding a bit too eagerly, one of my mom's friends made the comment, "You should really feed her less often." Then she turned to the baby and cooed, "You don't want to be big boned like your mama, do you, sugar?"
Hello? I have been in shape all my life, and, even now, I am only just slightly overweight because of the pregnancy...
Wow. How immensely rude.
I'm sorry, but the chewing tobacco comment was kinda funny.
A stranger (an old man) came up and said to my first dd when she was a baby: "It's hard raising a mommy, isn't it? But if you try real hard, she might turn out okay after all." And then he walked away, not a word directed at me.
I thought the tobacco/beer comments were funny. Not so much the big-boned one though.
Some skeezy, gross guy on the bus the other day was talking just to my daughter, not to me, about how pretty soon she was going to be "bossing mommy in the kitchen." Huh????
A guy in a coffee shop once looked at my DD (who was dressed almost head to toe in pink) and said "Aww, you're a lovely little guy, aren't you? How old are you?" I smiled and said "SHE is 4 months." He got up to leave a few minutes later and then patted DD on the head and said "Well, hopefully someday you'll look like a girl." I was gobsmacked!
I also had DD in a sling one time, waiting in line to pay at the store, and the woman behind me kept talking to DD, who was chewing on the edge of the sling. She kept saying "I bet your mummy won't give you a pacifier, will she? Poor thing. I bet your mummy doesn't believe in them and thinks they're evil or something. Poor little lamb." WTF?? Passive aggressive much?
I was in the drive-through at the bank the other day. DS was in the back crying pretty adamantly. He really doesn't like to be in the car unless it is moving, and even then not too thrilled. The teller heard him through the speaker and said, "you better go feed that baby!"
I didn't think it was so rude, just wierd that she would assume and suggest to me that he is hungry, as if that's the only reason he might be crying. And tell me to do s/t to soothe him. "Um, OK, thanks for the suggestion!"
two of my friends and i were leaving a popular restuarant with our daughters, when a guy and his girlfriend came up to us and started talking to my dd (about 9mos at the time). i was just finishing up a phone call to dh, and this couple kept trying to talk to dd and i (i think they were a little drunk). they waited until i hung up my phone and then asked me all of the usual questions, "boy or girl?" (she was bundled in a gender neutral coat and blanket) "how old?" "what's her name?". then the guy told dd how "one day 20 years from now you'll be going out with your girlfriends for a night on the town! just be careful! don't drink and drive, and ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!"
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and i promptly chimed in, "that's right, you always want to wear your seatbelt when you're in a car!" they staggered into the restaurant, while the girlfriend slapped the guy's arm and scolded him for telling a baby to use a condom. my friends and i couldn't believe he told my daughter that! certainly one day i want her to have a healthy fulfilling sex life as an adult, but i think 9mos is a little young for her first sex-ed lesson!
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When dd1 was 14 mon. I took her to the ped. for an eval on her dark undereye circles. While talking to ped. dd1 wanted to nurse. The ped said" Oh you need to stop that right now! After 6 mon. breast milk is nothing but water." I quoted AAP and WHO statistics and she said,"I hate it when people like you go around quoting things you know nothing about."
Then as we were leaving she said to dd, "Goodbye little girl, I hope your mom decides to quit spoiling you and raise you right!"
this lady at the mall asked my dd whether she was flirting with her husband. I thought it was a strange thing to ask a baby even if she was smiling at her dh. I'm pretty sure she was kidding though but still..
and Oh my mom, who I don't talk to anymore, told my dd when she was only three weeks old how she couldn't wait till she was going to get a spanking from me. I wanted to say, what makes you think I'm going to be as abusive towards my children as you were.
Originally Posted by BelgianSheepDog
Some skeezy, gross guy on the bus the other day was talking just to my daughter, not to me, about how pretty soon she was going to be "bossing mommy in the kitchen." Huh????
Okay, he didn't say it to the baby, but it's the strangest thing anyone's said about my baby - we were in a small restaurant when an older man noticed 3 month old DS and said, "I didn't know those were on the menu!"
