i just had baby #3, too...he's 8 weeks old today! we are positive we don't want 4 but i am already mourning the loss of my childbearing years! my husband has a grown daughter whom we just finished helping through college & we have a young woman moving in with us in 2 weeks to start college. there is no time, money or space for another baby!?
what i've decided to do is get a tattoo signifying this transition in my life. i'm getting a "koru" (hence, my user name that i just changed) which is a polynesian spiral symbol meaning "new life, rebirth, peace & tranquility." the koru actually represents the opening frond of a new fern. i need some sort of physical declaration & reminder that this part of my life is complete & perfect!
i also try & focus on all the wonderful new things we will be able to experience as a family as our children continue to grow & change. having babies & toddlers is no easy task! not that i'm trying to rush my babe's infancy but because i know he's my last, there's an ability to plan differently for life. i.e....i've been obsessed with not being able to take family bike rides! also, i've been working on my doula & childbirth educator certifications & now i know i will be able to move forward with these goals & aspirations. it feels good.
all that said, though, i'm not sure we mamas will ever be able to completely come to terms with the loss of these years. they are so very unique & magical!