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#1 of 4 Old 07-13-2007, 07:55 PM - Thread Starter
 
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ok we decided that this baby #3 was going to be our last, we now have three girls and I have a teenage stepdaughter (visits w/ us)
I dont know if I'm going insane or what!
I am SO attached to this new baby girl, I think because all I think about is "she is my last" I get all choked up when I'm away from her, I just went back to work part time, I get choked up when I come home to her, when I talk about her
then I just think maybe I want another one, DH is down for it but we REALLY cant afford it

besides financially I dont know if I really could handle 4 kids, how do you get over the last child syndrome????


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I'm pondering that question myself.

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i just had baby #3, too...he's 8 weeks old today! we are positive we don't want 4 but i am already mourning the loss of my childbearing years! my husband has a grown daughter whom we just finished helping through college & we have a young woman moving in with us in 2 weeks to start college. there is no time, money or space for another baby!?

what i've decided to do is get a tattoo signifying this transition in my life. i'm getting a "koru" (hence, my user name that i just changed) which is a polynesian spiral symbol meaning "new life, rebirth, peace & tranquility." the koru actually represents the opening frond of a new fern. i need some sort of physical declaration & reminder that this part of my life is complete & perfect!

i also try & focus on all the wonderful new things we will be able to experience as a family as our children continue to grow & change. having babies & toddlers is no easy task! not that i'm trying to rush my babe's infancy but because i know he's my last, there's an ability to plan differently for life. i.e....i've been obsessed with not being able to take family bike rides! also, i've been working on my doula & childbirth educator certifications & now i know i will be able to move forward with these goals & aspirations. it feels good.

all that said, though, i'm not sure we mamas will ever be able to completely come to terms with the loss of these years. they are so very unique & magical!

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wow Koru that is great, I love your response and I LOVE the idea of the tattoo to symbolize all that, I may have to go that route!

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