So here's the story:
I have been watching a friend's baby for about 4 months now. She is currently 9 mo. old. I have 18 month-old twins (b/g). I only have her once a week and often we will skip a week. Previous to her coming to our house she was watched at home by either her mom or dad so no real social experience.
Well, let's just say.... it's not going so well. The thing is, she seems miserable! She is VERY sensitive and I know the twins overwhelm her sometimes. But even things like today she put something inappropriate in her mouth and I said (as I usually do to my own kids) "no, no, not in your mouth" in a very sweet sing-songy voice. She burst into hesterics and would not stop for over an hour. I tried holding her, rocking her, talking to her, leaving her alone in the room she sleeps in (thinking maybe she just needed a break from us), everything I could think of. Are there babies that are just like this or do you think something is wrong with her?
In the four months she's been here I've never once seen her smiling, goo, babble, laugh, none of that cute baby stuff. She either has a terrified look on her face or is crying, and really we are nice people!!!! We sing songs, read books, play on the floor, I mean my own kids seem to have a ball and I love being a SAHM, it's not like I walk around in combat boots with a scowl on all day!
At first I thought she was just in an unfamililar place and needed to get used to us but that doesn't seem like it has happened yet. I know it is tough because we don't see each other very often. The other thing is that I've had her when she's sick, teething, etc. and none of that seems to change her disposition. Seriously, if either one of the twins had been like this as a baby I don't know what I would have done. I just feel bad because I feel like she is unhappy here but I don't really know how to tell her parents either. I'm wondering if it could be a sensory issue???? Well sorry for the rambling vent I just have no experience (luckily) with this type of child. TIA for any input.
SAHM to my surprise twins M&W (7/06) and my darling W (1/09) Expecting another little bean this summer