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#1 of 15 Old 08-03-2003, 07:54 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Like the other thread, What was the worst advice anyone told you about being a parent?

What is the best advice anyone ever gave you about being a parent?

I'll think on it and post later, perhaps nap when she naps would be right up there....
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Just to enjoy the baby. I think someone here said that. We're havin' a blast!

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Well right after the baby was born while I was in the hospital I was greatful for the advice to bring the boppy to sit on.

However I think the best advice that I received was not to worry about what the "experts" say on bringing the baby into bed and just do it. Bringing Martie into bed with us allowed us precious sleep, good bonding, and a great breastfeeding relationship. She transitioned into her crib easily, and we still take naps together during the day.
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"Just hold your newborn constantly, and don't worry about everything else you're not getting done."

"You can pump and work."
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Since I have all sisters and nieces, I was a bit worried about how to parent my boy. I asked the mom of a good friend for advice, since she has 3 boys that have all turned out to be pretty amazing men. Her advice?

"Just show them as much love as you can!"

OK, I can do that!
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You will get tons of advice form family, friends, health workers, neighbours, strangers. Just take it all on board, and then decide what works for you and your baby! YOUR way is the right way
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Listen to your gut.
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Hmmm, advice about cosleeping and bfing on cue was among the most sensible I heard. I mostly heard all the old tired platitudes and some really stupid stuff, too. But I have gotten nice comments, such as how happy and content dd looks (especially when in the carrier/sling ), and that I must be doing my job right. My bil actually tried to give me feeding advice for her when she was 3 weeks old, along the lines of how to extend the time period between feedings : . I think "Enjoy her" and "Hold her" has been the best I have gotten, though.
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I totally agree with "follow your instinct". My midwives told me that during my first pregnancy and when I had Noah, it was so true. I later found out my *instinct* had a name "attatchment parenting"!
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Just to enjoy the baby.
And not worry what's coming next--just take things one day at a time.

mostly WAHM, sometimes WOHM to my : two boys.
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From my mama herself....she said (through tears, watching me with newborn dd) "I never have regretted a second of holding you all (my brother and I)! Just hold her, you won't ever spoil her by doing that." I have a great mama.
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With my first, my mom said "Breastfeed!".

With my second, my ped "Just hold him lots and feed him when he's hungry". The best advice really, if you do that you're basically AP'ing because that covers it all.

Mostly from people I know IRL (even my second time around when I'm certainly not asking advice) I get the dumb ol' mainstream advice.
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The best advice I got was to check out AP parenting (a friend recommended the Dr. Sears Baby Book). I had never heard the term "AP", but once I started reading the book I identified immediately.

On a different note, someone recommended a Britax car seat. She said it was worth the price for the piece of mind of knowing for sure it was installed properly and that DD would be easily strapped in and out of it. As an owner of a Britax seat and a non Britax seat, I am the world's biggest cheerleader for the Britax!
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2 things I was told by friends...

"if you don't hold your baby now, when will you hold them?"

Excellent advice since carrying around my 46 lb 4 yr old is not really possible to do daily But it's so sweet to carry my 10 month around.

"I'd rather look back on the great times I'd spent with my kids than look back on how clean my house was"

Great advice given to me when I'd commented on how not tidy my home was.

Stephanie, mom to 3 big girls ('94, '99 & '02) and to my little guy (12/30/09) intact & CD'ed!
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