My little dumpling is 9 1/2 weeks old, and will only go in a carrier if he is asleep. If I put him in it awake he will cry, squirm, push with his arms and make uncomfortable grunting noises. He would like to be carried however, perched up high on my shoulder, arms hanging over the other side. I don't mind carrying him like this but my arms get too tired. I have considered using duct tape to keep him up there
! Anyway, I feel frustrated because before he was born, I was going to be SO AP. Now, I am starting to dislike putting him in a carrier because he seems to dislike it so. He wants my arms holding him all the time ! So instead when he falls asleep at the boob I put him down somewhere instead of carrying him. He has colic and Dr. Sears reccommends at least 4 hours of baby wearing a day! My son doesnt nap that long and seems to hate it anyway. any advice anyone ?
Congratultions on your lil dumpling! My lil pumpkin sounds similar. She is now 4 months old and AP is natural but new to us. My dd would fuss in my maya sling all the time unless I was moving constantly! When she was 2 months finally figured out she wanted her legs free,so I adjusted the sling to do that but I stll had to move constantly. So I used the sling less and less. I decided to use the sling only when I am moving constantly like shopping or going for walks. I still hold her lots and my arm gets numb, but I don't feel guilty about this. I have put her in the sling in her fav position, xactly like you decribed, high on my left shoulder, arms dangling, the sling does help a little. We co-sleep and bf ad are doing the best we can.
I did research other slings tho. I just ordered one to mostly carry her on my back, I hope it works better for us
Our baby didn't like either the sling or the baby carrier until recently. We did use the carrier to calm him, but we had to put up with some initial crying every time we put him in. But now he doesn't cry even as we put him on. He's now 5 months old. On Monday I took him for a 45 minute walk in the baby carrier (Kelty Kangaroo) facing inward, which used to make him cry. He was totally mellow, it helped him calm down from a stimulating weekend with his grandparents.
I think it's okay to put the baby down when he's asleep. You should do what your baby likes about this, what helps him. Dr. Sears' guideline isn't a hard and fast rule, it's a way to help many babies stay groovy, but your baby isn't one of them. Luckily, you are paying attention and you love him, so you know you are doing the right thing.
P.S. about the colic: we found that the football hold, with the baby draped over the forearm with his head in my elbow crook, worked really well. Our baby liked the pressure on his abdomen. We were already dancing with him and added this modification when we read the
Sears book, and it really added something. He also liked to be held sitting up with my forearm across his body in that position.
If it's just a matter of re-organizing him at the end of the day and not a digestive problem, the colic should go away pretty soon.