ITA with all the other ladies here! Don't worry about it. I personally own a bouncy chair, swing, activity gym, exersaucer & am planning to buy a johnny jumper soon! I don't use these all every day, but they are convenient for small bits of time. For example: when I shower, he is in his bouncy chair (love the vibrating thingy) in the bathroom so I can talk to him/hear him if he cries. I usually play with him when he is under his activity gym, but it is nice to run into the other room to change out the laundry, or sit next to him & fold laundry/pay bills, etc. The swing is great for times when he wants to be lulled WHILE asleep (not just TO sleep). He often takes a nap in it. I put him in when he starts rubbing his eyes with a ***gasp***
pacifier!!! He looks around, but there is nothing stimulating near him, so he is able to relax & nod off happily. The exersaucer I see as being like an activity gym, but upright...he just started using this & loves being able to "stand" & swing his rattle-keys without hitting himself in the head!
Personally I prefer to have several different things to put him in as he is less likely to get attached to just one thing. Same thing with his sleeping -- sometimes I put him down, sometimes I hold him, sometimes he is in the swing, etc., etc.
That said, it wasn't until just in the past few weeks that he has started being happy for longer periods of time without me -- so I didn't leave him alone very often. Yes, the kitchen has very few clean dishes, the laundry is done only when we run out of clothes, and you have to dig for miles to find out what our coffee table looks like!
I've found that he likes to look at new things -- he actually gets bored when we're in the house all day -- then he fusses. If I go out for an hour or two -- or even for a walk, when we get back, he is happier. Also, at about 3 - 3 1/2 months, I started slinging him where he sat cross legged with his back leaning against me. I had to hold him a bit as he wasn't really great at head support, but he
d to look out at everything -- although we still couldn't get anything done -- we'd just walk, back & forth, & back & forth &.....
K, I've rambled on terribly & need to make a point, so let me be succinct:
1. Change Dr. Sears' "Wearing your baby...." to holding your baby
or interacting with or touching your baby.
2. I think the johnny jumper
is probably one of the best baby holders - if she's anything like my ds, getting to jump up & down would make him laugh & laugh... but check them out first, cause I thought you weren't supposed to use them until 6 months.. or maybe it was 4?
3. I think everyone would agree that AP is first & foremost about responding to the needs of your child. If your child prefers not to be slung, & would rather a stroller, than you would be doing her a disservice to insist on the sling...
4. I don't know how others sling their child & do housework, but the only thing I could do was vacuum -- anything that required bending necessitated me holding my ds with one hand, which made it difficult /impossible to do the task!
5. I live on fruit, granola bars, string cheese, canned soup/stew, & slimfasts some days!
6. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR DOING YOUR BEST, YOU ARE AN A +++++++++++++, #1,