I am actually a phlebotomist, and drawing blood is what I used to do for a living. (Refused to do it once I found out I was pregnant due to the risk of a needle stick, and have only drawn DH since.)
I am not great with children owing to the fact that I have never really had to draw them much. (No ped ward at the hospital I trained at, and then I transferred to a job where I drew only elderly people in their homes.) When I AM confronted with having to draw a child, I feel around with my finger in both arms and both wrists before I do anything. IF I find a great vein, I will draw it. If not, I will NOT draw a mediocre vein. And I never, ever, ever fish around on anyone. I might push the advance or draw the needle straight back, but that is all. I know my limits and then offer the parents the options they have available to them. Heel and finger sticks are easier for me, but I prefer not to do them if I can avoid it because it takes forever and the blood clots too easily. I now work (well, when I go back to work) in the lab itself and take a lot of phone calls. If someone asks, I send them to the people who are extremely experienced at drawing children.
Following my "policy", I have only once ever not been able to get blood from a child I have stuck. And it should be noted that we have a real policy at my hospital that NOBODY sticks ANY patient more than twice. With children, if for some reason I don't get blood the first time or decide I am not going to stick them at all, I call the NICU and ask them if I can send the child up.
So, what I am trying to say is there is NO REASON why this should have happened to your daughter. Saying someone is "not a bleeder" is code for "I didn't do this right but don't want to admit it." While it is true that some people bleed more than others, it is possible to get blood from everyone.
Sorry I went on about this, but it is a subject that makes me
angry. Phlebotomists (or whoever is drawing blood) should know their limits and not be ashamed to admit them.
The patient comes first!!!!
I am sooooo soooo soooo sorry for you dd. Give her lots of extra hugs.