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Autistic pagan mama with five kiddos on the spectrum, learning through living life.
She might be trying to help you, if the police assumed that you are currently in a DV situation (which I very much hope you're not). Also, to ascertain whether the baby is witnessing abuse. I hope his head is OK, if it was bad enough for you to want to call 9-1-1. She probably wants to see if you and the baby might need help.
If everything is how you say it is, then I wouldn't worry about CPS seeing your child or your home. I honestly don't understand the paranoia about them, nor refusing to talk to them without a warrant. Actually, demanding a warrant when you "have nothing to hide" is what seems fishy.
Am I the only who would just cooperate and be done with it? Demanding a warrant when there isn't a problem seems like it might send up red flags when there aren't any. HOWEVER, if I knew there was something actually wrong it might be nice security to ensure my defense is in order (pediatrician and medical records, lawyer, etc), otherwise I just don't understand not cooperating and getting it over with. Sorry.
ok I called her back and she actaully answered this time.
I asked, "may I ask what this is regarding?"
stupid long story short: I was at my husbands house, my son was in my arms I was walking to the kitchen, he leaned back and hit his head on the wall, he started crying, I wanted to call 9-1-1 my husband told me to hang up the phone and we would take him to the e.r. ourselves since we would get there faster anyways, and wouldn't have to pay out of pocket for an ambulance ride. no one answered, I hung up.
5 minutes later the baby is fine 10 minutes after the the police are at my door.
of course it looks bad because i'm upset that the baby is upset and you can tell we've both been crying.
I explain what happend and they take our information and do a report since they had to come out to the house and while they are running our information a skeleton in the closet comes back to re-visit us.
a judge issued a temporary restraining order a few years back and we thought it had expired. we didn't know it was something that we had to get removed.
anyways they arrested my husband for violating the order.
she said her visit was regarding this incident that happend a few weeks ago.
she said she could go to the house or I could meet her in the office she said she needs to see the baby.
yea I understand.
and you are right, it is not a dv situation but there was one incident where he did hit me and I called the police. he went to jail and when he got out we went to counseling and he went to classes.
since then everything has been fine.
the reason I called was because I had never heard him cry like that, I thought he was seriously injured but he was ok.
I understand what it could've looked like given the past circumstances but if we needed the help I would most certainly not be afraid to ask.
I am shocked - absolutely shocked, that NO ONE that I have seen, (forgive me if I missed it) has posted anything regarding your spouse hitting you. It is inexcusable and most abusers don't just change. I question your judgement because he hit you and when he got out of jail you stayed with him. Your child needs to be your #1 priority and being around an abusive parent is not in his, or your, best interest.
I have dealt with CPS before and I hope, sincerely hope, that your situation improves, in more ways than one.
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