Originally Posted by rag & bone gal
Okay, he didn't say it to the baby, but it's the strangest thing anyone's said about my baby - we were in a small restaurant when an older man noticed 3 month old DS and said, "I didn't know those were on the menu!"
I guess when this old guy came up to us in the store looked at him and said your way cuter than you big brother WTF, as if the baby can understand that, but my poor 5yo did. He was very upset about not being cute anymore, he still is, but why do people do that it seem like once a kid is like 4-5 or something, people no longer give them compliments GGGRRR
my mom still quotes this one to this day: we were in the grocery store (i was about 1 year old) and a lady comes up to my mom and says "Oh was a sweetheart, you sure got your mama's thighs didn't you?"
And I did! But i think it traumized my mom. She hates her thighs! (she's a size 4 so yeah...
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Then tonight i was so irritated, DS was in my ERGO so that people wouldn't touch him so much, (people still honk his nose, he HATES that and everyone does it, drives me nuts) as i'm a bit paranoid as we're getting over our THIRD COLD in a row, and this guy says "Awww, what did your mommy do to you? Making you sick? Not taking care of you?" I was shocked and dismayed, as i am a great mama to DS and him getting sick is not MY fault its people like him that keep poking at him and trying to kiss his face! (i barely know this guy but see him every week).
Originally Posted by My Three Boys
My MIL, unprovoked and unasked, upon seeing dd for the first time said, "She's really beautiful, and she can have surgery to pin back her ears."
Ummmmm . . . I didn't think that they stuck out!
How rude! this reminds me of the time my grandma asked me why my dd's nose was so flat.
here's a pic of her, btw, judge for yourself.
Originally Posted by juliansmom
Whoa...the tobacco and beer comments are really off the wall.
When my 2-month old was feeding a bit too eagerly, one of my mom's friends made the comment, "You should really feed her less often." Then she turned to the baby and cooed, "You don't want to be big boned like your mama, do you, sugar?"
Hello? I have been in shape all my life, and, even now, I am only just slightly overweight because of the pregnancy...
What jerks? I had a friend's aunt say that to me... It really hurt... She said that I shouldn't feed the baby so much, bc I didn't want the baby to be fat... I am not on the slim side, but I am not so big either... then she referred to me as a "big girl"
I have had relatives say to my ds: "mommy is gonna have you spoiled... I am not going to spoil you... I know that you need to cry." I have been sad about the fact that this means that I don't have any baby sitting options except for my friends, bc I feel like they might take a babysitting opportunity to try and teach my "spoiled" ds a lesson. So I stay home to spoil him myself, or go to places that will accept my ds accompanying me.
Oh and lets not forget this one: My Dh and I both identify as African American, and my ds is the splitting image of my dh. except that he has my nose, and curls that neither of us have. Some woman in a store comes over to my ds and says, "Where are you going with all of that pretty hair. Tell mommy that you are going to be beating the girls off with sticks." Other relatives ask stupid questions like where he got his hair from (about 1 inch in diameter curls) and I stupidly answer from his gene pool... wtf. I mean, his hair is not going to get him a better job, or anything that matters... who cares. Its so annoying. I love my ds and I think that his hair is beautiful, but I don't believe in that good hair/ bad hair bs... All hair is good, unless it has robbed a bank!
Originally Posted by My Three Boys
Awww. Very cute! And, her nose looks beautiful! I don't know how to post a link or I'd show you my dd's ears!!
I can't believe the number of "fat" comments. What are people thinking???
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Thank you! If you go to photobucket.com or any other hosting website, you can copy and paste the URL . did that make sense? I'm not very good at giving directions.
We were visiting my cousin after she had her dd and her pastor was there also. He walks up to Lilly, takes her hand and says, "So, what are you?" I said, "She's an alien, we found her in the woods, and we are trying to raise her as a human. How are we doing?" He just gave me this really confused look and started talking to someone else. I know he was asking what gender she was, but first of all she was wearing a pink dress, and secondly, that was IMO a rude way to ask. My cousin still laughs about it though.
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